How are you feeling?

KiaKaha

Banned
So I was around people for an extended amount of time today, now I am feeling dejected and depressed. I bought a coffee from the super friendly coffee girl...who I observed to be very cheerful and pleasant to everyone....except for when I stepped up. Her face visibly dropped to discomfort and disgust. It happens to me all the time. I hate my stupid face.. that has to be the ONLY reason why people despise me so much.
 

coyote

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So I was around people for an extended amount of time today, now I am feeling dejected and depressed. I bought a coffee from the super friendly coffee girl...who I observed to be very cheerful and pleasant to everyone....except for when I stepped up. Her face visibly dropped to discomfort and disgust. It happens to me all the time. I hate my stupid face.. that has to be the ONLY reason why people despise me so much.

the face in your photos is perfectly normal, if not "above average"

perhaps what you took for discomfort and disgust was something different altogether

perhaps you make her feel uncomfortable because she's attracted to you
 

MikeyC

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I drove my mum's manual car today. I actually didn't do too bad which was surprising. I put the car in the wrong gear a couple of times and it's difficult getting the car moving from a stopped position, but otherwise it was fine. I still need to get more comfortable with it.

After a moment of clarity, I asked mum if she wanted to get lunch, to which she responded with an immediate and firm no. That ruined my desire to hang out with her more, as I had offered to pay for her, so it was lucky we went home. Throughout the time we spent, she probed me on careers and how I should be more social. I want to open up to her more, to tell her I'm not okay...but I stall. All the time. Maybe next time.

Anyway, the point is, the driving went well.
 

DeadmanWalking

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I drove my mum's manual car today. I actually didn't do too bad which was surprising. I put the car in the wrong gear a couple of times and it's difficult getting the car moving from a stopped position, but otherwise it was fine. I still need to get more comfortable with it.

After a moment of clarity, I asked mum if she wanted to get lunch, to which she responded with an immediate and firm no. That ruined my desire to hang out with her more, as I had offered to pay for her, so it was lucky we went home. Throughout the time we spent, she probed me on careers and how I should be more social. I want to open up to her more, to tell her I'm not okay...but I stall. All the time. Maybe next time.

Anyway, the point is, the driving went well.

Good for you Mikey:D!

Although I wonder what made her not want to eat lunch with you. Usually parents would jump at the chance to hang out with their children. Did you ask her why she didn't want to eat with you?

You'll get better at driving; all it takes is practice. So, why are you learning to drive manual? Are you getting a car soon?
 

MikeyC

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Good for you Mikey:D!

Although I wonder what made her not want to eat lunch with you. Usually parents would jump at the chance to hang out with their children. Did you ask her why she didn't want to eat with you?

You'll get better at driving; all it takes is practice. So, why are you learning to drive manual? Are you getting a car soon?
Thanks, dude. :)

All she thinks about is money. It'll cost too much and therefore it shouldn't be done. She and dad are the same like that - they crunch their money and always put some more on loans they have. I want them to one day just say "no more," and splash out on...well, anything. A holiday, a restaurant, a massage. They don't do anything and she would've probably felt guilty by getting me to pay. I rarely ask mum to do anything so that'll be the only time in a long while.

Both my parents drive a manual car so if there's ever a situation where I need to drive theirs, I'll know how. Plus it's kind of a starting point for a possible future employment option (which I've lost all motivation for, like most things in my life right now).
 

KiaKaha

Banned
the face in your photos is perfectly normal, if not "above average"

perhaps what you took for discomfort and disgust was something different altogether

perhaps you make her feel uncomfortable because she's attracted to you

mmmm.. I dont know. I wouldnt go as far to think she was attracted to me...at best I am simply average. I think...its because I look uncomfortable myself... people have told me I look like I have a lot on my mind, that I look worried/annoyed/sad all the time. Perhaps its that that is making people feel uncomfortable. I am paranoid about the way I look though. It just makes me feel bad because I always feel like I turn people off...that and that I am not really a bad guy when you get to know me.

Sorry to kind of break up the flow of the thread at the moment.
 
I drove my mum's manual car today. I actually didn't do too bad which was surprising. I put the car in the wrong gear a couple of times and it's difficult getting the car moving from a stopped position, but otherwise it was fine. I still need to get more comfortable with it.

After a moment of clarity, I asked mum if she wanted to get lunch, to which she responded with an immediate and firm no. That ruined my desire to hang out with her more, as I had offered to pay for her, so it was lucky we went home. Throughout the time we spent, she probed me on careers and how I should be more social. I want to open up to her more, to tell her I'm not okay...but I stall. All the time. Maybe next time.

Anyway, the point is, the driving went well.

Glad to hear your manual lesson went well Mikey.
Thats sad that your mum felt the need to annoy and pressure you about your careers and social life.
It must be so frustrating to not be able to discuss how your feeling with someone you should be able to rant with when you need to, without having to endure being questioned about things you don't want to talk about :/


So I was around people for an extended amount of time today, now I am feeling dejected and depressed. I bought a coffee from the super friendly coffee girl...who I observed to be very cheerful and pleasant to everyone....except for when I stepped up. Her face visibly dropped to discomfort and disgust. It happens to me all the time. I hate my stupid face.. that has to be the ONLY reason why people despise me so much.

