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I thought that was because the younger ones are generally only after sex, (not ready for commitment)
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I thought that was because the younger ones are generally only after sex, (not ready for commitment)
OceanMist
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Well, that's it, I guess. She didn't answer my message I left on her machine. She doesn't even answer her phone when I call now.
That's just messed up man. It's one thing to tell me to buzz off. She didn't even do that. Instead she totally ignored me. I'm not okay with that, that is treating me like I'm nobody.
I don't freaking get it. We dated 3 times! There is no reason for this.
I didn't go to the bar, thank god. I'm shocked at all of this, to be honest. She seemed so nice when we talked. She even complained about some guy giving her the silent treatment in the past....and that's what she's doing to me, giving me silent treatment. I don't get it.
I didn't do anything nearly bad enough for this. I swear, I'm starting to wonder if there is something wrong with me. Why do women always break up with me so fast? Why do they usually treat me like crap after a few dates or less?
I don't care what anyone says....to not even answer my calls and texts, that's low as hell. That's like worse than a bad friend. It's like she is enemies with me now.
All of this because I didn't read her mind on the 3rd date? This is ridiculous. Whatever. If she wants to do this, then she can. There isn't much I can do about it.
I already started talking to other women online, so hopefully I can find another date and forget about her. I just can't believe it, though. 3 dates and we connected, and now, NOTHING. Absolutely nothing. She won't even text me. I didn't even do anything that bad.
That's just messed up man. It's one thing to tell me to buzz off. She didn't even do that. Instead she totally ignored me. I'm not okay with that, that is treating me like I'm nobody.
I don't freaking get it. We dated 3 times! There is no reason for this.
I didn't go to the bar, thank god. I'm shocked at all of this, to be honest. She seemed so nice when we talked. She even complained about some guy giving her the silent treatment in the past....and that's what she's doing to me, giving me silent treatment. I don't get it.
I didn't do anything nearly bad enough for this. I swear, I'm starting to wonder if there is something wrong with me. Why do women always break up with me so fast? Why do they usually treat me like crap after a few dates or less?
I don't care what anyone says....to not even answer my calls and texts, that's low as hell. That's like worse than a bad friend. It's like she is enemies with me now.
All of this because I didn't read her mind on the 3rd date? This is ridiculous. Whatever. If she wants to do this, then she can. There isn't much I can do about it.
I already started talking to other women online, so hopefully I can find another date and forget about her. I just can't believe it, though. 3 dates and we connected, and now, NOTHING. Absolutely nothing. She won't even text me. I didn't even do anything that bad.
emre43
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They're both horrible assumptions to make of someone. I want a relationship with someone that I can connect with just as much (actually I would say more) than the sex.
BlueDays
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Actually my observation is based on personal experience and experiences of former friends.
You might noticed I said "generally", I did not state that every single 22 yr old guy is only after that.
We are also taking about online dating sites. That is not the same as meeting guys real life situations.
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MrJones
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I started on OKCupid this week, just for the fun of comparing how I match with some online people I know. It's funny, and I'm talking with new people from rl (from my area, not related to SPW or whatever) but I won't see anyone in real life. I won't be in a relationship, not because I don't want to, only because I'm a hopeless bastard.
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twiggle
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They may be assumptions, but they're true in a whole lot of cases.
Older men often prove to be more mature as they've 'grown out' of the culture of sleeping around on lads holidays etc. Sad, but so often true. Doesn't mean you shouldn't give younger guys a chance, but if you're asked to state your preferences on a website then why not put it?
coyote
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the ones over 40 are after the same thing
they've already done the commitment thing
at least once or twice
Felgen
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Most guys realize that sex isn't what they see in porn movies after they've lost their virginity.
emre43
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Because it lowers the self-belief of people with already poor self-belief and men don't say looking for women between the age of 25-30..
Earlier I said I want an emotional connection probably more than sex. I just said that because I felt like a 'tard for wanting a relationship more than sex. But I definitely 110% want an emotional connection more than sex.
Also, I'm registered on a football (soccer) forum full of people aged 25+ and all they can discuss is sex. The most recent one is a 29-year-old who said that he is going to spend the whole day shagging his missus. I've read a 66 year-old tell his 63-year-old friend that he is feeling depressed. The response he was given to get over it was to shag his wife. I've also seen a lot of women say on dating sites that they can't live without sex so it isn't one-sided. So many relationships are centred on sex and would fall apart if it was taken out of the equation. I'm a decent guy who wants to meet a decent girl but I feel that I'm not being given a chance. I've contacted 6 or 7 girls but haven't heard back from any of them, sigh... :
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twiggle
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Without meaning to sound harsh, why should that stop a woman from stating her own personal preferences?
A lot of women prefer older men. A lot of men prefer younger women. There's really nothing sinister about it.
emre43
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I know it's not sinister, it's their prerogative. But from personal experience it feels horrible. I just want somebody my age that I can connect to and I'm struggling to find anybody.
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twiggle
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It really shouldn't though, it's just stating an age preference, it's not saying, 'I'm only willing to date somebody with a massive appendage and heaps of self-confidence".
Science often says that women mature faster than men, therefore some women might prefer to target somebody who is already more likely to be on the same level as them in terms of maturity. Alternatively, maybe they feel more protected by an older guy. None of these reasons should lower your self-belief.
Perhaps there are younger women who would love to have a guy your age? And not being as interested in sex as you are the emotional connection already makes you sound like a good catch!
emre43
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And not being as interested in sex as you are the emotional connection already makes you sound like a good catch!
Awww, thanks.
I dont believe that yet,maybe physically,if maturity is subjective there is no way to know that,how do you meassure maturity,in fact girls around my age in high school were dating much older guys who were already taken and only there to take advantage of them,this is not maturity to me.
twiggle
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Well I guess it just depends on your own personal experiences.
I've found it to be true in a lot of cases, I have to say. Several slightly older guys often tell me that they were idiots in their 20's and messed girls around etc.... and of all the couples I know, the happiest ones are the ones in which the guy is a few years older.
Again, personal experiences, but I believe in it.
emre43
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To be honest from a male perspective I have always seen girls to be the ones who mature late.
I dont think it is and not wanting to offend you but I dont think you are an unbiased source,so I would rather stay with the opinion that maturity is subjective,another thing I am seeing in this thread is that men who are older dont cheat, dont like sex as much and are not promiscuous,I disagree also, a lot just grow more experienced at doing those stuff,so again its about the individual.
Necrucifer
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You do tell them you're unemployed when they are scammers and just care about your money
I explain I am looking for a job currently and also soon to be taking classes but unless you misread my post I explained I tell that to scammers so dont worry I wouldnt go running and tellin gthat off to everyone lol.
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