Do you socialize as poorly online as you do in real life?

[youhatemyusername]

the forums bother me more than most other things. I feel like if I say something stupid here, it stays here forever, whereas if I say something stupid in chat or in the real world, it can at least be quickly forgotten.

 

[hippiechild]

reviving a dead thread possibly...
I really hate talking to people online if I know them. I can be fairly social with them, be friendly and they think that I'm "cool" and "yah, we should hang out sometime!" Which is exactly bad
When I see them in real life I have trouble talking to them and they must wonder why. They probably think, "He just hides behind the internet but is a total loser in real life"
So I try my hardest not to be more social online than real life, so that people won't find any inconsistency and declare me a person who only feels safe online. On SPW I type out long posts sometimes, but that's more like sharing essays...not actual conversation.

 

[noone]

Maybe it sounds like Pollyannaism lol: but you are so lucky to speak English clearly.There are some guys who can hardly write a sentence like me. Perhaps Im the only one. I feel like Im being judged harshly all the time :roll:

 

[Argamemnon]

I don't have fear online at all. I can post whatever I want.

 

[samk]

in some ways forums/chats are worst then in real life for me
because i don't have much to say online sometimes and then my mind is blank and i try too hard to think of something to type but i just can't so until they type back or i finally type back there's nothing said and i hate that
most people i chat with online i only chat with them once because i bore them
i think in ways i am more judge online then in real life


on forums i have nothing much to say at times so i barely use them

but in real life when my mind goes blank it not as bad as online
because they can see you face to face and i think i can say things easier in real life then online

 

[outcastlonerfreak]

I do not feel that I socialize that well online but it is definitely better and easier for me than in person. I prefer it even if I think that I sound stupid or something.

 

[friendchen]

For me.. real life and online life are just the same now. In real life, I got classmates and people you call as "friends". But the relationship I had with them is "I give you this and you give me that" sort of relationship. So, except in school, I don't hang out with them. And my family and I don't have close relationship too. So, I usually go out alone, do things alone, I even go shopping alone. I've been to cinema only 3 times in my whole entire life. One was with my family when I was 12 or something. And the other two were with my classmates (the experience was bad, it was a comedy and all the people in the cinema were laughing till their head off and I couldn't laugh!!, after the movie..my classmates asked me "why?" I just smiled and they never asked me out again). But I'm really fine with business relationship. I can interact very well in non-personal way.

And my online life is suck. I got only one friend..the first man I've ever chatted with..now he's gone and its over and I don't need to go to chat site anymore. I've chatted with others but just can't have an intimate friendship. Start with a "hi" and then "how you doing" and I don't know what to type next if they don't type me back except from "I'm fine".

 

[mummylala]

Yep, i signed up to this forum in March( i think!!! ) and it took me until a few days ago to start posting... ( i wish i had of done it sooner though )

I am on Facebook and all that stuff but i dont really speak to many people

 

[Lightning]

I don't have fear online at all. I can post whatever I want.

I fully agree with this.

As far as posting on this forum, I don't know why anyone would be uncomfortable with that. So far everyone that I have seen respond is more than happy to help you with whatever you need and give advice as best to their knowledge. That's what drew me in so fast.

 

[Luke1993]

I like to think I do better online.

 

[lyricalliaisons]

I don't really "socialize" online, but I do occasionally talk to some people. There are only a few people online I really "talk" to at all. I wish I had more people to talk to, or at least that the ones I do talk to would talk to me more often, but I'm still lonely all the time.

That all being said, in real life, I have zero friends & talk to no one except for my mom. Online, at least I talk to some people sometimes, so it's definitely better online than off.

I don't know how old you are, but I'm 28 & it seems most people here are years younger than me (late teens to early twenties), but there are also people here in their forties. These people won't judge you. I haven't been judged by anyone in a long time. I used to get judged a lot when I first joined, but it doesn't happen as much anymore. When people do judge you, just ignore them. They don't know your situation & are just ignorant & are probably being rude to you to make themselves feel better.

 

[Ignace]

Sometimes, depends on it. Online with people I don't know I'm comfortable and there's no problem. Online with classmates is exactly the same as in real life.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I have become relatively comfortable socializing online, especially posting on a board where I have time to think about responses. Easier than real time, and much easier than in person.

 

[AidanKay]

I tend to do a lot better online then in real life, as my social anxieties are based on my appearance.

Generally I'm an outgoing, funny (apparently) person which comes out only when I'm online, drunk or really comfortable with the people I'm around.

-Aidan.

 

[oel]

I sometimes envy people that develop strong relationships online, sometimes they even meet up in real life. There always seems to be a wall between me and whoever Im talking to. I feel like I live a very boring life, I never have anything special to talk about, hence nothing to spark any interest about me. My conversations tend me be about things like art, music etc, or what the other person is up to, nothing about me except boring downer crap about how bad my anxiety is.

 

[EscapeArtist]

I can't do chatrooms, and i'm almost as nervous in messenger-type chats. Forums are a little different, becuase i'm given all the time I need, and I feel as if i'm not speaking to anybody specifically, just writing down thoughts. Although i'm still nervous about forums...heh.. ...

 

[Shy_Gurl2007]

I think it is easier to socialize online than in person. At least this way, if you embarrass yourself, you can just walk away. It does take me forever to summon the courage to send an IM or a message on Myspace and/or Facebook. I just feel like people don't care to talk to me online. I don't know, it's crazy.

 

[bigrob]

On forums I'm generally fine. I have plenty of time to think out answers and even not respond if I choose to. On other boards I'm respected for my knowledge on various subjects.

I don't do chat rooms or IM though.

 

[huzzah]

Yes. Whenever I work up the guts to post something on a forum like this, I spend forever obsessing over whether people will read it and think I'm a complete idiot. When it comes to real-time chat rooms, I am rarely ever brave enough to say anything, but if I do get the courage, I'll just post one thing, and whenever someone responds, I'll panic and leave.

 

[EvilFlyingCow]

yeah I have to get drunk to even socialize online... sad.

BTW - I just noticed the word 'socialize' and related words bring of feelings of anger inside me. Anyone experience this?