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Graeme1988

Graeme1988

Hie yer hence from me heath!
Srijita52 said:
I know how it feels Graeme, I'm exactly same. What she's doing clearly isn't right.
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It's the fact she seems to bypass the whole SA/depression isssue is what annoys me most, "Oh, just do it. C'mon!", she tells me. "I'm just shy!", my family keep saying. Sorry but, f--off! It's no that easy. If I'm just shy, how'd ya explain the panic/anxiety attacks just at the mere thought of being in a social situation?

Mini-rant over.
 
Srijita52

Srijita52

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Graeme1988 said:
It's the fact she seems to bypass the whole SA/depression isssue is what annoys me most, "Oh, just do it. C'mon!", she tells me. "I'm just shy!", my family keep saying. Sorry but, f--off! It's no that easy. If I'm just shy, how'd ya explain the panic/anxiety attacks just at the mere thought of being in a social situation?

Mini-rant over.
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She definitely isn't realising your problems. Its not fair to you in anyway, I'm sorry.
 
Daniel089

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Graeme1988 said:
I wish my oldest sister would stop pushing me to do stuff. Despite my bouts of depressions. I mean, good intentions aside, I have to want to it. Can't just go along it because she suggests it - "Aw, aye, great idea!". Once again, my inability to stand up for myself for fear of causing upset shows. "Just do it 'n' keep the peace", as my mum says.
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I know that man I've been pushed into many stuff before though not by my sister or brother. But think of the good side: at least she is helping you to become more social. I live with my parents, my sister lives abroad and I rarely see my bro. It was 40 years ago when my parents were at the same age as me, they are around 65 now when I'm 23 so my dad can't really help me only my mum but only with words that sometimes encourage me.
 
starburst

starburst

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Right now I'm feeling pretty optimistic and happy with myself. I've only just joined this site and I think it's a positive step in my ongoing recovery. So, "hi" to anyone who reads this...I hope to meet some nice and supportive folk on here. :)
 
Srijita52

Srijita52

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starburst said:
Right now I'm feeling pretty optimistic and happy with myself. I've only just joined this site and I think it's a positive step in my ongoing recovery. So, "hi" to anyone who reads this...I hope to meet some nice and supportive folk on here. :)
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Hi starburst, welcome to SPW. :) I hope you have a great time here.
 
1BlackSheep

1BlackSheep

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Beleza said:
Congratulations to your future sister in law? That is a huge woosh of wind to knock you down. I hope your sister is okay though. probably not, but I hope she copes well. Okay.
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Lol - never thought I'd have a SIL! ::eek:: I just called my mom and she's actually not all that fazed by it. She worked in San Francisco for many years and was around a lot of gays and transgenders, so it's not something new to her. I think it's affecting my sister more than she's let on though. There's something my sister didn't tell me though: she lost her job. It's bad enough for her to have to deal with the other issue and now this! So, looks like we have a lot to deal with going forward!
 
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Graeme1988

Graeme1988

Hie yer hence from me heath!
Daniel089 said:
I know that man I've been pushed into many stuff before though not by my sister or brother. But think of the good side: at least she is helping you to become more social. I live with my parents, my sister lives abroad and I rarely see my bro. It was 40 years ago when my parents were at the same age as me, they are around 65 now when I'm 23 so my dad can't really help me only my mum but only with words that sometimes encourage me.
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Helping, yeah to an extent, but I wish there wasn't this constant, overbearing pressure upon me from my sister to be social. I just come across as akward, uncomfortable, and weird when I'm forced into a social situation - my mind goes blank and I barely say a word. I'm like that around my family, most of the time. Personally, I'd rather get the help I need to reduce the severity of my anxiety, and my other issues, before I consider socialising. I don't know... maybe that'd be more realistic? Thanks, anyway, Daniel.
 
bcsr

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Graeme1988 said:
Helping, yeah to an extent, but I wish there wasn't this constant, overbearing pressure upon me from my sister to be social. I just come across as akward, uncomfortable, and weird when I'm forced into a social situation - my mind goes blank and I barely say a word. I'm like that around my family, most of the time. Personally, I'd rather get the help I need to reduce the severity of my anxiety, and my other issues, before I consider socialising. I don't know... maybe that'd be more realistic? Thanks, anyway, Daniel.
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Honestly, the best advice for social anxiety that I ever got came from my dad, and it was "just do it". The best analogy I can think of to irrational fear is a shadow. The farther you run from it, the larger and more distorted the image becomes. If you move closer to the source, however, it starts to shrink and comes into clear focus.

That being said, you do have to start with small goals. :)
 
Graeme1988

Graeme1988

Hie yer hence from me heath!
MrJones said:
Alone, depressed, useless, worthless, dumb, ugly, and overall just a waste.
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I know how ya feel, mate. I've been feeling the same way, myself, lately. Anyway, hope ya feel better soon, Jonesy.
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Graeme1988

Graeme1988

Hie yer hence from me heath!
bcsr said:
Honestly, the best advice for social anxiety that I ever got came from my dad, and it was "just do it". The best analogy I can think of to irrational fear is a shadow. The farther you run from it, the larger and more distorted the image becomes. If you move closer to the source, however, it starts to shrink and comes into clear focus.

That being said, you do have to start with small goals. :)
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Good analogy, there. I agree, though, probably best to start small. :)
 
MikeyC

MikeyC

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starburst said:
Right now I'm feeling pretty optimistic and happy with myself. I've only just joined this site and I think it's a positive step in my ongoing recovery. So, "hi" to anyone who reads this...I hope to meet some nice and supportive folk on here. :)
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Welcome, fellow Australian.

1BlackSheep said:
Lol - never thought I'd have a SIL! ::eek:: I just called my mom and she's actually not all that fazed by it. She worked in San Francisco for many years and was around a lot of gays and transgenders, so it's not something new to her. I think it's affecting my sister more than she's let on though. There's something my sister didn't tell me though: she lost her job. It's bad enough for her to have to deal with the other issue and now this! So, looks like we have a lot to deal with going forward!
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Your sister will have a lot to deal with now. I'm sorry. ::(:

MrJones said:
Alone, depressed, useless, worthless, dumb, ugly, and overall just a waste.
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This is terrible, Jonesy. You know how to reach me if you need to talk.

bcsr said:
Honestly, the best advice for social anxiety that I ever got came from my dad, and it was "just do it".
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I hate this advice! I have a friend that tells me this and it's extremely unhelpful.
 
Lea

Lea

Banned
Like ****, regulary. And I will always feel this way, till the miserable end of my ****ty life. Only shoutings, shoutings, aggresivity, that´s my daily bread. I don´t even know who I am anymore. I can´t see any ways leading anywhere, don´t know what I want, where to go. I will never be able to change anything on this.
 
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