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FountainandFairfax

FountainandFairfax

in a VAN down by the RIVER
theslowesthand said:
Hmm, i wonder if she likes me, or looks at all people the same way, and is just the "warm"/"hot" way she is???
The last time she we talked, she looked as bright & warm & friendly as the midday sun coming out from under the dark clouds.
Perhaps we are just on "friendly" terms, me being a regular customer whom she has "known" for about a year. Someone she trusts (it's been all good, i haven't put a foot wrong). And perhaps she smiles brightly & has a loving look in her eye for ALL of her "friends" & ALL of the customers?. I don't know.
I very much doubt i am "the one" for her, but could i be "ONE of the ones for her"???. I'm too scared to find out. I'm all about inaction. Do i suspect i'll be rejected by her, & thereby feel the feeling of rejection/etc again, & muck up the "thing" we have (if in fact it's a "thing" at all)???
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Your first mistake is caring what she thinks.

Social phobia allowing, speak your mind and enjoy yourself. Do your thing and women will be attracted to you, it may not be HER, but you will become more attractive to women in general if you focus on what you want and where you're going.

"Do you", in the parlance of the times. :D
 
theslowesthand

theslowesthand

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FountainandFairfax said:
Your first mistake is caring what she thinks.

Social phobia allowing, speak your mind and enjoy yourself. Do your thing and women will be attracted to you, it may not be HER, but you will become more attractive to women in general if you focus on what you want and where you're going.

"Do you", in the parlance of the times. :D
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I care what she thinks because she's the only woman who i have this "thing" with right now, and they are as rare as hen's teeth, so i worry about losing this "relationship", as i have nobody else (i don't go out, & just do shopping when i do go out). This thing may seem "commonplace" to you, but to me it's like GOLD.

I "like" her (i feel good when i see her). But i don't view myself as good enough for her (so i suspect it wouldn't work in practise). So i am settling for "this thing" for as long as it lasts. I have a strong habit (almost like an ocd habit) of never taking any risks at all with women. I simply tread the safest route only. IF women were to "come onto" ME, well i think i might take more risks, but THEY NEVER DO (or very seldom do; & such rare times i have not taken advantage of).

Thanks for your tips.
 
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PugofCrydee

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
There is an old Japanese legend that says, if you are having trouble getting to sleep it is because you are awake....

**looks back and forth with mysterious shifty eyes..**
 
theslowesthand

theslowesthand

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Just posting some new thoughts of mine on picking-up women .. trying to delve deeper.

If "KNOW" i won't succeed (in "chatting up"), then i tend to RATHER NOT TRY (as i would RATHER NOT FAIL - ie is it simply a PREFERENCE (which i feel compulsive about), not a "phobia"). If NOTHING will happen, then WHAT have i to LOSE???
Do i NOT QUITE believe all is hopeless? So i don't want to ruin my chances of picking up ... by trying (& failing) to pick up??? Will having a failed pickup ruin my chances with the woman (in the future)?
Or is it TOO PAINFUL to be rejected, as i'm REMINDED of the truth that i'm ugly & undesireable & freakish?

If she's not giving out flirtatious signals, does that mean she's not interested & will never be interested?
 
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FountainandFairfax

FountainandFairfax

in a VAN down by the RIVER
theslowesthand said:
Just posting some new thoughts of mine on picking-up women .. trying to delve deeper...
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Don't do it.

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Kiwong

Kiwong

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Looks like I did Ok as a social animal at a work love in last week. I ate dinner with people, I played guitar and sang, I took group photo, I had one on one conversations.

But I am happier home on my own. People = complication, like four seasons in one day. And it is not for me.
 
NathanielWingatePeaslee

NathanielWingatePeaslee

Iä! Iä! Cthulhu fhtagn!
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FountainandFairfax said:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K3VQULyT390
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I agree with all of this guy's basic points. I've been saying it for years, in fact. I've also long since predicted the increase.

