Men: How do you deal with "Macho guys"?

gustavofring

gustavofring

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I was at the fish-stand earlier today (boy my life is one big adventure) and there was some other customer next to me, big gorilla of a guy, red-tanned from the sun, baseball cap, sports jeans, big mouth, kind of friendly-agressively looking around himself, you know, all in all a bit of an intimidating fellow. (body language)

I didn't say anything, nor look at him, but I felt he was watching me and he was talking loudly to the fish-saleswomen (fish-wives?). I always get very timid around these sorts of "big personalities". In this case it's a low-class kind of guy, but I've also had the same with preppy Alpha male type guys.

I just feel really unpleasant around them, like I suspect they might judge me for being less "manly", or weaker or something. I don't actually feel that way, but I know these guys draw a lot of their energy from "preying on the weak" to secure their ego-status. Or that's what goes through me at such a point (no matter wether it actually strokes with reality). And I have absolutely no need to "compete" with them, so I just kind of fall back into timidness.

Do any of you have issues like this as well?
 
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Etbow23

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Yeah, there are always certain "types" of people that make me nervous/timid. The machomen-type would a lot of times make me nervous when I worked as a cashier (even though i'm a girl) because a lot of times they were rude and would patronize me or treat me like i was dirt because i was working there.

with other people my age (college-age), the outgoing, self-assured, snob types make me nervous. They usually make me feel inferior to them with their general attitude, or even if they're not snobby towards me they're generally dismissive. Some people just intimidate me and make me feel nervous.
 
gustavofring

gustavofring

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I know what you mean.

Certain people out there make me really want to mock them or in some way insult them. Grudges built inside of me. There's this guy in my house and I can't stand him.. He's so transparently trying to be the "popular, ideal son in law, clean, self-assured guy", but he's actually not that nice at all around me and on occasion mocked my study and sometimes passively agressively insults me for my lack of progression.. Almost Two-faced.

I can't believe how some people can become such stereotypes. I guess that's what happens when their environment encourages their behavior and their ego grows stronger. At the same time, I shouldn't let it get to me so much and just let it go.
 
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Invisibleman

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yes I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. Everytime I go out for a walk or something I always encounter those type of guys.

I dont know why us guys cant leave other guys alone. just the other day I went for a walk and there were a group of them across the street. One of them yelled "Hey buddy! f**K YOU!" I just put my head down and walked faster and then hes like "Oh this little pussy thinks he tough does he, COME AT ME BRO,IL F**KIN KICK YOUR ASS". Out of complete nowhere for no reason at all.

I hate all the macho man crap like that. I dont really know how to deal with them but I just try to ignore them as best as possible.
 
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Etbow23

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Invisibleman said:
I dont know why us guys cant leave other guys alone. just the other day I went for a walk and there were a group of them across the street. One of them yelled "Hey buddy! f**K YOU!" I just put my head down and walked faster and then hes like "Oh this little pussy thinks he tough does he, COME AT ME BRO,IL F**KIN KICK YOUR ASS". Out of complete nowhere for no reason at all.
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Wow, what is wrong with people??

I can't believe that someone would say something like that to some random person. I guess those type of guys are the "alpha males". With my mom's dogs (two males), the alpha one always tries to dominate/intimidate the other one. Like kick him out of the dog bed when he wants to use it, that type of thing. Not that you're a dog, but I think those guys sort of act like how alpha dogs act.
 
Flowers-Of-Bloom

Flowers-Of-Bloom

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Hypermasculinity (also known as Machismo) is the result of an over-production of the hormone known as testosterone.
Hopefully one day a cure will be found for this terrible disease, but until then avoidance of these types at all costs is highly encouraged. Thankfully the disease is not contagious, however prolonged exposure to individuals inflicted with hypermasculinity may result in a condition known as "Douchebag Syndrome". Douchebag Syndrome (DBS) and Hypermasculinity have a very high co-morbidity rate, so if an individual is Hypermasculine he almost always has DBS. Whereas Hypermasculinity is not contagious, all males are at risk of contracting DBS.

