Do you feel depressed after reading facebook?

[ella12]

Well with some of my more popular friends, yes I feel kinda jealous of their successes while I'm just sitting around bored half the time. I don't have many friends on facebook as most of my friends, just people I felt I had a 'connection' with in k-12, college, life, etc.

But sometimes people post things that make me smile. Jokes and cute quotes.

 

[regan]

i creep on facebook with a fake account, too. rofl.
makes me feel so distant.. which is a double edged sword.

 

[Orbital]

It depresses me too. What I also hate about fb is if someone on my friends list goes to my page and sees the lack of activity on my wall they must think I'm a loser. I know this shouldn't bother me as much as it does but I can't help it. There's a lot of people I could add but don't because I don't want them to see my page.

 

[EscapeArtist]

I know a solution! Delete it! Facebook is one of most useless inventions of our time (probably not for business). You dont need it. But you want it. Coz you feel like you need to be like everyone else. Dont be a sheep. Why everyone from your so called "friends" need to know everything about you. Privacy FTW. Where does this world go :/

Haha YES! Petrified Eyes brought up a very good point also.

I only have facebook kicking around because there's an old childhood friend on there that I talk to every once in awhile, and because I started a group that began to grow and now I don't want to just ditch it. You don't have to get on it, though A lot of the time, that website is used for hiding behind a persona. I don't ever see long winded complaints streaming across people's statuses, and everybody has those days. One sided.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

I don't know about ideal lives... I'm the kind of person that people often confide in in real life for some reason. The problems I usually hear are of the kind.. "I'm worried that our new marriage won't have the finances and my parents in law want me to get a better job..." or "I've this gambling problem, I can't seem to save any money at all. I'm working two jobs now to fund my habit..."

It's seldom along the lines of completely having no life at all. Sometimes I think I'm really completely invisible and wonder if I exist at all to anyone.

No one likes to feel invisible, but sometimes I'd rather be invisible than have to deal with other problems. I don't mean to minimize what you're feeling, Dronee. What I mean is that problems are problems regardless of their severity. Maybe someone's financial problems affect them the same as your feelings of being invisible affect you.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

Yeah, FB is an overcompensator's haven. Not saying everyone who uses FB is like that, but a lot of people use it to just brag about the best aspects of their lives.

It's funny that you say that because there's one person I have on FB who keeps writing about some important job/jobs, but someone else told me that he's not doing anything at the moment. I can't judge the veracity of either claim, but it's possible that this guy has a good job since his dad is in a position to hook him up.

 

[Aussie_Lad]

Other people's lives looks all rosy from the outside, but delve into it a bit and you will find that they have worrys and concerns. Many will experience a broken heart, some will divorce their partner. A lot will have huge credit card debts and struggle to pay the bills having kids and a large mortgage to worry about. The CEOs of large organisations may have huge stress and work long hours with little family time.

It is silly to compare your life to anyone elses. You all are unique individuals experiencing a unique life. It is easy to say that other's have it better off than you, but everyone has their own challenges that test them. There may be a few individuals that truly have a great life, but only those that listen to their spirit and not their ego may get to experience this.

 

[HH]

I hardly go on facebook and when I do its just to send someone a email straight to them....the novelty has defiantly worn off for me, really can't be bothered with updating my status and all that crap. Got more important things to do like eat and sleep.

 

[quietkiwi]

I've found it depressing to see what others are upto at times, and the number of people they have as "friends". Comparing yourself to others never seems to be a good idea when your feeling down though I've fallen into the trap. I'm sure some people find it a really great way to socialise but I don't like the fact it's taking away from some of the traditional closer friendships. Agree that people on here are a lot more genuine from what I've found. And when I see two people who never spoke to each other at high school, never went to uni together and are living on opposite sides of the world are now friends in FB I realise how much friend collecting goes on in FB.

 

[Obstacle 1]

I did for a while, but then I realised that nobody's life is as peachy keen as it seems..

