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[MikeyC]

I've been thinking this morning about the girl I've been texting for the past week, and then in comparison with the girl I met at the blind date event on Friday.

I hate the fact that I'm so shallow and difficult with women. So this texting girl is cute, but I haven't been able to get her to agree to date me, which means I don't think she really likes me (anymore). That's the vibe I'm getting, but I'd love her to prove me wrong. This girl I met on Friday liked me after 10 seconds (not even kidding), and if I wanted to make a move she wouldn't have backed away, however I just didn't find her attractive. She's a lovely girl and maybe a couple of dates may change my mind, but I don't know.

So the girl that won't date me is the one I like most, yet the girl that found me instantly attractive I don't want to date. And why? She's nice, funny, warm, responsive, easy to talk to. That's a top formula for a great girlfriend. Yet I couldn't find her physically attractive. I hate that I'm like that, and I feel bad for being this way.

 

[Psychedelicious]

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Finallllyyy have access to the computer/internet again, and not on some discolored tv screen. Now I can sort of be connected to the rest of the world again. I'm still isolated with the internet but at least it is a means of communication to the outside world. Also a good time waster!

 

[Graeme1988]

Ah think ah might delete that thread ah made? :thinking: On second thought... Nah! Ah think ah'll keep it going.

 

[Opaline]

I've been thinking this morning about the girl I've been texting for the past week, and then in comparison with the girl I met at the blind date event on Friday.

I hate the fact that I'm so shallow and difficult with women. So this texting girl is cute, but I haven't been able to get her to agree to date me, which means I don't think she really likes me (anymore). That's the vibe I'm getting, but I'd love her to prove me wrong. This girl I met on Friday liked me after 10 seconds (not even kidding), and if I wanted to make a move she wouldn't have backed away, however I just didn't find her attractive. She's a lovely girl and maybe a couple of dates may change my mind, but I don't know.

So the girl that won't date me is the one I like most, yet the girl that found me instantly attractive I don't want to date. And why? She's nice, funny, warm, responsive, easy to talk to. That's a top formula for a great girlfriend. Yet I couldn't find her physically attractive. I hate that I'm like that, and I feel bad for being this way.

That's normal and nothing to feel bad about. I think most people experience this at least a few times. It makes me feel bad too but there's nothing you can do about it. It isn't shallow; physical attraction is important and you can't force it.

 

[MikeyC]

That's normal and nothing to feel bad about. I think most people experience this at least a few times. It makes me feel bad too but there's nothing you can do about it. It isn't shallow; physical attraction is important and you can't force it.

Physical attraction is definitely important, but I wish it wasn't so magnified. :sad: Males in particular are guilty of this sort of superficiality, and I wish it would just go away.

I did really like that girl's personality on Friday night. Maybe I will have dinner/lunch/coffee with her and see what happens.

 

[singing-love]

Physical attraction is definitely important, but I wish it wasn't so magnified. :sad: Males in particular are guilty of this sort of superficiality, and I wish it would just go away.



I did really like that girl's personality on Friday night. Maybe I will have dinner/lunch/coffee with her and see what happens.

You can't control who you are and aren't attracted to Mikey and you shouldn't feel down on yourself for it, it's a normal part if life. Sure go out with her but if you find the attraction still isn't there then just be friends, at the end if the day if you force yourself you will both become miserable.

Keep your chin up though, things may turn out better than you expect .



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[MikeyC]

You can't control who you are and aren't attracted to Mikey and you shouldn't feel down on yourself for it, it's a normal part if life. Sure go out with her but if you find the attraction still isn't there then just be friends, at the end if the day if you force yourself you will both become miserable.

Keep your chin up though, things may turn out better than you expect .

I know. I feel like I shouldn't be choosy, though. I'm lonely and not exactly a Brad Pitt look-alike, so I start wondering why I get to be so picky?

I won't lead her on, though. That would be worse and will lead nowhere good.

Trying to keep my chin up, thanks, singing-love.

 

[singing-love]

I know. I feel like I shouldn't be choosy, though. I'm lonely and not exactly a Brad Pitt look-alike, so I start wondering why I get to be so picky?



I won't lead her on, though. That would be worse and will lead nowhere good.



Trying to keep my chin up, thanks, singing-love.

Your allowed to be choosey (just don't go to the extreme), everyone has a right to date someone they are attracted to so don't feel guilty at all, it's a pointless emotion in this subject, it just is. And besides you aren't nasty about it or arrogant so there is absolutely nothing wrong with it .


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[MikeyC]

Your allowed to be choosey (just don't go to the extreme), everyone has a right to date someone they are attracted to so don't feel guilty at all, it's a pointless emotion in this subject, it just is. And besides you aren't nasty about it or arrogant so there is absolutely nothing wrong with it .

Thanks, singing-love. I will try to keep your words in mind.