Please visit this site and this site for more information on these individuals and how to deal them.
 
MikeyC

MikeyC

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Invisibleman said:
yes I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. Everytime I go out for a walk or something I always encounter those type of guys.

I dont know why us guys cant leave other guys alone. just the other day I went for a walk and there were a group of them across the street. One of them yelled "Hey buddy! f**K YOU!" I just put my head down and walked faster and then hes like "Oh this little pussy thinks he tough does he, COME AT ME BRO,IL F**KIN KICK YOUR ASS". Out of complete nowhere for no reason at all.

I hate all the macho man crap like that. I dont really know how to deal with them but I just try to ignore them as best as possible.
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Yikes, I'm sorry that happened, mate. I would be scared for my safety.

I have had to deal with a couple of "macho" men. I really dislike it and I think some men strive to be on top and that's how they act.
 
Hellhound

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Ick... I don't know in other parts of the world, but that's pretty common over here. And they pick on girls the most.
 
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Rembrandt Broam

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MikeyC said:
Originally Posted by Invisibleman

yes I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. Everytime I go out for a walk or something I always encounter those type of guys.

I dont know why us guys cant leave other guys alone. just the other day I went for a walk and there were a group of them across the street. One of them yelled "Hey buddy! f**K YOU!" I just put my head down and walked faster and then hes like "Oh this little pussy thinks he tough does he, COME AT ME BRO,IL F**KIN KICK YOUR ASS". Out of complete nowhere for no reason at all.

I hate all the macho man crap like that. I dont really know how to deal with them but I just try to ignore them as best as possible.
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Yikes, I'm sorry that happened, mate. I would be scared for my safety.

I have had to deal with a couple of "macho" men. I really dislike it and I think some men strive to be on top and that's how they act.
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Some males feel the need to act like this when they're in a group. It's just posturing to allow them to establish their position within that group. If Invisibleman had been a girl, he'd probably have yelled sexually suggestive remarks instead. The best option is to ignore it.
 
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Icepep

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It is important to not judge all macho guys. Some of them are probably really nice people that just happen to be macho.
 
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laure15

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I used to be bullied by guys like these. They think just because they're so tall, good-looking, and popular that they can pick on weaker people.
 
Flanscho

Flanscho

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Well, I don't really get anything to do with them. Some people I consider to be lose friends might fall into that category, but they're alright. And others... I don't know. Such people don't show up among my friends or in my workplace, and so I never really meet them. And if I do, I just walk on or something.
 
coyote

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Icepep said:
It is important to not judge all macho guys. Some of them are probably really nice people that just happen to be macho.
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that's true

plus they may be acting out from the same stress, anxiety, and fears that plague us

they have simply learned to cope in a different manner than we have

they opt for "fight" rather than "flight" when confronted with a situation that makes them uncomfortable

they see all the people around them as threatening, just like we do

but they raise their hackles instead of tucking their tails
 
Hellhound

Hellhound

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coyote said:
that's true

plus they may be acting out from the same stress, anxiety, and fears that plague us

they have simply learned to cope in a different manner than we have

they opt for "fight" rather than "flight" when confronted with a situation that makes them uncomfortable

they see all the people around them as threatening, just like we do

but they raise their hackles instead of tucking their tails
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I'm not sure if I'd rather be like this.
 
Invisibleman

Invisibleman

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yeah I must say not all macho guys are womanizers and nasty to girls. Most of them I know are actually very nice and sweet to girls,they are just douches towards other guys.
 
Shenmue

Shenmue

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My way of dealing with macho guys is to act just as macho as they are. Which is why I pump iron and have a marine style haircut. I'm also well versed in the art of origami and I know how to sing in a manly way, especially show tunes.

Sinitta - So Macho - YouTube
 
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