Virgin roll call :)

[Psychedelicious]

Here here in the state of fear!

OoOh roll call eh?

Hey where is the poll option for people who aren't virgins? Or it just for people who are? It might be nice to compare all the no and yes answers..

 

[Interzone]

You don't have to be that young to be able :]

I know that -- I want to take advantage while I'm young.

 

[bsebring]

I'm 22, a virgin and I don't really care anymore. Had one relationship that knocked my confidence off balance and I will never venture in that area ever again. I seem to attract unstable people that think they can use people for their own agenda (what ever that might be).

I'm slightly ashamed and it does annoy me sometimes considering everyone I know and talk to thinks they are above me in some way or another because they have had sex, but in the end I don't need to attain acceptance off another human. I don't need a relationship that will just end up dying anyway. I go to work, sit on my arse, go home, eat, watch TV, play video games and this is how it will always be. This is not being a defeatist, this is just reality.

I accept it.

It doesn't have to be that way :/ life goes in so many directions. That was just one part of your life and ya it sucks but not everyone is as immature as the ones in your past. There are decent people out there, it's just harder to come across them. However, it's up to you to want more than you think you deserve. Not only relationship wise but in every aspect of your life.

 

[Anti Matter]

It doesn't have to be that way :/ life goes in so many directions. That was just one part of your life and ya it sucks but not everyone is as immature as the ones in your past. There are decent people out there, it's just harder to come across them. However, it's up to you to want more than you think you deserve. Not only relationship wise but in every aspect of your life.

I suppose I am young still. I have self confidence issues that need to be worked on. I can't really meet new decent people when I don't go out, every person I meet I think they are automatically above me and that I am a piece of mud on their shoes, women like confidence, I have none.

Yes I have self confidence issues I just don't know how to work on them, so this is why I have learned to accept what is my future.

 

[Interzone]

I suppose I am young still. I have self confidence issues that need to be worked on. I can't really meet new decent people when I don't go out, every person I meet I think they are automatically above me and that I am a piece of mud on their shoes, women like confidence, I have none.

Yes I have self confidence issues I just don't know how to work on them, so this is why I have learned to accept what is my future.

I feel the same way about a lot of things. I just feel as if I don't know how to work them out so I become frustrated, as you have become Anti Matter.

There is no guide to fix self-confidence or other anxiety issues.

 

[Anti Matter]

I feel the same way about a lot of things. I just feel as if I don't know how to work them out so I become frustrated, as you have become Anti Matter.

There is no guide to fix self-confidence or other anxiety issues.

It's ok, I have my PC. That's all I need right? Bah.

 

[bsebring]

I feel the same way about a lot of things. I just feel as if I don't know how to work them out so I become frustrated, as you have become Anti Matter.

There is no guide to fix self-confidence or other anxiety issues.

I know, I mean that's why we're all here. I was talking to my dad about it and he said that being in your 20s is such a hard adjustment and it was one of the most venerable times in his life. But things do adjust for the better after a while. It's a slow process to gain self esteem but once things start becoming more secure in life things will get better. It just takes time.

 

[userremoved]

I know, I mean that's why we're all here. I was talking to my dad about it and he said that being in your 20s is such a hard adjustment and it was one of the most venerable times in his life. But things do adjust for the better after a while. It's a slow process to gain self esteem but once things start becoming more secure in life things will get better. It just takes time.

Nope I think that only applies to normal people. From my perspective things really aren't that much better.

 

[EasySkanking]

Virgin.... maybe a little ashamed of it... but more depressed about it. I get super horny at times and it just depresses me that I can't do anything to relieve it. It's not just a 'physical' desire that I seek but an emotional/romantic feeling. Some day! Some day!

 

[Aussie_Lad]

33, and a bit impartial. I would like sex, but it has to be with the right woman. I often feel that I will be a virgin for my entire life, and if that is the case I gotta get used to it, so there is no need to obsess over sex.

 

[Ignace]

I'm a 17(18 in just a bit more than a month) virgin. Yes, I would like to get laid. xD

 

[Section_31]

27, married and not a virgin!

I kinda wish id waited though. I was 16, she was older than me, we knew eachother for a week, and honestly i was so nervous i didnt do very well. I regretted losing it like that.

I wouldnt necesarily have save dit for marriage, but i would have liked it to be alot more meaningful. Afterwards i was like "woa....was THAT it??? i dont think i did it right..."

 

[Silentknight]

Re: Here here in the state of fear!

OoOh roll call eh?

Hey where is the poll option for people who aren't virgins? Or it just for people who are? It might be nice to compare all the no and yes answers..

I'm sorry about that I had thought about adding an option for non-virgins but then it dawned on me that it would probably leave alot of us virgins more depressed if we were to see more people answering non-virgin then any other option since it would mean that us virgins can't blame it mostly on social anxiety and I didn't want to risk it.

 

[bsebring]

Virgin.... maybe a little ashamed of it... but more depressed about it. I get super horny at times and it just depresses me that I can't do anything to relieve it. It's not just a 'physical' desire that I seek but an emotional/romantic feeling. Some day! Some day!

never realized how sexually frustrated everyone on here is. nice to kno i'm not the only one lol

 

[LookingForward]

never realized how sexually frustrated everyone on here is. nice to kno i'm not the only one lol

Hey, hasn't anyone ever heard of that little piece of paradise specifically built for the sexually frustrated, Amsterdam.......

 

[Silentknight]

Hey, hasn't anyone ever heard of that little piece of paradise specifically built for the sexually frustrated, Amsterdam.......

I'm not sure if it's sexual frustration as much as it's intimacy frustration I mean at least for me when I think of sex, as good as the physical may be I think it's the intimacy you feel trusting and caring for someone so much and knowing that this person trust & cares about you that I long for and I'm sure most here want otherwise most of us virgins probably would have gone to Amsterdam.

 

[JamesSmith]

Could someone explain to me why so many people on here are depressed because they are virgins? I still don't understand why you feel bad because you haven't had sex before. It seems to me that it's kind of a "grass is greener on the other side" theory. I don't see many non-virgins saying they aren't depressed anymore just because they've had sex before.

 

[Anti Matter]

Could someone explain to me why so many people on here are depressed because they are virgins? I still don't understand why you feel bad because you haven't had sex before. It seems to me that it's kind of a "grass is greener on the other side" theory. I don't see many non-virgins saying they aren't depressed anymore just because they've had sex before.

Because society deems you to be not "normal" if you haven't had sex before. Considering the amount of sex related advertising there is in the media etc it just makes things 10x worse. I can't walk down a road without seeing something that is sex related advertised.

Also it's amazing how people seem to think you are beneath them because you haven't had the "experience" they have had. You are a piece of crap to them and this is the only way they can feel superior to another human in 100% conformation that they are superior.

Basically I am depressed about it because I hate being a piece of crap.

 

[userremoved]

Because society deems you to be not "normal" if you haven't had sex before.

It's not just what society deems, it literally isn't normal. From what I've seen unless a person is bound by some kind of weird moral restaint (religion/parents ect) they'll develop a normal sex drive, build relationships with those they're attracted to and eventually something will happen. So yeah it's far from normal and not just because MTV says so.

 

[Anti Matter]

It's not just what society deems, it literally isn't normal. From what I've seen unless a person is bound by some kind of weird moral restaint (religion/parents ect) they'll develop a normal sex drive, build relationships with those they're attracted to and eventually something will happen. So yeah it's far from normal and not just because MTV says so.

I was just trying to say that society has a big part in rubbing it in your face.