How are you feeling?
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Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
Oh no thats horrible<3
I know... I’m still coming to terms. It just happened so suddenly.
MollyBeGood
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Feeling like a total failure and depressed loser doomed to be this way till I die.
Otherwise I feel great *wink*
Otherwise I feel great *wink*
Marc7
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Yep ! But those are the double standards I have to put up with... sadly.
Yea.
Insignificant, as if I or my perspective doesn't matter.
You or perspective should matter though.
Did you end up learning the skills on your own? Thank you, I will try to tell myself I can do the things I'm doubting myself about more. Sorry but how can I not be afraid of learning the necessary skills?
That's good you were able to cope well without your mother living there (not being sarcastic btw). So you were still in pain from
the surgery even a year after?
Thank you for being happy to answer my questions. Wow, I hope it doesn't get gradually worse as you get older. Does she know you coped well on your own while she was gone in Ireland? Maybe that might change her mind about about thinking you can't cope on your own.
BlueDays
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Just finished reading right through the "Social Anxiety Memes" thread, and it has made me feel like human failures, like me, are not actually as rare as I thought.
Do you wonder how many people there are out there - that you see in the public realm - appearing perfectly "normal", but as soon as they get behind the privacy of their front door, their messed-up, true-self comes out?
BlueDays
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Very sorry you have to go through losing a pet, Graeme. That is a very difficult thing to have to deal with, especially on top of your other troubles. ((Hugs))Devastated. My pet cat just passed away...
MollyBeGood
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I don’t know maybe I want to spurge and buy this hoodie?
https://www.cnn.com/style/article/burberry-noose-hoodie-scli-gbr-intl/index.html
https://www.cnn.com/style/article/burberry-noose-hoodie-scli-gbr-intl/index.html
PugofCrydee
You want to know how I got these scars?
Yea I definitely feel like a loser. Not by anyone else's standards, but by my own.
I always wanted to have a decent career, but life just kept planting IED's in the roadside, the road being my life's path. Now I feel like I've missed the opportunity to make anything decent of my life/self.
It's a pretty shitty feeling.
PugofCrydee
You want to know how I got these scars?
Sorry for your loss mate.Devastated. My pet cat just passed away...
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
I know... as if I don’t have enough to deal with in my life.
Thanks, Pug
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
I seriously give up on trying to understand my family...
My mother complains to me whenever my older sister has a go at her. Like today, she verbally berated our mother because she (Mum) went n’ told our oldest sister where the younger of the two had went when asked. Apparently that justifies losing the plot ? Even though my oldest sister also asked me where our middle sibling had gone shopping to, which I had no clue. But, apparently, it’s us who don’t tell my middle child anything. Oh, and we do nothing as well, despite the opposite being true for the last 2 bloody years.
But hey, who gives a crap if it’s me who has to put up with n’ saying nothing... cuz that would just cause more arguments. As my oldest sister likes to say: “We turned oot awrite, despite being raised by a single mother”
Aye, sure we did... Anxious. Neurotic. Overly aggressive. Violent. Ungrateful. Unreasonable. Uncivilised. Hypocritical. Narcissistic... we turn out grand !
My mother complains to me whenever my older sister has a go at her. Like today, she verbally berated our mother because she (Mum) went n’ told our oldest sister where the younger of the two had went when asked. Apparently that justifies losing the plot ? Even though my oldest sister also asked me where our middle sibling had gone shopping to, which I had no clue. But, apparently, it’s us who don’t tell my middle child anything.
Oh, and we do nothing as well, despite the opposite being true for the last 2 bloody years.But hey, who gives a crap if it’s me who has to put up with n’ saying nothing... cuz that would just cause more arguments. As my oldest sister likes to say: “We turned oot awrite, despite being raised by a single mother”
Aye, sure we did... Anxious. Neurotic. Overly aggressive. Violent. Ungrateful. Unreasonable. Uncivilised. Hypocritical. Narcissistic... we turn out grand !
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
I know... but I’ve kinda gotten accustomed to be ignored. As wrong as that is to say.
Most of them, yeah... take the limitations of my disability into consideration.
Well, again speaking from my own experience, it was either, learning to fend for myself as best I can, or face a life being overly dependent upon others. And as daunting is it was I pushed on, despite my fears or doubts.
Slight pain, but that was mainly due to my body still adjusting to what I had done. As I kinda took the rehabilitation into my own hands, as the physiotherapy team were delayed in getting out to me by a week after I got my leg casts off. And they hadn’t been notified to give me initial home visits until I got the enough strength back in my legs to weight bare, then my rehab continued at the hospital. And as a result, I was back on my feet with 3 months as opposed to the 5 to 6 months that was projected when I initially said I wanted the surgery done.
Since I was born with my disability, it will eventually get worse. But as long as I stay as fit and healthy as I possibly can it should get worse at the rate I was told it would when I was 12, and doctors told me I’d be wheelchair bound by the time I was 30. Even when I went for my surgery, one of the surgeon was surprised at how much leg strength I still had for my age.
Oh, I told her both times, as did my oldest sister. While my Mum was impressed I’d managed without her, she wasn’t overly happy about it. Like she was happy for me, but kinda resented that I’d proven I can take care of myself, despite my disability. As my oldest sister pointed out, our mother always wanted to feel needed. That said, she has been less argumentative whenever I do something for myself or asked to help around the house since her trips to Ireland.
Kiwong
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Feeling alright, connecting with people better, work is going well, my anxiety is way down. Now I find I have badly leaking heart valve. So what now, I beat anxiety, and have to deal with congestive heart failure? I ran 8km this morning so my heart can't be going to bad.
PugofCrydee
You want to know how I got these scars?
Does that mean you'll have to have surgery mate?
LoyalXenite
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Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
I feel stuck... unsure of how to grief the loss of my pet. Ah did’nae even feel this sad when my dad died.
Ah did’nae even feel this sad when my dad died.
LoyalXenite
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I feel stuck... unsure of how to grief the loss of my pet.
Theres a few handy tips online about how to try and deal with the loss of a pet, http://www.vetstreet.com/our-pet-experts/7-ways-to-cope-with-the-loss-of-a-pet
https://www.avma.org/public/PetCare/Pages/pet-loss.aspx
https://whatsyourgrief.com/mans-best-friend-6-considerations-for-grieving-the-loss-of-a-pet/
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
Thank you, Loyal.
MollyBeGood
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@LoyalXenite Thanks!
I want to get some Yami Kawaii fashion actually that would be kinda fun. Have you seen that?
I want to get some Yami Kawaii fashion actually that would be kinda fun. Have you seen that?