one comment which has affected your confidence

[coriander1992]

"How does it feel to know that everybody hates you?"

I know it isn't true, but I can't shake it off...she made me beleive it.
Fucking bitch :evil:

 

[creep_x]

mom to me "just look at you, you will rot your entire life, you'll be nothing, you will always be a failure"

 

[Infected_Malignity]

If comments really affected my level of confidence, I'd be in good hands! There are way more good people out there than complete assholes, so if comments affect you and your confidence greatly, chances are you have nothing at all to worry about.

 

[ghost_train]

for me it was never what somebody said, but what they didn't, e.g. when, in attempted conversation, somebody just laughs and walks away. don't know if you've ever had that, but it really is a brain fuck- they not only make you feel bad but leave you to work out exactly why it is you should be feeling bad.

 

[Dave_McFadden]

"No wonder you don't have any friends"

It's one thing when the kids at school say it, but it's hard to handle coming from mom....

 

[Psychedelicious]

Really?...You believe that?

I think I already believed it, that just made it worse.

 

[2Crowded]

I think all of us here could use a hug...

 

[Great_Beyond]

for me it was never what somebody said, but what they didn't, e.g. when, in attempted conversation, somebody just laughs and walks away. don't know if you've ever had that, but it really is a brain fuck- they not only make you feel bad but leave you to work out exactly why it is you should be feeling bad.

Same here. It sucks.

 

[Iseesky]

I can't believe some of these comments you all have gotten! They're terrible! I couldn't imagine anyone saying them let alone parents! Well, even though mine is nothing compared to some, in grade 8, a boy called 'a mute.' That kind of sucked...

 

[bleach]

I can't believe some of these comments you all have gotten! They're terrible! I couldn't imagine anyone saying them let alone parents!

I can't imagine my parents not being critical and insulting. I think yours are the unusual ones.

 

[recluse]

My dad and other people used to comment on how fat i had become when i was around 10 years old. i became anorexic at the age of 15 and my weight dropped down to 7 stone, i didn't have the heart to tell my counsellor that it was from these people and not school bullies which hurt me so much. To this day i am still conscious about how i look, and the most hurtfull comment is when someone comments on how big my belly is getting.

Also when i was in college i got really depressed and i could not be bothered with my work there, i had started drinking quite often just to numb my pain and my mother called me a looser and a dropout, she also told me when i was depressed ''No wonder you haven't got a grilfriend!''

Yeah, comments from ''loved'' ones are much more damaging.

 

[miss_amy]

I can't think of a one off comment. I think its a string of constant put downs that have been my problem. Some that stick in my mind are

-my dad calling me a slut and tart and other similar names. I don't understand why, I wasn't, I know now but believed it then but didn't know why or how to fix myself. He once accused me of sleeping with his work friend, he was so nasty and spiteful. I was about 16. I did not do it and to this day it bothers me that he either thinks I did or could say such a thing if he knows its not true. I sometimes wonder whether confronting him over this an asking would help or just make things worse for me.

-'well we expected you to fail' when I failed my first driving test. Again my dad.

-and again......told me I was too thick for further education. i said the school says I'm good enough and he said they would say that coz they get their budget per student.

-ex calling me sack arse and scar belly and that Im absolutely disgusting. He found out that someone at work had asked me out. He stormed in and basically tried to floor the guy and started yelling in front of everyone about how gross I am with no clothes on. Sooooo embarrassed and then I got a warning from work because of his behaviour.


- my gran telling me my baby died because we were not married when he was conceived. How hurtful can people be.

 

[Chiaroscuro]

Do you know what. There are a bunch of things I could write here. But I just don't get how this bringing them up again will help at all.

 

[Argamemnon]

Also when i was in college i got really depressed and i could not be bothered with my work there, i had started drinking quite often just to numb my pain and my mother called me a looser and a dropout, she also told me when i was depressed ''No wonder you haven't got a grilfriend!''

Yeah, comments from ''loved'' ones are much more damaging.

I can't believe this, my mother would never say such things. I'm sorry to hear this. As I'm a very sensitive person, I don't even want to think what I would have done had my mother insulted me like that.

 

[shon]

After my daughter was born, I put on a lot of weight. My dad told my aunt that after I got married I "got fat and let myself go". That hurts coming from my dad even though I should've been used to his judgmental crap.

There's been a lot of shitty things said to me but I don't want to relive it. :?

 

[jaidacoy]

bf says.. "can't you just relax!"

or friend says.. "i noticed you keep on buzzing" he notices the anxiety lol

im fcked

 

[jaidacoy]

To Raveno: disfigurement.. is something hard.. but it can make u a better person.. if you accept yourself.. and allow yourself to believe.. 'i deserve tp be happy'. you overcome every bit of that.

your struggle will be harder.. but you gotta be X10 stronger and not give up!

 

[de]

my mum told said to me "you were a fucking accident" lol id say that the majority of kids are but you defintly shouldnt tell them and what has made it worse was that she denied ever saying it to me

 

[princess_haru]

Ouch... the things people here have had said to them are awful

Meh, guess it's my turn...

Oh that's ***, she's soo sad - a girl at school "introducing" me to her friends.

I hate you! - my mum, when I was about 15 because I was causing her trouble by not going to school (I couldn't face going, it wasn't laziness).

You've got a really pointy chin, haven't you? - random guy in a pub, didn't even know him, just happened to be stood near the idiot!

Nah, she's just slighty above average - another stranger in a pub, no wonder I try to stay away from the places, lol! I was having a drink with my boyfriend's stepdad and he made a comment in a kind of proud-stepfatherly way that he thought I was stunning. I didn't really take it to heart, but it made me feel good for all of 5 seconds, before an old bloke butted in with the above while staring at me as if I was an inanimate object and not a person :evil: (Of course, the women at the table looked very pleased and smug when he said it... gahh I hate bitchy female competitiveness!)

What's wrong with you - do you have AIDS or something? - girls in my class at school. I'd had a lot of time off because I was terrified of going to school, plus I looked kind of pale and thin from an eating disorder.

Your dad's dead! - a teenage boy followed me and my brother down the road after school chanting this when he found out our father had died. I pretty much gave up on speaking to people after that.

I think the worst response of all is simply no response. When you ask a question to someone in class or at work and they don't even reply or reply meaningfully with no real reason. Makes you think you aren't worth the time of day and thats just shattering.

I know what you mean. I could spend whole days at school not saying a word, when I wasn't in the company of my one friend. It was as if I was invisible most of the time. Of course on the rare occasions I was noticed it was always negative so I was mostly glad of the anonymity, but sometimes I felt like standing there and screaming until someone really saw me!

 

[Generical]

The huge suprise i get from my parents when i actually achieve something, i can't believe the amount of times they say 'well we thought you would fail' or after i got pretty crappy grades saying 'well you did much better than we thought'.......are they just stupid or something lol, how on earth is saying that going to help?

and possibly red hair comments i've received from random arseholes