Hopping along - Hoppy's journal

^good post Hoppy. 🙂

Lifted and adapted from this post on software development, but it sums up personal development so well.

Why is working on SA so tough?

People often see “Agile methodologies” as silver bullets – follow some simple rules and this will change your development process for the better.

I mean what else could be simpler? It will make you able to accept changing requirements late in the build process, build better quality and deliver faster. The honest truth is that just following these simple rules won’t help your process. The reason you’re looking for a change is usually because of the three reasons highlighted.

• You’ve got to accept that there are going to be some really tough questions that are highlighted.
  
  
• You’ve got to accept that you have to answer these questions to be successful. And you have to answer them honestly.
  
  
• Only you can answer these questions, not anybody else.
  

If you’re scared of answering tough questions and having tough conversations with yourself, then do not engage with these “methodologies”. Or if you do then be prepared to fail.

So who is “you” – it’s is the person living in your mind, being crushed by your low self-esteem, being crushed by fear.

The answers to these questions will inevitably lead to change, and once again this change has to be done in the correct manner. Embracing change, and ensuring that you are happy with the change is extremely hard to do – it needs time and effort from you.

It needs you to address your concerns, and be honest with yourself why the change is better than the status quo. You do want to change, don't you?

I've read this, and I cannot think of any moment in my life when I didn't feel lonely.

The opposite of loneliness

Hoppy said: ↑

I've read this, and I cannot think of any moment in my life when I didn't feel lonely.

The opposite of loneliness

It made me cry, I'm sorry you're lonely Hoppy.

Srijita52 said: ↑

It made me cry, I'm sorry you're lonely Hoppy.

I stopped crying a long time ago, but if you really want to cry, I've got another 3:30 am wake-up tomorrow morning for another market. Only 4 more Saturdays to go, and then he will be back.

And an inspirational video for all of you.

Steve Bradbury - Wide World Of Sports 01/11/2009 - YouTube

I had a good market, better than last week and I talked again to people. It really gets easier the more you do it, but after about two hours I stood back a bit. I needed a bit of a break and sometimes stuff just have to sell itself.

And I had another look at woman and decided I agree with what I wrote last week on attractiveness, except for one definately ugly woman, but she was so obese she was repulsive.

And I decided again I like children. I've seen a lot of them, all shapes and sizes, and enjoy interacting with them.

I'm glad you had a good market and also seems like you had a nice day.

Thanks Srijita, I just hope sales keeps on improving.

And I read the Washinton Post often online, but one part I always read is Date Lab. It is good to read about other people's blind dates, and it is also interesting to see that people do not have to like each other and that things don't always work out, and that it doesn't matter.

And I get tips for dates, one day when I get around to it. Any offers?

As one of his readers, the following bit of wisdom.

And a question for my readers; when was the last time you tried out your wings?

If we listened to our intellect, we'd never have a love affair.
We'd never have a friendship. We'd never go into business,
because we'd be cynical. Well, that's nonsense.
You've got to jump off cliffs all the time
and build your wings on the way down.
--Ray Bradbury

Hoppy said: ↑

As one of his readers, the following bit of wisdom.

And a question for my readers; when was the last time you tried out your wings?

I'm just learning to try out my wings, so my wings aren't still very strong though but I hope they grow stronger as I keep trying.

Hoppy said: ↑

...when was the last time you tried out your wings?

the last time i jumped off a cliff was probably 15 years ago

it's been 25 years since i jumped out of a moving aircraft

I think this is funny.

Armstrong and Miller - No One Wants to Be My Friend? - YouTube

I had another market this morning, the coldest day of the year this far. Sales were low, and I talked to very few people.

And I had another confusing thought about attraction. I saw two women at the same time, the one tall, blond, fashionably dressed and very pretty, and the other shorter, brown hair, ordinary clothes, pretty enough, and if I had to choose I would go for the shorter one.

It confuses me, this constant battle between my intellect and my instinct. Maybe I should go for a different option, like money.🙄

Not a good day at all for me, unpleasantness at work, I posted stuff I probably shouldn't have, and I've opened negotiations about something that is going to show up a lot of weaknesses in myself, so I am scared.

And just to add to the theme, a song that make me cry.

Adam Pascal - Pity the Child - YouTube

Hoppy said: ↑

And for any female out there who believes she is ugly: No, you are not.

That's sweet, Hoppy! 🙂

Hoppy said: ↑

And I had another confusing thought about attraction. I saw two women at the same time, the one tall, blond, fashionably dressed and very pretty, and the other shorter, brown hair, ordinary clothes, pretty enough, and if I had to choose I would go for the shorter one.

This too! 🙂

So yesterday's trouble spilled into today, so I ended up having to do a disciplinary inquiry, which is a fancy word for sitting in the sun calling people in one by one to have their say, and asking the occasional question.

For support and witnesses I had two of the senior guys sitting with me.

So picture this: a Mozambican, a Zulu, a Sotho and an Afrikaner having a meeting in Zulu, Sotho, Afrikaans and English. The Mozambican only able to speak limited English and Zulu, the Sotho and the Zulu speaking Sotho to each other, the Afrikaner speaking English to the Mozambican and Afrikaans to the Zulu and the Sotho, and all of us reaching some sort of a conclusion about what has been said.

Rince and repeat about 5 times with different men and women.

And when all was finished a Namibian came into the gate and asked for a job. And then he claimed to have been a soldier in Angola. I can only take so much nonsense in one day.

I wasn't very sweet.

That must've been tiring. I'm sorry.

Lifted from the facebook DIY CBT group.