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

It irritates me when people I don't know or hardly know send me friend requests. There are a few people from high school that I'm pretty sure didn't like me. Now, people do change, but I don't see why they want to be FB buddies when they either didn't talk to me or weren't all that nice. Come to think of it...I have two incoming friend requests to ignore.
Quietkiwi is absolutely right about the friend collecting. It's ****ing annoying. I can't say that I post any personal or private business on FB and my photoalbums are all set so that only I can view them, but I don't want people nosing around to have something to talk about. What I enjoy most about FB is interacting with my friends via e-mail and comments. Oh, and seeing how my pictures turn out.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I don't feel depressed after reading facebook. Maybe I've just gotten to an age where I no longer give a rat's ass. I can remember feeling jealous and depressed about how everyone else had an exciting life filled with parties and such--long ago, like in high school.

I rarely post anything on FB, and I don't tend to reveal anything personal when I do. Mostly I respond or comment on other people's posts, and use it for easy and private communications with friends.

 

[Dronee]

Other people's lives looks all rosy from the outside, but delve into it a bit and you will find that they have worrys and concerns. Many will experience a broken heart, some will divorce their partner. A lot will have huge credit card debts and struggle to pay the bills having kids and a large mortgage to worry about. The CEOs of large organisations may have huge stress and work long hours with little family time.

It is silly to compare your life to anyone elses. You all are unique individuals experiencing a unique life. It is easy to say that other's have it better off than you, but everyone has their own challenges that test them. There may be a few individuals that truly have a great life, but only those that listen to their spirit and not their ego may get to experience this.

Can't really agree with this... depends how you define great. I know a fair number of people who have really had it all made for them and they're jerks who most assuredly are listening to their ego.

 

[Dronee]

No one likes to feel invisible, but sometimes I'd rather be invisible than have to deal with other problems. I don't mean to minimize what you're feeling, Dronee. What I mean is that problems are problems regardless of their severity. Maybe someone's financial problems affect them the same as your feelings of being invisible affect you.

If being invisible was my only problem, I'd have no problem with that and gleefully give invisible wedgies to the deserving! Free wedgies for everybody! Hurray!

Not really.. problems vary with severity. It's just that those people who are still alive have found some ways to cope and those whose problems are too great for their resources are often already dead. Well.. I'm just a little angry. I can't open up even here. Insomnia, sick parents, being sick myself, low finances.. etc... and even conscription are just the tip of the iceberg for me.

But I can't even talk about that here or anywhere. I've difficulty opening up. Nvm.. sorry for talking off topic.

 

[groovy]

I think I have a facebook account drifting around somewhere, lol. Don't use it anymore though.. it's pointless really. I probably didn't know/didn't communicate with 90% (or more) of the 'friends' I had on there. Plus, Zooworld (is it called that?) was wayy too addictive. ahah

 

[inspirer]

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[theblank]

I don't have Facebook (thank God!) to feel even worse by comparing myself to old classmates who are doing great while I'm here in the gutter. In fact, it doesn't take much at all to depress me these days. I was just blow drying my hair and started crying my eyes out. Not because of the way my hair looks (I actually like it), but because I started thinking about the way my life has turned out and how I don't seem to have any sort of a future. It's a good thing I don't own a gun because I would probably use it right now and blow my brains out.

 

[Pacific_Loner]

Lots of people who really are enjoying their life don't have time for facebook, those who post stuff all the time and have 600 friends just really needs to show off...

 

[Pacific_Loner]

I don't have Facebook (thank God!) to feel even worse by comparing myself to old classmates who are doing great while I'm here in the gutter. In fact, it doesn't take much at all to depress me these days. I was just blow drying my hair and started crying my eyes out. Not because of the way my hair looks (I actually like it), but because I started thinking about the way my life has turned out and how I don't seem to have any sort of a future. It's a good thing I don't own a gun because I would probably use it right now and blow my brains out.

Sorry for how you feel, I feel pretty much the same these days, all I can tell you is, it's probably worth it to wait and see what happen, you're not in a hurry are you? I did a pretty serious attempt years ago and even if I'm not fine right now, I had happy times since then and I'm glad I failed.

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

I logged into my facebook, which I haven't done in a while, and I was pleasantly surprised to see I had a message. When I opened it, I think my heart really did stop at that moment. It was from this guy named Nathaniel who I've been crushing on lately. It had a smiley face as the subject and when I opened it, his phone number was there.

We've been really chatty with each other lately in Creative Writing class (he sits right in front of me) and I was really happy to see that he considered giving me his phone number even though he told me that he doesn't like calling people besides his girlfriend. I guess that his way of saying I'm someone he feels comfortable talking to?
If that's the case then ---> !!!!!!