Dating is putting yourself in a very precarious position. It would be like saying that you want to cooke, but have no intention of eating, the entire rational has to be questionned.
Well then,
not dating would be like saying you want to eat a particular type of cake for the rest of your life when you've never tried cake before.
it gets complicated and they end up losing control of the situation and get hurt in the process.
Them, us and everybody else in the world. Avoiding romantic hurt just gives you a different kind of hurt and none of the benefits that come with the first kind.
If it is your intention to meet people, then why not simply do that with friends, or new people?
Because if friends or new people were just like dating, nobody would be dating.
Dating is putting yourself out there for a relationship. Using it to fill your own need to 'meet' women is actually quite selfish and simply wasting their time. I don't agree with that at all.
I strongly disagree. Something I've noticed among SA suffers (and I include myself in this by the way, though I'm far better than I was) is a tendency to be a bit of a "white knight" about the opposite sex, as well as holding an overly-romanticized perspective of them, being particularly conservative in certain areas, being very specific in their predictions and desires, stuff like that. Rigid morality is quite a common trait among avoidants, I believe.
Dating can lead to nothing, to good friends, to sex, to marriage, you name it. What if you meet someone who doesn't want the same thing as you, but you get on well, and you fall in love, and one or both of you adjusts what you want because you'd like to be together?
What if guessing your desires without any experience turns out not to be very useful?
If you want to get over your SA then work through the right channels. If you are ready to date, with a view of what it potentially lead to, then that's fine.
I'm sorry to be an ass in this thread. But there is a huge, huge difference between holding certain opinions about yourself and life, and insisting to others that your world is -or must be - their world too. And the core of SA treatment is, after all, learning that your certain opinions are probably untrue.