Hopping along - Hoppy's journal

persianfan247 said: ↑

I wonder of gay people think their own sex is crazy and complicated.

Hoppy said: ↑

Today I sold 40 of these little jeeps, my biggest order so far. I started making these last year for an extra bit of income, and everybody seems to like them.

Hoppy said: ↑

I visited my only other friend yesterday.

I have not seen him for a while, and I realised that this friendship is over. Not because of any dramatic disagreement, but just because our lives had grown apart a lot, and the only reason we still have something to talk about is because of our shared history. It has been coming a long time, and if I do not initiate contact at all it would be over completely.

And I am not sure it would be worth the bother.

Scientific American, April 2012: In Brief:

Freezing under stress, a common experience for all of us at some point in our life, has its roots in a loss of control over “executive functions” that allow us to control our emotions.

Prefrontal cortical areas, which serve as the brain’s executive command centers, normally hold our emotions in check by sending signals to tone down activity in primitive brain systems.

Under even everyday stresses, the prefrontal cortex can shut down, allowing the amyg*dala, a locus for regulating emotional activity, to take over, inducing mental paralysis and panic.

Researchers are probing further the physiology of acute stress and are considering behavioral and pharmaceutical interventions to help us retain composure when the going gets tough.

Hoppy said: ↑

An interesting article in Scientific American on stress on the higher brain function...

coyote said: ↑

left in peace, i gravitate towards the void of doing nothing at all

coyote said: ↑

quite interesting

i seem to be one of those people that functions better under stress

left in peace, i gravitate towards the void of doing nothing at all

i then have to create a crisis situation in order to generate enough stress to propel me into action

seems that's the only way anything gets done

i can see why it would be exhausting to live with me

and why some people might choose not to

Hoppy said: ↑

It is called laziness.:😛:

If an asteroid is flying through space, it won't ever stop.

It just keeps flying and flying until something stops it.

If it's hurtling, it'll hurtle.

If it's trucking, it'll truck.

If it's drifting, it'll drift.

Forever and ever and ever, until something happens to change it.

We in the industry refer to the agent of change as "the
Interplanetary Space Fairy".

The Interplanetary Space Fairy comes in the night and does
something magical to the asteroid and makes it move, or change
direction, or stop.

(Yes, there is totally nighttime in space.)

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I've been noticing a trend among ittybiz owners.

OK, yes, I've been noticing it primarily in myself.

But that's only because I'm around me 24 hours a day.

You do it, too, I promise.



Let's say there's something you should be doing.

Actually, no.

Let's say there's something you WANT to be doing.

Hmm. That's not quite right either.

It would be more accurate to say that you want the results of
having done it.

Maybe it's optimizing for search engines.

Maybe it's following up with old customers.

Maybe it's getting off your ass and making some damn money already.

You find the task overwhelming, and when you consider beginning
work on it, you say:

"I'll get to it later."

(This is usually preceded by a guttural sound that, if spelled,
would look something like "ARGUKH".)



Now, I'm not coming out against putting things off. I'm actually a
huge fan of the practice.

(Some of my best friends put things off!)

I've found since childhood that in many cases, if you put something
off for long enough, someone else will do it for you.

Anecdotal evidence supports this.

When I sit in the corner and whine for iced tea for long enough,
yes, eventually Jamie or Dave or one of the ninjas will get one for
me.

The problem arises when I try to apply the same logic
indiscriminately.

If I sit in the corner and whine for a Facebook ad campaign, I
don't generally get the same result.



The problem with overwhelm
It seems that we, as ittybiz owners, have collectively agreed to
agree that the feeling of overwhelm is normal.

And we're right.

We've agreed that it's natural.

And we're right.

We've agreed that the only reasonable solution to overwhelm is to
ignore what we should be doing and find something funner to do
instead.



Not so fast there, tiger.

Because here's the thing.

If it's too hot to clean your oven, but the temperature will drop
20 degrees tomorrow, sure. Grab a beer and take a load off.

But if you live in Hawaii, it's not going to get any easier
tomorrow.

Or next month.

Or in 2015.

Nothing is ever going to change.

Same with ittybiz overwhelm.

And if you find it overwhelming today, you'll find it overwhelming
tomorrow.

When we start playing the "But it's so overwhelming!" card, we
don't stop to ask ourselves:

Do we have ANY evidence to support that it will be ANY less
overwhelming at ANY time in the future?

We do not.

"I will wait until it's less overwhelming," sounds perfectly
reasonable.

The perfectly synonymous "I will do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING about this
until the overwhelm fairy comes in the night" somehow does not.

But isn't that what we say? If we're honest?



May I offer some suggestions?

If this is you, I offer two possible courses of action.

(If your overwhelm stems from lack of a solid plan, we have a class
for that in a few weeks, so sitting around and waiting for THAT is
a valid exemption. It's called Your Next 6 Months - watch for it.)

1. Every time you suffer from overwhelm-related procrastination,
say these words out loud in front of a mirror:

"I will do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING about this until the overwhelm fairy
comes in the night."

Stand there and look at yourself until somebody blinks.

This is not to shame you or guilt you into action. This is to
assist you in reclaiming your status as an adult and taking full
responsibility for your plans and actions.

If your plan is to do nothing, look yourself in the eye and say so.

2. If that doesn't work, make a list of five to 10 things you've
been putting off due to overwhelm.

Find a supportive person, online or in real life. (If they're
online, schedule a quick Skype chat with them, ideally video so you
can see each other's faces.)

Read them your list, one item at a time.

After each item, pause for them to respond.

They should respond, "What is your plan for dealing with that?"

You should say:

"I will do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING about it until the overwhelm fairy
comes in the night."

Repeat with each item.

If your plan is to do nothing, look someone else in the eye and say
so.



On plans and acting like a grown-up
If you have a plan, own it.

Preach it.

Shout it from the rooftops.

If you wouldn't be comfortable shouting your plan from the
rooftops, perhaps it's time for a new plan.

Hoppy said: ↑

And my brother is off on holiday, and I have to go and man his stall at the market.

I have done it before, but since good sales means talking to lot of people I will have to talk to a lot of people to make good sales. The talking I can handle, but I've noticed that the anxiety keeps mounting so that halfway through the morning I have to get away for a while to relax.

And I have to stand up at 3:30 am, and it is now winter. Sympathy would be appreciated.

• The ones that as the conversation continue, I become more interested in, 20%.
  
• The ones that as the conversation continues, I become less interested in, 80%.