Do any of you lash out when threatened?

[cwby]

This ties in with another post of mine from earlier.

Do any of you lash out at others verbally when you (or your boundaries) feel threatened?

Ex. Neighbor plays radio. I feel that he is invading my space with his noise. Is unbearable to me. It may not even be that loud. Instead of nicely asking him to turn it down, I have lashed out at him and yelled at him to turn it down.

 

[bcsr]

I'm getting better regarding this, but yea, I do.

 

[Section_31]

only if i feel my safety is in danger.

I tend to go a little wolverinish and just attack the crap out of someone. more often than not id get my @$$ handed to me in highschool, but people would still respect me, or think im nuts and stay away from me. I could live with that, lol.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

I get annoyed by the neighbor's loud music but I never say anything, though I wish I could. I tend to avoid confrontation.

 

[MikeyC]

No. I sit there and take it. I don't have the confidence to stand up for myself.

 

[Iluv]

Hard question for me to answer.
I'm a peaceful person. Will never hit somebody back.
But if it pushes me far I might verbally lash out but not if they're scary. Rarely. Can't say I haven't done that though.
As far as the general, I usually take it. Not much I can do.

 

[dyingtolive]

i have a problem being overtaken at lines, grocery, bank, convenience store, any lines. I also sometimes am ticked off at karaokes especially when its the same person who sings everytime for the past 3 years near where i am staying

i have never had the guts to confront overtakers, but i vowed myself next time it happens that i will grow a pair and confront the person

i often just stare with an evil eye and boil inside with violent thoughts

i would not physically do anything but i think it is justifiable for me to raise my voice if i had to. i've always hated anger or showing anger and hated and avoided confrontation. but i think being comfortable showing it when it is needed will also help in getting over fear against the world and will help me 'stand my ground' and even feel more 'centered' and confident in myself to be able to handle things, which i really need.

i do not think a little healthy anger is bad, i used to but i think its healthier to just express it in short and small healhty doses

 

[EscapeArtist]

Well I actually admire your ability to stick up for yourself so strongly (to near straners) even if it is a little too strongly. That would be impossible for me. Sometimes I lash out at my mother but that is the only person and it is only on purpose, when I aim to put separation in our relationship

 

[bcsr]

I tend to go a little wolverinish and just attack the crap out of someone.

hah, i'm the same way. i literally lose it when i get in a fight. worst ever was beating a guy down with my football cleats. we were getting dressed after a football game, it was the closest available item, don't judge me.

 

[Sea Bass]

I very rarely stand up for myself... when I do though, I do lash out. I get very angry and start insulting people.

 

[megalon]

No, I'm too passive aggressive. If you say something to them, you lose the element of surprise. I'd try to find out some way to sabotage the person without them knowing it was me. That way you get revenge without any confrontation. Not my best personality trait.

 

[Rawz]

No, I don't yell, argue, fight, etc. I might give the other person, or people, a mean look or maybe say something mean. Maybe. But I really do not like yelling, arguing, fighting, etc, whether someone is doing it to me, I am present when other people are doing it, or I am doing it. Of course when I'm doing it I am not experiencing any regret while doing it, but I will immediately after, same goes for any rude/mean/disrespectful things I do. I usually try very hard to avoid these things, even if that means just leaving.

 

[Srijita52]

I do this too specially when people make stupid comments. Not always though, I usually take it to a point unless it becomes unbearable then I explode.

 

[Roman Legion]

I would not confront the person and would get away the first chance I got. Where I am not assertive, I am very passive agressive..

 

[cwby]

Thanks for all the info.

I would never ever physically hurt someone else. I think I suffer from some form of misphonia (sounds produce anxiety) coupled with feeling threatened by overtakers (thanks to the above poster for that term- it is so good to be able to put names for what I'm feeling!) It's like I'm just trying to protect myself always from something, especially people that I feel threatened by. And I know I'm being illogical about it, but can't help myself.

 

[Silatuyok]

I definitely have the tendency to lash out at others (irrational anger is a hallmark of my disorder), but it's something that I try very hard to keep in check.

 

[mikebird]

As for music or any noise... people do slam doors on the way in or out.

I don't really react. I love my music loud, and feel guilty if it bothers people, but I've had no complaints, apart from one.

It's not physical

My lashing out is all instant when recruiters ask twisted questions by phone to put me off balance - following their intrinsic, complicated procedure to test job applicants and simply make us fail, waiting for someone else to succeed.

At least they're safe, because I can't attack them on the phone. I just shout and scream.

 

[Fighter86]

Oh god this is how I behave. I do try extremely hard to hold my tongue though but I can feel myself almost lashing out often. Almost. I think its because we have too many frustrations that bubble over causing us to lash out uncontrollably when provoked.

 

[Hellhound]

That depends on the situation. When I am too overwhelmed, I tend to lash out. Other times I get panicky.

 

[cwby]

It was weird. A coworker was getting observed by a supervisor and put her videocamera in "my space." I wanted to lash out and take it off of my desk. Like it was a space alien. I told myself that it wasn't a threat to me, and actually was able to function from then on.

But I HATE when I do stuff like that, though. I don't know why. Maybe I am trying to protect myself from being overtaken. I'm still fighting that battle from childhood when I was bullied and teased in school.