Is it wrong that I don't like shopping?

[FriendlyShadow]

Ok, so I wouldn't necessarily call myself a tomboy. I do like to play video games, and wear plain, simple clothing ect. However, I don't play sports, I don't climb trees, and I'm afraid of bugs. The only two girly things i like to do are fixing my hair and painting my nails. I'm not a huge fan of make-up or jewelery. I could care less about that stuff. Now, besides all that, some people think I'm weird for not choosing girly clothes, or make-up. Some of them said I might change my mind as i get older. I mean, I used to hate shopping as a kid and I still do. Are there any girls like me who have this problem? Is it wrong I that I don't like shopping? Plus, do you think I'm a Tomboy or a Girly girl?

 

[kilojoule]

I grew up in the M&S dressing rooms, used to bring my doll with me, knew all the staff in the Henry st branch hahahaha.

I can't abide clothes shopping in the sales. I quite like shopping off peak now though so long as I can go in on a weekday morning and get in and out of each shop in less than 4 minutes ( no joke haha, even if I try stuff on, 6 min max)

Now homewares shopping is an entirely different matter.....

 

[DeadmanWalking]

Disclaimer: not a girl.

Anyway, I don't think that it's wrong that you don't like shopping. Just because you don't fit into all of the stereotypes and expectations of being a girl/woman doesn't make you wrong. I don't fit into all of the stereotypes of the average male, but it doesn't make me wrong. It just makes me different, unique. Everyone has their own interests and they should be allowed to pursue them without being impeded by anyone.

Though I dislike putting people into categories, if I'm to answer that last question, I'd say you were a balance of the two.

 

[twiggle]

The only time I'm like shopping is when I'm by myself and I've got money.

I hate shopping with other people...standing around in over-heated shops whilst people mull over what to try on and buy and change their mind a billion times.

If my friends want to go shopping, I just go and wait for them in a cafe ::

And I don't think you're a tomboy OR a girly-girl. Don't pigeon-hole yourself into a category, just be whatever you feel like being.

Sometimes I like to laze around in a football shirt playing Super Mario Galaxy. Other times I like to get dressed up, wear lots of make-up and killer heels! Who cares. You are YOU. Not a category

 

[BlueDays]

I've always hated shopping and fashion.
Your not alone in that, there are many of us who don't buy into the whole brainwashing that girls are "supposed to" love shopping and clothes/latest fashion.
I am not a tomboy, I just buy clothes to cover my body that are comfortable to wear. I don't see the point in paying a huge amount of your hard earned money on expensive fancy clothing, there are many other more important things to spend it on imo.

 

[Dark angel]

OMG! I think I am you. I don't like shopping. Hate it actually. I'm not into fashion, except when there's an important event that I should go to. My room has girly stuff but I also love to play video games, like dressing as casually as possible when going out and use sneakers. You are not the only one.Some members of my family have tried to make me more "feminine" but the thing is in that aspect, I like being this way. It's comfortable

 

[OceanMist]

No there's nothing wrong with a woman who doesn't like shopping. Don't fall into society's trap of social norms like "men must love sports or they are weak" or "women must shop to be feminine." Those are ridiculous.

As a guy, I have to deal with that crap too. Like for me, people expect me to "be a man" and talk at a normal level, get chicks and be confident. I've been called a girl or a little girl so many times I've lost count. It's just the way society operates, everything must be "normal" or they get ticked off and lash out.

It's best to try to tune out negativity and try to be yourself. It's comfortable being yourself I've found.

 

[MikeyC]

No, nothing wrong with that. Shopping really sucks!

 

[nafadda]

there is no rule book in life that should tell a person what they should or should not like.

some women love to shop..i am not one of them,unless it is in a second hand store where i may find some unique one of a kind vintage item/..that's what i enjoy,so of course it's fine for me.

i have liked gun collecting for as long as i can remember,may not be the most fem thing ,BUt it's something I liked.

as long as people don't worry about what others tell them what they should or should not like,then not a problem,,some people like chocolate and some like vanilla....we all are not exactly the same

 

[Iluv]

It's not wrong at all. We all have different interests, you shouldn't get all blinded by what a so called "girl" does. I think that it's just how media says that girls shop, do make-up, hair, walk around with high heels etc. Well that's not true. Every girl is different. If you want to call yourself a 'tom-boy' go ahead but I'm not for labels.

 

[lurknomore]

I'm the same way. I hate shopping, don't wear make-up or jewelry, and could care less about the latest fashions. I wear what's comfortable, jeans and sweatshirts, as long as they're dark colors, or at least colors that I can't stand- like yellow, orange, pink, or red. I'm certainly not a tomboy either- sports bore me to death, and I'm not into horror or action movies, or "gross" stuff. And at 32, I don't think I'm ever going to grow into liking typically "girly" things... or typically "boyish" things for that matter. Frankly, I don't think I've defined myself as a person yet, except for liking most anything to do with music or math.

 

[this_portrait]

I used to hate shopping, myself, unless it was for things like CDs and movies and whatnot. At one point, I dressed exactly like a boy, but mainly because I had trouble fitting into a lot of the clothes that were designated for pre-teen girls and was fed up with pants being so skin-tight that I had a huge muffin top. Dressing in boys' clothes was not only much more comfortable, but it was my way of rebelling.

As I got older, though, I got more "girly," especially when it comes to cosmetics and whatnot. I don't go overboard, but I'm nothing like I was when I was 12-13. I do enjoy shopping, but as twiggle mentioned, I prefer to shop alone than with others because I'm a relatively quick shopper, while a lot of others (particularly women) aren't.

