one comment which has affected your confidence

[WeirdyMcGee]

I can hear the chanting from my childhood in the back of my head...

something like... "stinky pampers, ugly and dumb~ no one would hug her even if she paid them!"
That was my life for my first 5 years of school until I switched school districts...
and from there, it was just rumors and people avoiding me for whatever reasons they could make up.

It's hard to find confidence when you *know* that people are always going to constantly pick you apart and do their best to tear you down because you're an 'easy target'.
I'm 'too nice', apparrently.
That makes me easy prey for a**holes.

 

[shybutsexy]

"your immaturity and your attitude is the reason why you have never have any friends in your entire life" from my father

"the day you get a gf cows will fly -laugh-" my cousin

Once i was out "can i take you a picture so that we can have a proof that you have actually been out of the house?" also my cousin

 

[eternalnewb]

When I was 19 I went for an interview to volunteer with the YMCA the lady interviewing me asked me what I thought one of my weaknesses was, I told her it was that I was reallly quiet. she said "I think that being quiet is a great strength, in my experience people who are quiet are better listeners and more aware of what's going on around them."
For my entire life I had been told by family, teachers and friends that I was too quiet like it was a fault. So being told for the first time that being quiet can be a strength really gave my confidence a boost.

 

[Logical Anxiety]

Ah well...lots of people have 'commented' on my social style. My self-esteem is already considered low as it is, thanks very much, no need to stomp on it some more. Some of them, I really would have liked to have slapped them right there and then, but alas...this is generally what could sum up all those insults, intentional or not:

"Talking to you is like talking to a BRICK WALL." -Classmate + my mother. (Can't believe they actually said the same thing.)

 

[Chriiss]

I think the worst response of all is simply no response. When you ask a question to someone in class or at work and they don't even reply or reply meaningfully with no real reason. Makes you think you aren't worth the time of day and thats just shattering.

I get this All the time... Soo I just keep my mouth shut these days.

 

[Shygirl2011]

There's some negative comments, I'll change that!

Last Tuesday I was at my best friend's house and she was doing my hair and I was having a pretty vulnerable day because of my intro to counselling class and how we were reliving our darkest memories in class.

She noticed and after she was finished with my hair she looked at me and said:
(note: she has been married seven months)

"If I ever had a affair with anyone, it would only be with you."

It was hilarious and definitely put a smile on my face.

 

[RN3]

if someone says to you that you are ugly then it is a blow to the self confidence, especially if you have social anxiety.

this is very true

 

[conscious_mindz]

My little nephew of 10years old said im "scary & weird" that killed me even now im afraid to look at him incase he says it again..
Now whenever my nephew misbehaves.. they say " i will tell uncle matt on you.. << which is me so im basically a deterrant for him misbehaving as he thinks im weird & scary

My mother said i dont know how to laugh or take a joke

My mother also used to say "you cant wear that u look hideous...you look like coco the clown...people will laugh when they see you looking like that.

My old friend said im "sketchy & make his sister "nervous.. that really hurt as i started to beleive im some kind of person thats making others nervous so i avoid putting them in an awkward situation by being around me.. it makes me tear up even as i type this lol

I know i am a good person.. kind heart & not a nasty bone in my body.. but with S.A when im nervous my muscles tighten & my face kinda drains of expression as im in that "fight or flight mode" in a nervous state of mind

 

[A friend]

A bunch of girls kept telling me I was handsome/cute when I was in high-school. This made me feel bad because I thought they were making fun of me, as they did all males and other females in that school...

From there I didn't know who was telling the truth and who wasn't.

There was one girl who asked me out, but then she ended up having some "fun" with one of my friends that night, and then she cheated on the poor guy the next day. That made my confidence go up and down randomly after that. It felt weird...

 

[joyce]

your a dirty slut that comment changed my life and I'm just not as confidence anymore

 

[Pacific_Loner]

Some important member in an italian photographic organisation said I should start from 0, that I should unlearn what i know untill now, forget all.

Basicly, he told me I was 0 in photography. And to think that I wanted to make a carrier out of it... From that moment on i never touched my dslr...::

How the f*ck did i belive her after i got a mojority of good rating and comment on my photos from members of a forum about pro photography ?

It took away ALL my confidence that person.

