Virgin roll call :)

[sorrow1]

Overall Sex is overated. Though my experenciences are limted to beer goggle induced one night stands. Im sure its great with the right person.
Like anythng society deems normal it is in the end overhyped. At the end of the day most people dont really care if you have or havent you just think in your mind its important because its always talked about. Theyre have many famous people who lost their vrgnity late in life and nobody thinks any less of them.

 

[da_illest101]

I'm 23 and still am one. probably will remain one since i'm scared of intimacy

 

[JamesSmith]

Because society deems you to be not "normal" if you haven't had sex before.

Why do we have to be "normal?" Should we really care what people think who actually feel the need to put people down for something that you haven't experienced and they have? The people that say that don't sound like "normal" people to me. They sound like prejudiced people.

 

[Sick Nick]

27 years and counting. FML.

 

[forksandspoons]

At the end of the day most people dont really care if you have or havent you just think in your mind its important because its always talked about. Theyre have many famous people who lost their vrgnity late in life and nobody thinks any less of them.

I disagree. I don't know where you come from, but that is not the culture in America. People are defined by 3 things

1) Their head - How they think

2) Their hearts - What they feel

3) Their dicks - who they f***

 

[6string]

I wish I was still a virgin, or at least had less..it's not because of the quality of girls, or that there have been a huge amount..it's just that sex can be awfully stressful afterwards in many ways that you might not understand until you have. Although I have horrible mental ocd so it might be different for yall. Without my ocd it would be pretty great, especially with a gf..random hookups are not my style whatsoever

 

[Felgen]

It's not just what society deems, it literally isn't normal. From what I've seen unless a person is bound by some kind of weird moral restaint (religion/parents ect) they'll develop a normal sex drive, build relationships with those they're attracted to and eventually something will happen. So yeah it's far from normal and not just because MTV says so.

It's true that most 20-something guys have had sex, but most 25 year old virgins aren't the creepy nerds MTV wants us to think they are. Mark Twain was for instance never deemed as 'creepy' for losing it at 34. Nor was Sigmund Freud deemed as 'weird' for losing it at 30.

 

[Kinetik]

I lost my virginity at 20, but I've always thought that sex is overrated and not nearly as good as the hype surrounding it would have you believe. It's messy, it smells, and it's full of opportunities for awkwardness, incompatibilities and dissatisfaction. That's why I think virgins have a tough time living with the stigma more than anything. Then of course there's that left-out feeling which starts to irk them on a primal level. People want to feel desired and that their junk and genes are hot commodities. It sounds animalistic, but I really believe that's at the core of it. That's why it's so hard to take people seriously when they say things like "it's fine to be a virgin" or "it's good that you're waiting" because oftentimes it's a frustrating hang-up and not a conscious choice on the part of the virgin. As I said though, it's largely overrated, and sensation-wise you're probably better off loving yourself, so to speak.

 

[userremoved]

It's true that most 20-something guys have had sex, but most 25 year old virgins aren't the creepy nerds MTV wants us to think they are. Mark Twain was for instance never deemed as 'creepy' for losing it at 34. Nor was Sigmund Freud deemed as 'weird' for losing it at 30.

Haha thats because those guys were geniuses that contributed something great to society. No one would dare laugh at them lest they make themselves look like an illiterate loser. I'm sure if I discover a cure for cancer people wouldn't call me weird either.

 

[Lionheart]

I honestly don't care whether or not I'm a virgin for the time being. I certainly don't want to lose it while I'm still so young (only 17) and pregnancy is something I definitely and NEVER want to deal with. I'll be honest: I tend to get a lot of "urges" and I think about sex quite a lot, but having about 3 friends who got pregnant at around 14-15 years and hearing their stories about pregnancy gives me all the more reason to save myself up. As long as I don't die a virgin or become the next "40 year old virgin" then it's all good ::

I think you voted for "proud"?
but bzw Im 18 and never had a girlfriend and Im proud of it because not like many guys I would be happy even with 1 girlfriend for the rest of my life.

 

[Felgen]

Haha thats because those guys were geniuses that contributed something great to society. No one would dare laugh at them lest they make themselves look like an illiterate loser. I'm sure if I discover a cure for cancer people wouldn't call me weird either.

