Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
I'm annoyed too (if you're talking about the videos)
:thumbdown: Same here.
I'm annoyed too (if you're talking about the videos)
Try not to let it get you down. It's cyclical. You just have to wait around for all of the inevitable divorces. What is the rate...65% or something?!
Here I was thinking all this time it was just an issue for guys. You're preaching to the choir.
There is something addictive in sadness
Something that randomly occurred to me this morning, an imperfect analogy:
Let's say you have a boat, and one day your boat springs a leak and sinks to the bottom of the ocean. That's fine; you weren't really using it much anyway. So you let your boat sit down there for a few years, because you have other things to do, but one day you decide you'd like to have it back. Y'know, for boat stuff.
So you go down to the bottom of the ocean in your diving bell and you discover that your boat, which only had a little leak in it when it went down, is now coated with layer upon layer of coral, barnacles, seaweed, sponges, anemones, giant clams, castoff mermaid bras, and whale poop.
What do you do? You can fix the leak, but you'll never get your boat back to the surface with all that stuff stuck to it. It's just too heavy. Won't float. Do you scrape away the encrustation first, and then repair your boat, or do you try to fix it first and hope all the other stuff will fall off on the way to the surface?
This, at least for me, is something like the experience of social anxiety. It started with a relatively small issue (for most people), but once that had me down, it began to develop layers of fear, shame, and paranoia which now have me thoroughly overweighted and firmly anchored in the depths. I think I can fix the original problem with a bit of dedicated effort and self-love, but what do I do with the other junk? Do I tend to that first, or hope it will all fall away by itself? Which way to the surface, please? It's kinda dark down here.
Just my random thoughts this morning. As usual, more questions than answers.
Good morning. I probably said it before but your writing is very beautiful. As for the junk on your boat, I think you need to scrape it before you bring it back to the surface, or else it's going to be too heavy to carry up and too difficult to keep afloat. Once all the bernacles, seaweed and other junk that keeps you down are off the hull, now you can fix the leak properly without having all the junks in your way. When this is all done, I suggest you give it a good cleaning, then you wait for a calm sunny day and you use all that is left in you to bring it back to the surface. Once afloat on the calm sea, it is very important that you maintain the vessel in excellent condition to be able to sail it where you want it to go and face any other storm that could come your way and sink you again.