Hey guys. I can definitely relate to all of you. There have been numerous times i have been told I'm too quiet, I'm shy, and even someone told me in a sarcastic tone that I was a great conversationalist. Well, to me personally i don't think it's right. In fact, i don't think it's fair either. The same thing affects a loudmouth person as well. Some examples like this would be like "Wow, you talk too much", or "Do you ever shut up?" I think people who do such things, aren't considering the other people's feelings at all. Now, I'm not saying that all outgoing, talkative people would go far as to flat out tell somebody that they're quiet/shy. I do believe that there are talkative people who are nice and friendly to others(hopefully). I'm saying certain loud mouths have the nerve to just automatically assume that if a person doesn't talk much, then they think it's alright to just flat out tell them that they are quiet, disregarding their feelings. Gladly, I'm not one of those people that would ever do that. Not if it's my family, friends, loud people, or heck, even people who are like me. I don't need to go to that extent because it just shows I have respect for other people's feelings. Plus, I love how if I can still have like a small communication with people, I'm still called out as quiet.. It just doesn't make sense to me. I mean instead of calling out a person who's quiet/shy, rather try to to get to know that person better. So, to some of the more verbose people who are reading this, just know this: Realize that not all people are going to have the same fun, bubbly, personality as you do. Also, realize a person who is quiet/shy already knows that and doesn't need to be told so. That's all I had to say.[/QUOTE
One time at work, i was in the upstairs stock room, and it was just me and the stock room manager he was doing paper work and stuff on the computer, i was just picking tickets and cleaning. he turns round to me and in a really sarcastic voice goes stop making so much noise your so loud. i wanted the ground to swallow me up. they all call me at lerch at work out of the adams family as well, i just want to get on with work and then go home. at our christmas party as well our manager introduced me to people as alex who doesnt say much.
I concur. In some countries, and I'm not sure if it's just China or Japan, but speaking out is considered rude and so being quiet or shy may not be such a bad thing. Maybe it's just a western concept. I've lived in Canada for most of my life and have been asked a number of times why I'm so shy and couldn't really come up with any reasonable answer. It makes me wonder if it's like illegal or something to be seen as too mysterious. I thought maybe it's because people are concerned that I might have issues with them as it could mean I'm giving them a "silent treatment."
It used to bother me 'cause like I said, it's as if people who ask such a question have a hard time tolerating those who are too quiet. People who are talkative or loud tend to gravitate to those who are just like them... it gives them a thrill I guess. I mean, that's just how I've always interpreted it when someone comments on my "quiet" or "shyness" as though it's a bad thing. People who don't mind that you're shy won't make a comment and usually prefer to have you around over those who are loud (they require constant monitoring 'cause they can't help it when they get excited lol
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Hey guys. I can definitely relate to all of you. There have been numerous times i have been told I'm too quiet, I'm shy, and even someone told me in a sarcastic tone that I was a great conversationalist. Well, to me personally i don't think it's right. In fact, i don't think it's fair either. The same thing affects a loudmouth person as well. Some examples like this would be like "Wow, you talk too much", or "Do you ever shut up?" I think people who do such things, aren't considering the other people's feelings at all. Now, I'm not saying that all outgoing, talkative people would go far as to flat out tell somebody that they're quiet/shy. I do believe that there are talkative people who are nice and friendly to others(hopefully). I'm saying certain loud mouths have the nerve to just automatically assume that if a person doesn't talk much, then they think it's alright to just flat out tell them that they are quiet, disregarding their feelings. Gladly, I'm not one of those people that would ever do that. Not if it's my family, friends, loud people, or heck, even people who are like me. I don't need to go to that extent because it just shows I have respect for other people's feelings. Plus, I love how if I can still have like a small communication with people, I'm still called out as quiet.
One time at work, i was in the upstairs stock room, and it was just me and the stock room manager he was doing paper work and stuff on the computer, i was just picking tickets and cleaning. he turns round to me and in a really sarcastic voice goes stop making so much noise your so loud. i wanted the ground to swallow me up. they all call me at lerch at work out of the adams family as well, i just want to get on with work and then go home. at our christmas party as well our manager introduced me to people as alex who doesnt say much.
I'm sorry to hear about your story. I know that many people make assumptions, but don't let those kind of things happen to you. I know some people who'd rather be with a quiet person than the loud ones. Plus, here's a good comebacks(and to all the quiet people who have been told they are quiet) when someone tells you you're quiet; "Yeah, and your point being" "Oh, I've been told, but thanks anyhow" or you could just say nothing at all. I think silence could be your best weapon because some of them usually don't know how to react.
Or "hate", which eventually leads to "suffering" as Master Yoda would say. :