So even though I'm more into things considered "feminine" now, I'm not as into it as a lot of my peers are. I know plenty of other girls who are more like you in that they're not really into things like shopping and makeup. I find that I actually get along better with them than I do with the more "hyper-feminine" girls, probably because I used to be more like them. I wouldn't let any negative comments you receive for your differences from the norm get to you.

 

[Shyangel]

I can be very girly or a straight tomboy, it depends on my mood. I love shopping and girly movies as well getting dressed up, but I never where makeup really, and I barley do anything with my hair. I'm not afraid of getting dirty, I'm not afraid of hard work and I don't complain when I have to. I climbed trees, I rolled down hills, I played in the mud, and ect. On the other hand, I had celebrity crushes, I loved insync, I loved Backtreet boys, and ect.

So I would just say I'm me. Don't let it bother you, anyone who says it's weird to not like shopping and such cause your a girl is an idiot.

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

I'm not very girly and I'm more of a 'tomboy' especially when I was younger (never wore skirts or dresses until I was 12). Even though I wear makeup and dye my hair I'm not very good at all those 'girly' things that other girls seem to do with ease. I love video games and suspense movies which other girls my age don't seem to enjoy. I also really hate shopping. I haven't gone shopping for about 10 months so I don't have a large amount of clothing and only one pair of shoes (why should we need so many?).
I don't think our gender should determine what our likes or our dislikes should be; that's up to the individual regardless of what society tries to force on us. Personally I like androgyny and androgynous clothing because I hate it when people categorize genderless things (like clothing or colour) as being strictly either male or female.

 

[she1slander]

For the record, not all girls like to shop and I'm one of them. And so to answer your question, you are a real GIRL!

Tomboy or Girly girl??? Hmm... I can never see myself in either one of those categories and I don't think it's fair to pick either one. I've never liked shopping and I'm not afraid to admit it but I used to HATE it with a passion. Not wanting to shop, wear makeup, paint my nails and make myself look pretty didn't make me any less of a girl. I just didn't like that there's so much WORK and effort to make to BE one and that only showed my lack of appreciation as a girl growing up. And because I wasn't into all that "girly" stuff, my self-esteem was quite low and I lacked self-respect and fell into depression for a long time.

Nowadays, I don't feel that way about shopping anymore or the stuff that us girls are compelled to do. I just had to work on building up my self-esteem and confidence and being more girly isn't so bad after all! I think the expectation that girls have to dress, act, or look a certain way is what causes girls to feel confused about what they want to be. So girls, learn to appreciate yourselves for the way you are. If you're into sports, that's fine. To me, sporty girls are not really tomboys. I've seen sporty girls who wear a bit of makeup and know how to dress modestly. Girly girls seem to place so much expectation on trying to look good majority of the time when they can just be... natural.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

I like shopping (no, more like love ) I wear frilly, girly things, and I am not afraid of most bugs. I am a stereotypical girl I suppose. I don't have a problem being this way, and I don't have a problem with girls who are not like this. I say, to each their own. But if you ever have a makeup question, feel free to ask me!

 

[Arise87]

Nope. The only time I go shopping is if I ABSOLUTELY have to try something on. Everything else is bought online. I have no desire to spend hard earned dollars on a pair of heels that will ruin my back (or make me taller than 6 ft. eek!), or a purse that screams " I cost way to much ". There's nothing wrong with NOT wanting to mill about the mall all day, trying on clothes by yourself/ with friends. Personally, I feel like its wasting time and money. There's to much to see and do instead of spending all your time shopping.
Also, if all you feel the need to do is paint your nails and style your hair, then just do that. Don't change YOUR style/ways because others think you need to. If you did then it wouldn't be YOURS. If someone doesn't like it, tough.
I have been told not to wear converse sneaks with skirts and I probably will till the day I die because I like it and don't care if it breaks someone's outfit rules. Some days I wear makeup. Some days all I wear is SPF 30 and my husband still likes me. : )
So, as long as you're comfortable and happy, don't change what you're doing or your look for anybody.

 

[MikeyC]

While I mentioned already that I don't like shopping, I could easily spend an hour and hundreds (a thousand, even) in a good heavy metal store. There's two good ones in Sydney and I make special trips for them sometimes.

 

[1BlackSheep]

Shopping really sucks!

Say what??? Now you've ruined my perfect image of you!!! ::

I used to be quite the shopaholic/fashionista, but I've gotten lazy in my old age. It's much easier to just order stuff online! I do like a good, long trip to the mall every now and then though - it's very relaxing!

Like others have said, to each their own! It really doesn't matter whether or not you like to shop - what matters is how you are as a person.

 

[MikeyC]

Say what??? Now you've ruined my perfect image of you!!! ::

Your first error was having a perfect image of me. I will go to the shops to get what I need but I dislike malls somewhat and I hate window shopping. As I mentioned in the previous post here, though, I could spend a good hour in a metal store. Equip me with a thousand dollars and I guarantee it will be gone in one transaction.

It's much easier to just order stuff online!

Don't forget cheaper. This rings extra true for Australians. This country is one of the most expensive in the world, and buying online from American stores and getting it shipped here can be half the price. My mate has bought clothes from an American shop online (Dr. Jays) and prices for the same garments and shoes if in Australia would be double.

As much as it's going to hurt businesses here, I'm going to endeavour to do a lot more online, overseas shopping.