Never too late to start doing it again?

your a dirty slut that comment changed my life and I'm just not as confidence anymore

It doesn't sound like an objective comment to me

I've been told that I was boring a couple of times and it really stayed stuck in my mind. Most of the time because I didn't want to dance. I guess it's sort of boring but I can't help it, I have no clue how to dance.

 

[EscapeArtist]

Probably little things.... There was one comment that really changed everything back in 3?rd grade, I was a really easy going person who didn't care about how she looked or came off to others at all. I was actually admired for this, and then in 3rd grade one of my little 3rd grade acquaintances (actually, my first crush) came up to me and said "Don't you care that your hair is like that?". She didn't mean it to be mean, she was honestly curious. I didn't even know what she meant so I just replied "No?". And then it snowballed, I began trying to use hair products on my 'bedhead', which turned out to just be my hair getting really curly very quickly for no reason... So it frizzed up more and more each year while I became more and more aware. It was so frizzy that elementary people that I'm finding on facebook are commenting with "Hey, I see you got that hair under control!". I think i'll always obsess a bit about it

 

[Whapz]

Anything anybody has ever said in an effort to cut me down because I listen to metal. Throughout junior high everybody thought I was weird because I was into metal; the thing is, I didn't dress in all black or anything like that. The kids were so shallow that they couldn't accept that somebody didn't like hip hop and rap...
One thing that happened recently was somebody wrote on the whiteboard on my dorm room door "your music sucks turn it the **** off," then somebody else wrote "i agree." That really upset me because I have to listen when people want to blare rap, but I can't listen to my own music?
All those comments made me feel abnormal and bad for liking a different kind of music than the masses.

 

[Minty]

Anything anybody has ever said in an effort to cut me down because I listen to metal. Throughout junior high everybody thought I was weird because I was into metal; the thing is, I didn't dress in all black or anything like that. The kids were so shallow that they couldn't accept that somebody didn't like hip hop and rap...
One thing that happened recently was somebody wrote on the whiteboard on my dorm room door "your music sucks turn it the **** off," then somebody else wrote "i agree." That really upset me because I have to listen when people want to blare rap, but I can't listen to my own music?
All those comments made me feel abnormal and bad for liking a different kind of music than the masses.

I don't get it. How close-minded do you have to be to judge someone for their musical tastes? It's art. The whole idea of art is to explore a human emotion in an abstract way. I mean, I'm not into rap at all. But I would never judge anyone who likes rap.

People piss me off. I'm sorry you have to feel ashamed for liking metal. Just know you're not abnormal at all. Metal has always been an extremely popular genre.

 

[JamesSmith]

Anything anybody has ever said in an effort to cut me down because I listen to metal. Throughout junior high everybody thought I was weird because I was into metal; the thing is, I didn't dress in all black or anything like that. The kids were so shallow that they couldn't accept that somebody didn't like hip hop and rap...
One thing that happened recently was somebody wrote on the whiteboard on my dorm room door "your music sucks turn it the **** off," then somebody else wrote "i agree." That really upset me because I have to listen when people want to blare rap, but I can't listen to my own music?
All those comments made me feel abnormal and bad for liking a different kind of music than the masses.

I think they are weird for judging you on what kind of music you like. That is just ridiculous. You have the right to listen to whatever you want to listen to. I've had to deal with this before. My friends made fun of me cuz I listened to Tupac just because he's dead. They said that it's dumb to listen to dead people's music. They also laughed at me when they saw I had a cd of Taking Back Sunday. They claimed Taking Back Sunday is "gay." This just shows how inconsiderate some people are: just because they don't like certain music, they try to degrade other people for listening to it. So much for being open to other people's interests, huh?

 

[StarShine]

"You're going to die alone."

More than one person has told me this. Because of that, my confidence never was the same. The saddest thing is, I actually accepted it and decided to be and die alone.

 

[deleted user 1]

Two:

"I wish you were never born"

"You're the ugliest **** I've ever seen!"

I encourage honesty, but come on, they never even tried to sugar coat it, lol.

 

[Hottie]

I was told i was "a waste of space", by my mum... I could wright an essay on the things she has said from be-littlieng me. ::

 

[deleted user 1]

I was told i was "a waste of space", by my mum... I could wright an essay on the things she has said from be-littlieng me. ::

When it comes from the closest people to you, it really strikes you at your core.

 

[punklove]

"I never realized your nose was so big"