 

[Silatuyok]

I've been thinking this morning about the girl I've been texting for the past week, and then in comparison with the girl I met at the blind date event on Friday.

I hate the fact that I'm so shallow and difficult with women. So this texting girl is cute, but I haven't been able to get her to agree to date me, which means I don't think she really likes me (anymore). That's the vibe I'm getting, but I'd love her to prove me wrong. This girl I met on Friday liked me after 10 seconds (not even kidding), and if I wanted to make a move she wouldn't have backed away, however I just didn't find her attractive. She's a lovely girl and maybe a couple of dates may change my mind, but I don't know.

So the girl that won't date me is the one I like most, yet the girl that found me instantly attractive I don't want to date. And why? She's nice, funny, warm, responsive, easy to talk to. That's a top formula for a great girlfriend. Yet I couldn't find her physically attractive. I hate that I'm like that, and I feel bad for being this way.

Don't feel bad, Mikey. If there's no spark, then you can't force one to happen. At this point, if you did pursue the girl who really likes you, you would be doing both her and yourself a disfavor. It wouldn't be quite genuine. I think you should trust your gut and wait for Ms. Right, wherever she is.

 

[Silatuyok]

Once again, I am thinking about taking a month off from social media (if not more). I think I may begin this on March 1. I will still be checking emails and posting photos to my project blog, so if anyone is interested in keeping in touch through email just let me know and I will send you my address. I would love to have some friends from here to keep in touch with while I am away, so don't be shy. At any rate, I'll be around for several more days so give it a thought.

 

[MikeyC]

Don't feel bad, Mikey. If there's no spark, then you can't force one to happen. At this point, if you did pursue the girl who really likes you, you would be doing both her and yourself a disfavor. It wouldn't be quite genuine. I think you should trust your gut and wait for Ms. Right, wherever she is.

You're right. I know you're right. This girl on Friday would make a really awesome friend if nothing else. Maybe I can try for that instead.

I'm tired of being alone, so Ms. Right is hiding somewhere. Twenty-seven years of the worst game of Hide and Seek ever!

Once again, I am thinking about taking a month off from social media (if not more). I think I may begin this on March 1. I will still be checking emails and posting photos to my project blog, so if anyone is interested in keeping in touch through email just let me know and I will send you my address. I would love to have some friends from here to keep in touch with while I am away, so don't be shy. At any rate, I'll be around for several more days so give it a thought.

Aw, that's no good, but I do understand why you would want to do this. I think you'll do well getting away from the Internet again, since I know you dislike the more impersonal nature of it.

I'll have to grab your email off you.

 

[Rawz]

Vitamin D kicking in...energy rising...time to...DO.

 

[PerseverareJasmine]

I have trouble figuring out exactly where I stand with certain people. I guess I'll have to accept it.

 

[dottie]

Visited with a friend and her husband today. My obsession with my inadequacies is mountainous... I need to turn it OFF, accept who I am, and if I fall short for anyone, oh well. Easier said than done. Maybe a glass of wine is in order.

 

[dottie]

I have trouble figuring out exactly where I stand with certain people. I guess I'll have to accept it.

I feel you. People have a tendency to be overly polite, especially in America. On one hand, it makes life easier. You be polite to me, I be polite to you- interactions are expedited and we are on our merry way. On the other hand, the giant facade of politeness makes people difficult to read and trust. I never know what people really think of me because they are probably too polite to let on.

 

[MikeyC]

Visited with a friend and her husband today. My obsession with my inadequacies is mountainous... I need to turn it OFF, accept who I am, and if I fall short for anyone, oh well. Easier said than done. Maybe a glass of wine is in order.

Blanking out your thoughts with a nice glass of wine sounds good. It's true you have to turn it off, but actually doing it isn't easy. What exactly were you inadequate with?

 

[dottie]

@mikeyc Feeling like I am not entertaining/engaging enough, my anxiety causing other people anxiety, being too mechanical, literal (not jocular enough), dumb. I get mental blocks (maybe neurological?) in which socializing feels like a second language to me... more like acting a role in a play. In socializing I feel like I take up physical space but have no presence. That is really sad but... Yeah, that pretty much sums it up.

 

[MikeyC]

@mikeyc Feeling like I am not entertaining/engaging enough, my anxiety causing other people anxiety, being too mechanical, literal (not jocular enough), dumb. I get mental blocks (maybe neurological?) in which socializing feels like a second language to me... more like acting a role in a play. In socializing I feel like I take up physical space but have no presence. That is really sad but... Yeah, that pretty much sums it up.

Well, maybe it's all in your mind and you soci.alised properly with these people. I wasn't there to monitor but I reckon you did better than what you believe.

 

[dottie]

Well, maybe it's all in your mind and you soci.alised properly with these people. I wasn't there to monitor but I reckon you did better than what you believe.

Thanks, Mikey. You're probably right... OCD monsters are at it.