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Lea

Banned
Hate to be a bummer on Christmas, but my holiday has been tainted...

Most of my gifts came from my stepfather, who came over to deliver them and spend Christmas with us. Two of my siblings are his biological children, and his main priority was providing gifts for them, but he got me and my other siblings gifts as well because my mother couldn't afford them this year.

Well... he came over the day before Christmas Eve and he and my mother got into a fight (it was his fault - he was being an a-hole). He ended up going back to his home in another state. Before he left he claimed he was going to take our gifts with him (but not his biological children's gifts) so we wouldn't get anything. He left them, saying no we could have them, but after he returned home he kept on calling and leaving nasty messages and texts and now he's demanding our gifts back. He says we don't deserve to have a Christmas because he didn't have one, and that only his (biological) children are getting a Christmas.

tl;dr --> My stepfather is demanding we give him back the gifts he gave to us. I don't have to have gifts, it isn't the end of the world if I don't. But I really like the gray boots he got me, and I don't want to give them back :sad: I think it's very cruel of him...

Should I give them back?

**** that´s pretty bad, he seems like a real *******. It´s not done, to take back presents you gave to someone. It once happened to me, I was working as aupair for a single lady with kids, at the beginning she gave me some money as a welcome, but then when we didn´t get on and I was leaving, she demanded them back. So I gave it to her. If you like the boots, I would think about paying him for it instead, but I know you probably don´t have the money which could be a problem. Maybe tell him you save for it and pay him later?
 

bcsr

Well-known member
tl;dr --> My stepfather is demanding we give him back the gifts he gave to us. I don't have to have gifts, it isn't the end of the world if I don't. But I really like the gray boots he got me, and I don't want to give them back :sad: I think it's very cruel of him...

Damn... throwing a tantrum like a little kid. I wouldn't feel guilty about keeping them, you can't give a gift and then demand it returned.

But, if it was me, I'd tell him if it's going to make him feel better, come and pick them up.
 

MikeyC

Well-known member
It's Boxing Day, so there's a lot of digesting and stuff going on. I will avoid the crowds at the shops if absolutely possible.

Good. :) Got some really nice gifts (even from my brother! he never gets me anything!) and my mom was really happy with the stuff my dad and I got her the other day. I gave my dog her gifts this morning and she went crazy, haha. Got her a pink tennis ball and a squeaky rubber penguin, both of which she adores. :bigsmile: I just had an awesome brunch with pumpkin french toast and scrambled eggs, and I finally watched A Christmas Story this morning. (was too tired to last night)

Now the house is getting pretty quiet. My brother went to his girlfriend's for the rest of the day and my dad is now going to work. Sucks he has to work on Christmas, but at least I got to spend time with him over the weekend.
Sounds like you had a wonderful Christmas, Phoennixx. I'm super glad for you. :)
 

hoddesdon

Well-known member
Hate to be a bummer on Christmas, but my holiday has been tainted...

Most of my gifts came from my stepfather, who came over to deliver them and spend Christmas with us. Two of my siblings are his biological children, and his main priority was providing gifts for them, but he got me and my other siblings gifts as well because my mother couldn't afford them this year.

Well... he came over the day before Christmas Eve and he and my mother got into a fight (it was his fault - he was being an a-hole). He ended up going back to his home in another state. Before he left he claimed he was going to take our gifts with him (but not his biological children's gifts) so we wouldn't get anything. He left them, saying no we could have them, but after he returned home he kept on calling and leaving nasty messages and texts and now he's demanding our gifts back. He says we don't deserve to have a Christmas because he didn't have one, and that only his (biological) children are getting a Christmas.

tl;dr --> My stepfather is demanding we give him back the gifts he gave to us. I don't have to have gifts, it isn't the end of the world if I don't. But I really like the gray boots he got me, and I don't want to give them back :sad: I think it's very cruel of him...

Should I give them back?