People called Michael Jackson weird and laughed at him. People call Bill Gates a nerd and blame him for the crappy Windows ME. Mark Twain was just as introverted and lacking in social skills as they are/were.

 

[userremoved]

Hmm good point.

 

[Anti Matter]

Why do we have to be "normal?" Should we really care what people think who actually feel the need to put people down for something that you haven't experienced and they have? The people that say that don't sound like "normal" people to me. They sound like prejudiced people.

Basically, everyone I have met one way or another thinks they are above you for this very reason of not being "normal" I use to word loosely. I don't want to fit in, I want to just have a nice night out without this retarded subject of being a virgin being brought up.

No matter who I chill out with or meet. This topic of conversation usually rears its ugly head.

I hate feeling like a twit basically.

 

[Untamed88]

I used to be a proud virgin, and I guess in a way I still am but Im 22 now and I am scared I will never lose it.

 

[Richey]

i think the more physically confident you are then the more likely you will probably lose it at some point ...i think if you just feel normal then its also possible but if you have a very low self esteem physically then you will probably never lose it unless someone else initiates everything.

i have only ever kissed and made out etc

 

[Ignace]

People called Michael Jackson weird and laughed at him. People call Bill Gates a nerd and blame him for the crappy Windows ME. Mark Twain was just as introverted and lacking in social skills as they are/were.

Warning: Fan post(just check my avatar::

That's because of jealousy I think. Since MJ's scandals, he wasn't very popular anymore, just his die-hard fans remained loyal. Other people believed the media, telling he was a child abuser. We'll never know the 100% truth, but now he's dead, everybody seems to be sorry about how they felt about him. He was one of the greatest persons ever lived. ::

/end fan post

 

[Ignace]

Hey, hasn't anyone ever heard of that little piece of paradise specifically built for the sexually frustrated, Amsterdam.......

I'm gonna try our local *peeps* first, after that, go Amsterdam !

 

[Felgen]

Warning: Fan post(just check my avatar::

That's because of jealousy I think. Since MJ's scandals, he wasn't very popular anymore, just his die-hard fans remained loyal. Other people believed the media, telling he was a child abuser. We'll never know the 100% truth, but now he's dead, everybody seems to be sorry about how they felt about him. He was one of the greatest persons ever lived. ::

/end fan post

The media gossips about people who keep their privacy a secret. They also treat the ones who are full of themselves (Bono, Axl Rose and so on) far better than the shy ones (like Michael Jackson).

 

[JamesSmith]

People called Michael Jackson weird and laughed at him. People call Bill Gates a nerd and blame him for the crappy Windows ME. Mark Twain was just as introverted and lacking in social skills as they are/were.

Society, as a whole, can be very mean. No matter who you are and what you do, people will find a way to criticize you. Lots of people expect everyone to be a certain way, and one of those certain ways is not being a virgin. People are going to object to people being virgins, but they also object to Bill Gates being a nerd. Something to notice is there are advantages to being a nerd, and there are advantages to being a virgin. In Gates' case, he was very smart,and then used that intelligence to become a billionaire. So that "nerd weakness" was actually a strength, but what did a lot of people say about Gates? They said he was a nerd. A virgin has the benefit of having sex mean more when they have sex later in life. What I'm saying is society is stupid in a sense. They see something that looks different or weird to them and labels those people in a negative way. I think the people complaining about being virgins should stop listening to society's ignorance, and start thinking for themselves.

 

[Felgen]

Society, as a whole, can be very mean. No matter who you are and what you do, people will find a way to criticize you. Lots of people expect everyone to be a certain way, and one of those certain ways is not being a virgin. People are going to object to people being virgins, but they also object to Bill Gates being a nerd. Something to notice is there are advantages to being a nerd, and there are advantages to being a virgin. In Gates' case, he was very smart,and then used that intelligence to become a billionaire. So that "nerd weakness" was actually a strength, but what did a lot of people say about Gates? They said he was a nerd. A virgin has the benefit of having sex mean more when they have sex later in life. What I'm saying is society is stupid in a sense. They see something that looks different or weird to them and labels those people in a negative way. I think the people complaining about being virgins should stop listening to society's ignorance, and start thinking for themselves.

I don't think people would call him a nerd if it weren't for his profession and introverted personality, though. Compared to other people in their mid fifties, he's in good physical shape, has a good-looking wife and owns a Porsche 959.