Do you have no idea if you're good looking or not?

JamesSmith

Well-known member
On dating sites, mediocre or even ugly women get plenty of mails. It seems to me that a lot of pretty girls have self-esteem issues (just take a look at this site, for instance)--and it also seems like a lot of ugly girls think they're sh!t hot because desperate guys hit on them (nobody who've posted their picture here are ugly, though).

Yeah I think you're right, and now I know that you agree with the fact that women get more mail on dating websites than men.
 

6string

Member
I guess I know I'm good looking..I see it and other people say it, but one big however is that I don't carry myself in a way that seems as if I believe it. My Mom was beautiful not just cuz she was my mom, everyone thinks so, and I look just like her even though I'm a guy. It'd kinda be a disgrace to her memory to say I was unattractive.
 
I really have no idea. One girl did look once at me when I was sat on a park bench smoking a cigarette, but I think that's because I had a million cig dimps around me and she was a non smoker.

Yeah, I have no idea if I am attractive at all. I did have a gf for a couple of months but she just wanted to control and manipulate everything I did. So really I just thought she wanted a relationship with me for the insecurities in her life.

Never mind though, costs too much to be in a relationship.
 

Pookah

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There are times when I think my face is all right, I hate my body. Then I remember the mirror flips your image so that what you see isn't actually what other ppl see. So then I look at pictures or reverse mirror images and I hate my face too.
 
There are times when I think my face is all right, I hate my body. Then I remember the mirror flips your image so that what you see isn't actually what other ppl see. So then I look at pictures or reverse mirror images and I hate my face too.

You looked great in the photos I saw you in. Elf ears or not.

Don't be too hard on yourself. I think you are a very attractive young women.
 

Walk

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It's kind of interesting. Sometimes I think I'm ugly, other times I think I'm good looking, and other times, average looking.

I'm trying not to let it bother too much. A well groomed, decently dressed individual with something to talk about is always intriguing, regardless of looks.
 

Walk

Well-known member
Well, as some people have said, I don't know either.
Sometimes I consider myself attractive, sometimes average, sometimes ugly.
Well, as long as you're well groomed, dress decently, and attempt to carry yourself without looking too depressed or angry, it should increase your appearance and vibe a notch or two.
 

EscapeArtist

Well-known member
I feel ashamed to make people look at my rancid self by going outside.
honestly it's one of the main things that holds me back. If not THE main thing.
 

JamesSmith

Well-known member
I've heard that I'm attractive from some people b4, but what sucks is the fact that when people look at me the first thing they notice a lot of the time is shyness. Instead of being labeled as a good looking guy, I'm labeled as a shy guy. It takes away the happiness and confidence that a good looking guy who isn't shy gets. I almost feel like I'm wasting my looks because I never have a g/f and never even hang out with any1. I've been trying to tell myself that I didn't choose what I look like, which helps a little. It's just society ticks me off when they expect people that aren't ugly to have love lives. I don't know if that made sense to everyone, i was just trying to express how i'm feeling now.
 

Minty

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I don't think my face offends people but I've never been given attention (flirted with, stared at, etc.) Soooooo...yeah. Hoping in the distant future I'll find someone who likes my personality, lol. Someone avoidant like I am, who doesn't really care about looks. Those fade anyways, no matter how attractive you are. :3
 

ikbenrifi

Well-known member
i have no idea, sometimes i find my self attractive and sometimes not, but generally i think more caring of myself would make me attractive
 

sorrow1

Well-known member
I dont know, I must be somewhere between a 5 "pinter" and a 9 that seems to be the level of beer goggles Ive been approached with recently. Would be nice to have a sober rating for once. Cant think thats ever happened before though.
 

LookingForward

Well-known member
I've never considered myself to be attractive, quite the opposite, but I've always had my fair share of attention from women which sure as hell couldn't have been because of my sparkling personality :rolleyes: so I guess my looks must have something to do with it, not sure though...
 

Daz

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I have no idea. People tend to stay away from me and I have no idea why. I wouldn't say i was ugly if i was to be honest.
 

Richey

Well-known member
from front on i think i look really cool and good looking but from side on i think i look really ugly and i think its a weird scenario to have that happen but i think i look a little scrawny and disjointed from side on but from front on i look pretty good.

something that really throws me if i am trying on clothes at the shops where the mirrors are on each wall in the change rooms, i actually give myself a shock that i look "like that" from side on.

hard to explain.
 

Sick Nick

Active member
No idea. I've always been shy and awkward. Would always self loath and focus on every imperfection thinking I'm not good enough. Always thought it was going to take someone kind and accepting to accept me as I am. Only one girl ever showed me any interest and she moved away shortly after a first date. It's hard with the social anxiety, fear of rejection. Just want to find somebody you can just be around and not have to be some kind of superman. I think women are in search of that strong man that can take care of them and be their rock. It's a fight anymore just to find a decent job, then the wait to get a car, the apartment, etc. Life seems to be just about patience and endurance more than anything. Whether it be in my 30's or 40's I will eventually get the car, the apartment or house, and hopefully find love. Got to work for everything though. Even harder with a mental disorder. Putting yourself out there and forcing yourself to do things you don't want to do but need to do. I wish the world was a more positive and social environment.
 
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