I think he overestimates the internet factor though. It's not just about cable news competing with the internet. The same companies that started in cable are moving more onto the net, and even if they hadn't the same rules about cycles would still apply to any online "news" source.

Related, you've also got the problem of pro-war coverage by complicit media. A blatant example would be NBC and their subsidiaries coverage of the Gulf War while their parent company, GE, supplied the weapons systems for virtually all of that war--profiting ridiculously from it.

Less directly is that fact that war/military strikes in general make for good ratings, leading to most every "news" outlet making sure they get government approval on what and how they report these things in order for it all to run smoothly and profitably.
 
Jungle

Jungle

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I have always been wondering about the following american idiom : "I am good".

People reply with this, whenever they don't want to do something, be it, doing a favour, or being offered something, I would feel a bit offended if someone answered me this instead of "No, sorry" or "No, thanks" respectively.

Like for example, if someone asks me to light his cigarette, I would find it inconceivable to reply with "I am good", it would make me feel as if I was bragging about not doing him that favour, instead of apologizing.

What do you think?
 
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Graeme1988

Graeme1988

Hie yer hence from me heath!
Jungle said:
I have always been wondering about the following american idiom : "I am good".

People reply with this, whenever they don't want to do something, be it, doing a favour, or being offered something, I would feel a bit offended if someone answered me this instead of "No, sorry" or "No, thanks" respectively.

Like for example, if someone asks me to light his cigarette, I would find it inconceivable to reply with "I am good".

What do you think?
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Well, I find myself using that expression to decline something I’ve offered but don’t really want. But that’s only time I say it.

And, in your example about lighting a cigarette for someone, wouldn’t responding with ”I’m good” come across as you bragging about yourself in that situation? :question: At least that’s how it sounds to me.
 
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FountainandFairfax

FountainandFairfax

in a VAN down by the RIVER
I have always been wondering about the following american idiom : "I am good".

People reply with this, whenever they don't want to do something, be it, doing a favour, or being offered something, I would feel a bit offended if someone answered me this instead of "No, sorry" or "No, thanks" respectively.

Like for example, if someone asks me to light his cigarette, I would find it inconceivable to reply with "I am good", it would make me feel as if I was bragging about not doing him that favour, instead of apologizing.

What do you think?
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It may have arose from thug culture. "Street talk" tends to be curt, macho, and light on the grammatical correctness. :D

I rarely say it, and when I do it's usually sarcastic or jokingly.
 
Jungle

Jungle

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Graeme1988 said:
Well, I find myself using that expression to decline something I’ve offered but don’t really want. But that’s only time I say it.

And, in your example about lighting a cigarette for someone, wouldn’t responding with ”I’m good” come across as you bragging about yourself in that situation? :question: At least that’s how it sounds to me.
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I didn't employ the appropriate word, "bragging" was certainly a poor choice,
I think that if someone needs you, you shouldn't just say " I am good", it's not about your well-being, it's about them having to fix whatever problem they have.

I don't know.... Imagine, that you reply with "I am good" to a starving beggar asking you for food, I would interpret it as "I don't care about what problem you have, I am good, and that's what matters"

If you decline someone's help I think it's more okay to use that expression.

Oh, I thought it was exclusive to north america, apparently not.
 
Graeme1988

Graeme1988

Hie yer hence from me heath!
Jungle said:
I didn't employ the appropriate word, "bragging" was certainly a poor choice,
I think that if someone needs you, you shouldn't just say " I am good", it's not about your well-being, it's about them having to fix whatever problem they have.
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Oh! Got ya now... I assumed you meant responding after you helped someone. :eek:h:

Jungle said:
I don't know.... Imagine, that you reply with "I am good" to a starving beggar asking you for food, I would interpret it as "I don't care about what problem you have, I am good, and that's what matters"
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Oh, it definite would be inappropriate to say I'm good in that situation. And you'd just come across as a total c*nt.

Jungle said:
If you decline someone's help I think it's more okay to use that expression.

Oh, I thought it was exclusive to north america, apparently not.
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Saying in declining something is the only context I tend to use that expression in as well.
 
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