da_illest101
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Don't be fooled by those, when I used to have a profile on that site, I was still a virgin, yet had plenty of questions answered like I wasn't a virgin
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Don't be fooled by those, when I used to have a profile on that site, I was still a virgin, yet had plenty of questions answered like I wasn't a virgin
PhantomPod
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^ Hmm, yeah that's a good tip then. I've never thought of it that way. I just get freaked out thinking they're sex crazed or only looking for that. I mean, I don't know what I'm expecting really. There are loads of 20-something year olds on there, of course they'd want to have sex. But I just don't like when people put that they're looking for "activity partners" in that section.
Hell, I probably come off as a prude in my profile though, cause now since I've avoided so many sex questions it says that I'm "less sex driven." So, maybe I should answer more of those questions so I don't look like such a prude hah.
Hell, I probably come off as a prude in my profile though, cause now since I've avoided so many sex questions it says that I'm "less sex driven." So, maybe I should answer more of those questions so I don't look like such a prude hah.
MikeyC
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I think we'd be perfect.
PhantomPod
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Yes! Damn, too bad you live in Australia. I'd really prefer to be with someone who's not so experience, cause thinking of being with someone who is very experienced is kind of intimidating.
this_portrait
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I used to feel the same way when I first started dating. Surprisingly, I managed to find a guy just as inexperienced as I was. I guess you could say I got lucky, haha.
But really, I think there are more inexperienced guys out there than we think.
MikeyC
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Living in Australia does tend to be a hassle for me sometimes! I agree with you. I'd prefer an inexperienced girl, but at the age of 25 they're hard to come by.
PhantomPod
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Let's take a European vacation and meet in the middle haha. Have to ever been to the US before? I've never been to Australia before, but one day I would like to travel there!
But yeah, that's just the problem. An inexperienced person is pretty hard to come by around our age. Hell, I guess I'd still take what I could get if I did ever go out with someone who was more experienced.
But yeah, that's just the problem. An inexperienced person is pretty hard to come by around our age. Hell, I guess I'd still take what I could get if I did ever go out with someone who was more experienced.
MikeyC
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Never been outside Australia. :
: Sad, I know. I would certainly love to go to the USA, though.An experienced guy might like the fact you're not experienced at all. If he's not an idiot, he will take things slow and try to make you as comfortable as possible, so it would be up to you if you were ready for anything.
OceanMist
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Great point. You're right, even at 24 (I think that's your age?) almost everyone has multiple relationships under their belt.
I'm 27 and I gave up on finding a woman who is inexperienced a long time ago. To find a woman that is actually inexperienced that is my age would be finding a needle in a haystack.
I'm sure many people, especially on this site, would love to have a bunch of dating options that are virgins or close to virgins but that's just unrealistic. We might as well give ourselves a chance and put the odds in our favor and select from the experienced field, because that is the only field really.
Maybe we'd better off moving to Utah and going to BYU.....j/k
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PhantomPod
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^ Haha, yeah, perhaps a Mormon guy would be my best match at this point if I want someone inexperienced.
And yeah, I'm 24, so I really do feel as though it's pretty unrealistic to expect a guy who is just as inexperienced. That's definitely who I'd prefer, but I think it's pretty unlikely. But just anyone who is nice and respectful would do the trick, even if he is more experienced than I am.
And yeah, I'm 24, so I really do feel as though it's pretty unrealistic to expect a guy who is just as inexperienced. That's definitely who I'd prefer, but I think it's pretty unlikely. But just anyone who is nice and respectful would do the trick, even if he is more experienced than I am.
sunboy400
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I actually met someone online and we were really close for 2yrs we talked on the phone and chatted a lot all d time but we never got to meet cos she finally decided to go back to her EX. What am saying is i feel its possible to meet a good person online it just takes time and luck'
Felgen
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Mr Motivator
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tbh i think online datings a great idea, iv had one serious and 2 semi-serious relationships online. none were from an actual dating site, just sites like these, forums. id be a bit nervous myself using a dating site cos obviously people on there dont join intent on making friends, well they are, but veeeery close friends. and like sunboy said, it really is just a case of spending a little time, with a little luck finding the right site for the right kind of person you'd like to meet, get urself on there and filter through the pervs til u find someone u really get on great with!
gwennaelle
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I've had a few good dates, plenty of bad dates, and actually made some pretty ok friends through online dating.
I'm actually currently (miraculously) seeing a guy who is very much like me with social stuff, so while we are taking everything very slow, hanging out together is nice and chill and quiet and calm. Usually at one or the others' house. We've only actually been out in public once, when we first met. Haha.
I'm actually currently (miraculously) seeing a guy who is very much like me with social stuff, so while we are taking everything very slow, hanging out together is nice and chill and quiet and calm. Usually at one or the others' house. We've only actually been out in public once, when we first met. Haha.
OceanMist
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Mormons are extremely nice people, you know...
I have a lot of respect for mormons. With sex everywhere in this world (TV, internet, movies, women wearing tighter clothes and less clothes, peer pressure), that's very impressive that someone has the discipline to keep themselves a virgin when they have the option of losing it.
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AsTimeBurns
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Signed up to eharmony for a 6 month thing, thought I might as well give it one last go before giving up.
I tend to find though, that you go through stages with this online dating thing.
Firstly you are optimistic, because you've just signed up and you see loads of people who are also looking for someone, quite a lot of whom seem like the kind of person you'd like too.
Then comes the reality check stage when no-one replies to you.
Then optimism again when you get 1 or 2 conversations going.
Then the conversations start to fade out and you realise that actually it's extremely unlikely you'll actually get anything out of this whole thing.
And then you give up again.
Seems to work for some people, and quite how they get lots of dates out of it I don't know. I know I always struggle for things to say in the messages, and no doubt the profile & picture put a lot of people off as well.
Oh well. Just more money down the drain I suppose.
I tend to find though, that you go through stages with this online dating thing.
Firstly you are optimistic, because you've just signed up and you see loads of people who are also looking for someone, quite a lot of whom seem like the kind of person you'd like too.
Then comes the reality check stage when no-one replies to you.
Then optimism again when you get 1 or 2 conversations going.
Then the conversations start to fade out and you realise that actually it's extremely unlikely you'll actually get anything out of this whole thing.
And then you give up again.
Seems to work for some people, and quite how they get lots of dates out of it I don't know. I know I always struggle for things to say in the messages, and no doubt the profile & picture put a lot of people off as well.
Oh well. Just more money down the drain I suppose.
this_portrait
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I have a confirmed date with a guy from a dating site this Thursday. It's been a while since I've been on a date, and especially one with a guy from online. Hopefully it goes well. I'm trying to not look at it as a date so much, because that helps to take pressure off of myself and makes me feel more confident about it.
Iluv
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Good luck on your date on Thursday! I hope it turns out well for you.
That's a good way to approach it IMO. I tell all the women I meet that I go in with no expectations (in regards to dating sites), and that I just enjoy meeting new people.
And pretty much every woman I've been out with has wanted to hang out again after the 1st meeting.
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