Has Someone You Liked Severed All Ties to You?

[Xervello]

It sucks, lol. To put it in a word. Well, two words. Have any of you ever had someone you love, or someone you care about, cut you out of their life completely? How did you deal with it?

I realize time is one answer. But man is that so unsatisfying to hear, lol. And time doesn't necessarily heal all wounds. Be they true loves or great friendships. These circumstances are awful for everyone, but for those of us with SA it really can be doubly cruel. Getting over someone is like pushing a boulder up a mountain whose height is unclear. Having SA is like pushing that boulder with a sack of rocks tied to each arm and each leg. But push it we must, eh.

:kickingmyself:

 

[Agent_Violet]

I've had it happen once or twice.It sucks.I don't think I'll ever really be over it but self reflection has made me learn to understand it and respect it.

 

[laure15]

On my dad's side, I had a cousin I actually got along with. I was able to open up to her more so than the other relatives. Then she started hating me probably because the other relatives told her to. At first I was sad but I got over it. I told myself I needed to respect people's rights and decisions. People have the right to come and go, I can't force them to stay.

 

[lauralaurent]

My two best friends in high school.

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

Yeah. Live and learn. Turns out, I'm better off without those kind of people.

 

[MollyBeGood]

I have severed all ties to others....

me too......

 

[MollyBeGood]

Yeah. Live and learn. Turns out, I'm better off without those kind of people.

I think when people are toxic and are hurting you like control, manipulation and abusive (not saying that was anyone's case here..) that it is healthy to cut ties with them.

 

[Hellhound]

I think when people are toxic and are hurting you like control, manipulation and abusive (not saying that was anyone's case here..) that it is healthy to cut ties with them.

I've done this and I feel a lot better since.

As for the OP's question. I had that happening once. He said he couldn't keep in contact with me anymore because his mom said so. I never facepalmed so much in my life.

 

[MollyBeGood]

I have two close family members I keep at arms length now. It is painful. Both are extremely manipulative and controlling. I am so happy to have one brother who is super cool. I wish we were closer.

Oh and my Ex. I have cut ties with him he was horrible for me/ to me in many ways. We pretty much were oil and water after awhile.

I lost a few close girl friends growing up because of my family not liking them at all. That sucks! Parents trying to completely control your social life.

 

[Kiwong]

Lack of communication is a two way street. No one has severed all ties with me that I have been desparate to keep in contact with. There are some that I have drifted oput of contact with that I would've liked to keep touch with. It was an amicable dirfting apart with those. I'm actually too shy to keep maintaining contact with people, I rarey make the first move to maintain contact

I really like my own company, getting together even with family is stressful with my anxiety.

 

[BlackPuma]

I've learned to accept that no matter how close I am to someone, they'll eventually leave. I've lost over a dozen people whom I thought (at the time) I'd be friends with forever.

Now I just try to relish and enjoy the company I have for the time they decide the relationship is worth.

 

[mikebird]

100%
:sad:

All family
friends
girlfriends
employers

Links made
all lost
enemies made

People who read this are my only contact
:crying:

 

[Xervello]

100%
:sad:

All family
friends
girlfriends
employers

Links made
all lost
enemies made

People who read this are my only contact
:crying:

That sucks, Mike.

 

[LoyalXenite]

My (at the time) best friend randomly cut off all ties with me, stopped replying to my texts, calls and such. It went on for a few months with me trying to contact her and her ignoring me, i even went to a party of hers (i had been invited months prior) and she barely acknowledged me. Its been about 6 months or so and i gave up about 3 months ago, i later found out that she cut out pretty much all her old friends because she has new ones now.

 

[selon]

Yeah the guy I fell in love with when I was 15, and ten years later I'm still not over it.
p-a-t-h-e-t-i-c I've given up contacting him a long time ago but I still didn't move on. And one of my best friends became religious and since then she's barely in touch with me anymore.

 

[planemo]

yeah i guess so. internet friends from years back who just decided not to have anything to do with me anymore. i liked them all, but as friends. i suppose the feelings weren't mutual.

 

[SilentBird]

I've had people that I've gotten close to sever ties with me. It took me a long time, up to many years, to get over them. I don't miss them at all now. I decided that they were meant to be in my life temporarily. I'm only interested in people who are presently in my life.

 

[jaim38]

^Great quote. I might include it in my signature.

 

[SilentBird]

^Great quote. I might include it in my signature.

:blushing: Thanks.