Do you still want to have children?
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razzle dazzle rose
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I would like the experience...though I really don't want to have kids. I have known this for a long time. People tell me my mind will change, everybody wants kids after all (well, ends up with them). My mind hasn't changed and I am 29. Soon I won't be able to anyway 'cause my eggs will dry up blah blah blah.
Kiwong
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Well even if wanted to, it takes two to make happy families and it seems a whole generation has given me the big thumbs down in the potential baby maker department.
There are a whole range of other hoops to be able to jump through to get to the desire to have children. Dating, relationships, sex, marriage and thus far I have not made it through a single hoop.
An perhaps I am thinking things didn't work out so bad for me anyway.
There are a whole range of other hoops to be able to jump through to get to the desire to have children. Dating, relationships, sex, marriage and thus far I have not made it through a single hoop.
An perhaps I am thinking things didn't work out so bad for me anyway.
hoddesdon
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lilmutegirl
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I already have one, and I am 99% sure I don't want more now. I used to want 2, but I wanted them 2 years apart, and my son is about to turn 5. I also don't think I'd like to be pregnant again, and would be way too stressed to deal with two children.
Sometimes, I regret having a child (or at least, having a child in the situation that I did), but he's the light of my life and he makes me much happier than I have been in the past. I didn't have him to have somebody who loves me, but it is a nice perk.
Sometimes, I regret having a child (or at least, having a child in the situation that I did), but he's the light of my life and he makes me much happier than I have been in the past. I didn't have him to have somebody who loves me, but it is a nice perk.
How_slow_the_Wind
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No. When I finish my Bachelors I'm going to apply for a Masters of Education, so I will be spending the majority of my life around children. There is also the whole gay thing where we are not even allowed to adopt children in Victoria! Plus, I would feel guilty for not being the best parental role model for the child because of my own deficiencies with integrating in society. What if they grew up to resent you; which hasn't happened with my parental relationships but is not exactly an uncommon outcome.
MsBuzzkillington
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It only takes one loving parent to make a family. You could adopt a child and raise them. Many, many, many kids have single parents and grow up perfectly fine. If you want a kid, there is really nothing to stop you from achieving that dream/goal one day.
As far as me personally, I absolutely do not want kids. Noo *runs away*
Kiwong
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No, at times of my life, not for many years, I would have preferred to have my own children and the other things that tradtionally go with it you know love, a relationship.
My brother and sister were adopted and that experience can be traumatic for children when they find out they are adopted. So, no I wouldn't adopt.
Like I said, I think things actually worked out for the best as me as childless.
MsBuzzkillington
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Well, it could be traumatic to a child to find out they are adopted. But it could also be the absolute best thing you could do for a child. My three cousins are adopted and they have known since they were really young that they were adopted. My aunt and uncle have been open with them about everything. They are absolutely happier here and they have a great life. Also, growing up in foster care and never getting adopted can be pretty traumatic as well.
I understand your reasons for wanting to do things and I am not trying to argue with you or change your mind. Just saying that just because something bad might happen to them when they find out they are adopted doesn't mean adoption couldn't be a positive life changing event for a child.
There is also surrogate mothers. But I understand, I am just saying in general a person could do it on their own if they ever wanted to.
ultra_materialist
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Maybe, but not in Brazil.
coyote
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coyote
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Re: seven billion and counting
i know, right?
something i learned the hard way
You mean - it isn't?
i know, right?
something i learned the hard way
Wouldn't it be more traumatic for a homeless child NOT to be adopted?
WeirdyMcGee
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Can also foster or adopt older kids as well. Ones who are old enough to know they're being adopted.
Slightly less traumatic, perhaps-- but much more work for them to feel accepted and loved by their new family.
I was always part of a blended family.
My brother is half, loads of younger step-siblings, fostered kids, brought in troubled youth as well.
Slightly less traumatic, perhaps-- but much more work for them to feel accepted and loved by their new family.
I was always part of a blended family.
My brother is half, loads of younger step-siblings, fostered kids, brought in troubled youth as well.
coyote
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Re: something i learned the hard way
makes perfect sense to me
we're one of the few species who engage in sex as a sign of affection and not merely as copulation
so by removing the chance of conception, you're not making babies, you're "making love"
makes perfect sense to me
we're one of the few species who engage in sex as a sign of affection and not merely as copulation
so by removing the chance of conception, you're not making babies, you're "making love"
MollyBeGood
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if I found the right person, under the right circumstances...maybe. But there are enough people in the world already, so I don't go gaga over the idea.