It is probably this sort of pettiness that caused the problems in the first place. Once you give someone something, then that should be the end of it - if you think you may change your mind, then don't give it. Then again, returning them shows oneself to be better than they are.
 

hidwell

Well-known member
Hate to be a bummer on Christmas, but my holiday has been tainted...

Most of my gifts came from my stepfather, who came over to deliver them and spend Christmas with us. Two of my siblings are his biological children, and his main priority was providing gifts for them, but he got me and my other siblings gifts as well because my mother couldn't afford them this year.

Well... he came over the day before Christmas Eve and he and my mother got into a fight (it was his fault - he was being an a-hole). He ended up going back to his home in another state. Before he left he claimed he was going to take our gifts with him (but not his biological children's gifts) so we wouldn't get anything. He left them, saying no we could have them, but after he returned home he kept on calling and leaving nasty messages and texts and now he's demanding our gifts back. He says we don't deserve to have a Christmas because he didn't have one, and that only his (biological) children are getting a Christmas.

tl;dr --> My stepfather is demanding we give him back the gifts he gave to us. I don't have to have gifts, it isn't the end of the world if I don't. But I really like the gray boots he got me, and I don't want to give them back :sad: I think it's very cruel of him...

Should I give them back?

Your sad story only confirms to me that Christmas truly is a blight on the calender
 

dottie

Well-known member
feeling emotional. ugh. guess it's the holiday + short days + rain + upcoming changes. everything's fine, though.
 

bcsr

Well-known member
Pretty good, just got back home from Christmas with my parents. It's snowing pretty good, on Christmas day, which is a first-time experience for me.

Ate too much food, and I feel like I'm about to pop. Perhaps a nap is in order.
 

KiaKaha

Banned
Pretty good, just got back home from Christmas with my parents. It's snowing pretty good, on Christmas day, which is a first-time experience for me.

Ate too much food, and I feel like I'm about to pop. Perhaps a nap is in order.

Sounds like a gay old time bcsr
 

Phoenixx

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So tired, so sore, but relieved. Gotta say I'm glad the holidays are over. While I love them, it's been so hectic for the last week, and coming down with the flu did not help any. Speaking of which, I am still not healed and it's finally catching up to me. Ugh.... I totally overdid it on food the last few days. Sugar cookies, french toast, chicken wings, fries with texas hot sauce, Reese's peanut butter cups (Which I really shouldn't eat but I can never resist!), seafood, alfredo, etc. I haven't eaten that good in a while. Totally worth it. :perfect: Running around and finishing up Christmas didn't help my body either. And now for the next few days I will be spending it with tea, water, bland foods, and lots of probiotics and laying around because my body seriously needs to heal. I guess I should be glad we're getting a big snowstorm that's supposed to stick around for a couple days. Gives me an excuse to lay around all day and not go anywhere. :bigsmile:
 

MikeyC

Well-known member
^ Sounds awesome, Phoenixx. I'm also using the excuse of heavy eating as an excuse not to leave the house today. :) I've been half-asleep all day.
 

Starry

Well-known member
I'm feeling pain! *Sigh* I just burned my leg with a hot saucepan straight off the hob... That's what I get for being lazy and eating my soup out of the saucepan when I'm wearing only my dressing-gown (because I'm about to have a bath). I think I screamed "Ow" loud enough to be heard in the next village!
 

MikeyC

Well-known member
So I had a weird heartbeat for a second and I'm now all panicky. Did I just have a slight panic/anxiety/heart attack? I don't know but I'm feeling all weird. I will monitor this for the rest of the day.

I wonder if it's too late to start eating better? :eek:
 

vj288

not actually Fiona Apple
So I had a weird heartbeat for a second and I'm now all panicky. Did I just have a slight panic/anxiety/heart attack? I don't know but I'm feeling all weird. I will monitor this for the rest of the day.

I wonder if it's too late to start eating better? :eek:

Were you thinking about coyote using your toothbrush?
 
And are you beautiful and pale, with yellow hair, like her?

Wrong thread but I already posted in random thoughts, so pah!

I just watched Sweeney Todd for like the third time. The last scene always makes me feel a little ill.
 
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