I have seen your photo in the photo thread and I highly doubt her perceived expression of "discomfort and disgust" had anything to do with your face Shykiwi.
Maybe she was just tired at that moment. Maybe she realized how starving she was and was longing for lunch break etc. Maybe the last customer was rude or demanding and you just caught her expression in relation to them when they turned and left.
There could be many reasons that have to do with her expression and even what coyote suggested of her being nervous because she was attracted to you makes sense. I have worked in retail before, and I hated when I had to serve a good looking guy, as I was worried about making a mistake and saying the wrong thing to the customer.
Please don't automatically think her changed expression had anything to do with how you look. There could have been a million different reasons for it.:)
 

MikeyC

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Glad to hear your manual lesson went well Mikey.
Thats sad that your mum felt the need to annoy and pressure you about your careers and social life.
It must be so frustrating to not be able to discuss how your feeling with someone you should be able to rant with when you need to, without having to endure being questioned about things you don't want to talk about :/
She seems to do that a lot. She kept asking when I'd get a new car, or when I'd get a girlfriend, or a new job. I know she wants the best for me but it's not working. And yeah, I should be able to rant, but I know she won't be helpful. Her advice will be to "go out more," or to tell me what I should be doing and force that on me. It doesn't make for good conversation. I await the day in a year or two or whenever when she pressures me for grandkids.

Thanks for the kind words, BlueDays. :)


I have seen your photo in the photo thread and I highly doubt her perceived expression of "discomfort and disgust" had anything to do with your face Shykiwi.
I have to agree with this. You're a good-looking guy, KiwiDude. :)
 

megalon

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I'm feeling motivated right now for reasons unknown. I feel like maybe tomorrow I'll pick up where I left off in my effort to fix myself, instead of sliding backwards as I've been doing for the last year. Hopefully I can hold onto this feeling when I go to work in the morning.
 
I'm feeling motivated right now for reasons unknown. I feel like maybe tomorrow I'll pick up where I left off in my effort to fix myself, instead of sliding backwards as I've been doing for the last year. Hopefully I can hold onto this feeling when I go to work in the morning.

Grab that motivation, sink your claws into it and don't let it go for dear life megalon.:)
Having a motivated feeling is such a rarity for me that when it happens I find planning my days ahead can help keep the motivation going strong. I hope it lasts for you megalon.
 

Phoenixx

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I'm feeling motivated right now for reasons unknown. I feel like maybe tomorrow I'll pick up where I left off in my effort to fix myself, instead of sliding backwards as I've been doing for the last year. Hopefully I can hold onto this feeling when I go to work in the morning.
^ BlueDays basically said it for me. Take hold of that motivation and work with it as much as you can. Motivation isn't so rare as it is uncommon for me, but once I have it, I try my best to work with it, get as much done and progress as much as I can.

Hope it lasts a while. :)
 

this_portrait

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^ Oh? What are you taking exactly? Mind sharing? :)

I had to shoot these studio portraits of a person using an old-fashioned view camera. I'd share them, but I have yet to even develop the film, so at the moment I can't. I'll try to scan some of my work from that class when I get the time, though!
 

Srijita52

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Awful. I've to call my teacher today and cancel a class cos I'm feeling very sick. Now its just a phone call and I know I shouldn't be nervous about it, but I'm nervous as hell!! Ugh.... I'm so stupid!
 

DeadmanWalking

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Awful. I've to call my teacher today and cancel a class cos I'm feeling very sick. Now its just a phone call and I know I shouldn't be nervous about it, but I'm nervous as hell!! Ugh.... I'm so stupid!

Well, you've got to do what you've got to do. Take a deep breath and just dive. I don't think you can handle the consequence of not calling and them thinking that you're just skipping. I hope you feel better though! Drink lots of orange juice, eat hot food, and stay as warm as possible, okay?
 

Aletheia

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'll try to scan some of my work from that class when I get the time, though!

I hope you do, I'd love to see them.

Awful. I've to call my teacher today and cancel a class cos I'm feeling very sick. Now its just a phone call and I know I shouldn't be nervous about it, but I'm nervous as hell!! Ugh.... I'm so stupid!

When I still had my cat, I'd hold her for comfort when I had to do things like that. It's not stupid.

And I'm sorry to hear you're sick. I hope you feel better soon.
 

Srijita52

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Well, you've got to do what you've got to do. Take a deep breath and just dive. I don't think you can handle the consequence of not calling and them thinking that you're just skipping. I hope you feel better though! Drink lots of orange juice, eat hot food, and stay as warm as possible, okay?

When I still had my cat, I'd hold her for comfort when I had to do things like that. It's not stupid.

And I'm sorry to hear you're sick. I hope you feel better soon.

^I just called her and she said its okay. Thank you both for your kind advice :)
 

Srijita52

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I had to shoot these studio portraits of a person using an old-fashioned view camera. I'd share them, but I have yet to even develop the film, so at the moment I can't. I'll try to scan some of my work from that class when I get the time, though!

^I'd love to see them too!
 
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