Phoenixx
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It's hard explaining your issues to a spouse who doesn't necessarily understand. I feel like if someone doesn't understand then the less likely they are to listen or know how to offer support and thus they kind of shut down or don't know what to say. My husband is one of these people. He's lucky to have never had any issues with depression or anxiety. He's a simple introverted guy who takes things as they come. He doesn't worry about things that are out of his control. I really don't know how he does it. He doesn't understand why I have the issues I do, no matter how many times I've explained my past. He knows my upbringing wasn't perfect, but again, knowing that still doesn't allow him to understand exactly how I feel. I wish I could make him understand so he could comfort me better, but I can't. I just let him know how I feel and he just listens. He doesn't know what to say or do, so he stays quiet and often just holds me or hugs me and lets me rant or cry. Sometimes I wish he would know what to say to make me feel better, but I need to learn that it's not his responsibility and it's not fair to try to place that responsibility on him either. I need to figure out my own problems and how to deal with them. It's been a lifelong battle and I think it always will be.
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