Easier for girls to get boyfriends even with social phobia

[Pookah]

Then why are so many of us on here single?
*Sigh*

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

It might be more accurate to say that women are more likely to be approached by guys they don't know who want to boink them.

 

[Felgen]

You can't fault a guy for trying to sleep with a woman. I mean in the context of approaching her with the sole intention of sleeping with her. Most men who approach women aren't thinking that they want a relationship with her. Casual sex is much a much more realistic expectation even if that isn't likely to happen.

Depends on where the woman is approached. If a woman is approached in church, I doubt it's because anyone is looking for an one night stand. On the other hand, if she's approached in a bar, it's naive to think that it will lead to anything more than sex.

 

[Pookah]

You can't fault a guy for trying to sleep with a woman. I mean in the context of approaching her with the sole intention of sleeping with her. Most men who approach women aren't thinking that they want a relationship with her. Casual sex is much a much more realistic expectation even if that isn't likely to happen.

That casual sex is a more realistic expectation than someone looking for an actual connection is maybe why a lot of girls have it harder than this thread wants to admit. I feel like more women want relationships than men do.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

You can't fault a guy for trying to sleep with a woman. I mean in the context of approaching her with the sole intention of sleeping with her. Most men who approach women aren't thinking that they want a relationship with her. Casual sex is much a much more realistic expectation even if that isn't likely to happen.

I can't and don't! What I mean is that isn't the same as getting a boyfriend--it's the thread title I was referring to.

If a woman is approached in church, I doubt it's because anyone is looking for an one night stand.

Maybe. But I'm pretty sure men want to boink women no matter what the building is. ::

 

[Eam]

Then why are so many of us on here single?
*Sigh*

I think there's the risk of making women feel bad when you start threads like this which isn't really thought about. Talking about women getting things 'easy' in the dating world can leave the ones that aren't doing so well to feel worse, I can imagine.

 

[SlanGodhand]

Im a women and ive never been in a relationship.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

LOL Yep, probably even in the confessional.

Oo, kinky! ::

 

[coyote]

I can definitely agree with this one. You know, I realized that some (not all) women are promiscuous because they're taught and they experience that many guys out there basically only want sex (I'm not saying all) so they sleep around because they think that's the only kind of love they'll ever get out of men. Does that make sense? They want the warmth, affection, and the emotions that come with physical intimacy. If they can't get love out of a man then they may as well get the sex because that offers physical intimacy and the very much needed warmth that all humans crave.

I think you are right. There are alot of men like this, too. In fact, that's why alot of guys are after sex in the first place - they have been taught that sex = intimacy. This leads us back to the beginning.... very vicious circle.

 

[coyote]

Yes! Furthermore, some men are taught that they ought to only pursue sex as opposed to relationships because that's what "real men" do.

I think that many men believe that having sex IS a relationship. Or vice versa.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I think that many men believe that having sex IS a relationship. Or vice versa.

I think you may be onto something. Especially if they haven't had a lot of experience with either.

 

[Elad]

I don't think having boobs and a vagina makes getting a partner easier, maybe sex because everyone knows how guys are.

I think more than anything it depends on the person and their characteristics, I mean there are some beautiful women on here without partners despite how many lonley/desperate guys must hit on them.

 

[Pookah]

Basically, just about any woman can get sex no matter age, sex, looks...all she has to do is be willing and there will be at least someone out there who would take her up on a sex offer in a heartbeat.

And I agree with the second thing you wrote as well. It is very true.

Hence prostitution.

 

[HeavyRain]

I always find myself attracted to the quiet guys more than the loud ones. And in quiet, I mean the type that is insecure and not confident....because they're just like me. I feel at ease in finding someone who I can relate to, and who can relate to me. The extroverted guys are more intimidating and straight forward. I feel safer with someone who I can be comfortable with, without the fear of being judged.

 

[WorldEndsWithMe]

I think it's easier for girls to hook up with someone... If a girl goes to a club with the intention of hooking up, some guy will take her, it's not really a challenge. Whereas a guy goes to a club looking to hook up? He may end up going home alone. A twisted reflection on sexual conflict/evolution. haha just kidding...

But dating? I'm not sure girls have an easier time, we just face different challenges. I went to the Stampede with my friend, we both dressed up really pretty and I had guys coming up to me going "oh your friend is so hot". Ouch. just ouch. What do I even say to that? Thank you? As if I'm responsible for her being hot lol. Did they think I was going to help them with the hook up? They basically just insulted me! Insensitive I tell you.
Often girls do the "sneaky first move" as I like to call it. It's where they try and manipulate the guy into asking them out, because often the girl lacks the confidence to ask the guy out herself. Flirting with him, asking him to "hang out", stuff like that.
And guys, lets be honest. If a girl just randomly approached you and asked you out, you'd probably reject her or get awkward about it.

Both guys and girls have pretty steep expectations to meet when it comes to dating, I think.

 

[AGR]

Its easier for some alright,men are expected to do the initiating,as long as a girl is pretty she will have guys after her,she can even be an airhead,I have seen this even here.

 

[Zeyla]

As a girl, I like it that the guy has to do the asking... I think dating would be so much harder if I had to do it myself

 

[Felgen]

And guys, lets be honest. If a girl just randomly approached you and asked you out, you'd probably reject her or get awkward about it.

If she was serious, I'd go out with her.

 

[Waybuloo]

In the eyes of dominant ideaology:
Women + quiet, shy, inhibited = acceptable
Men + quiet, shy, inhibited = weakness

I don't really think there is any debate needed over this. And the thread started only said it was "easier" for women, I don't think he implied that it wasn't difficult. I am postive it is still very difficult for both genders, but obviously women with SA have ideology working more in their direction then men with SA do.

I don't know what type society you are from, but I've experienced ridicule from both East Asia and Anglo Saxon countries for being quiet and non talkative, from men and women old and young alike. I don't think it is true that females are accepted for being quiet/shy/inhibited, at least it wasn't true from my experience. I got criticised from my own grandparents for being too quiet and 'weak mannered' so it's not even like the older generation can tolerate it better.

You might argue that women get approached more and hence have it easier, but all the men that approaced me were not the type that I was interested in... i've only been approached like twice? in my life, not counting once in a night club cause I know what they were after..

 

[Waybuloo]

You can't fault a guy for trying to sleep with a woman. I mean in the context of approaching her with the sole intention of sleeping with her. Most men who approach women aren't thinking that they want a relationship with her. Casual sex is much a much more realistic expectation even if that isn't likely to happen.

TBH i'd respect a guy more, yes respect, if he makes it clear that he only wants sex and nothing more, maybe friends with benefits, rather than tricking you into thinking he wants a relationship. At least he lays things out on the table and isn't manipulating your emotions into the mix.