Chase love or be chased?
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Sinar_Matahari
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Confidence? You know what's funny? A lot of people say that they want someone who is confident, but as soon as they're faced with someone who is, they all of a sudden get scared off. It's easy for someone who is insanely insecure to desire confidence in a mate, but I don't think a confident and insecure person are compatible.
Dressing well (not necessarily fancy or trendy), and being well groomed is a must. Wearing a nice scent is also a plus. Maybe having a flattering hair cut/style and being physically fit also helps. What I mean by "physicall fit" is not body building or anything extreme. I'm merely saying that staying healthy by working out and eating right makes a person more confident, healthy and attractive.
Dressing well (not necessarily fancy or trendy), and being well groomed is a must. Wearing a nice scent is also a plus. Maybe having a flattering hair cut/style and being physically fit also helps. What I mean by "physicall fit" is not body building or anything extreme. I'm merely saying that staying healthy by working out and eating right makes a person more confident, healthy and attractive.
SilentStranger
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You mean being chased is an option?
anxiety1408
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lol. that made me laugh.
But you know for a change it would be nice being "chased" . The more you go searching for love the further away you get from ''true love''.
IGotSeoul
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One of my old friends was a bit of a compulsive chaser, for lack of a better term. He'd go through more women in a month than I did in variety of meals. Odd to say, he was one of the most unhappiest people I've had the honor of knowing.
As for being chased, I agree with all the above posts.
As for being chased, I agree with all the above posts.
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awkwardamanda
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That's a good point. There was a guy I had a crush on when I was in university. We had some classes together and we talked a handful of times but I hardly got to know him because I was so damn shy. Anyway, he seemed to have a lot of confidence. And not in an arrogant way, or at least not from what I could tell. He was always asking questions and giving answers in class. Very intelligent guy. But it was intimidating. I was afraid to even ask a question. I didn't want to draw attention to myself and risk looking stupid. I remember thinking about how he seemed confident and I'm not that at all so it would be a problem. I certainly didn't go chasing after him. I was too damn nervous around him and all I ever did was watch from a distance. And fading into the background like I always did really doesn't invite anybody to chase after you either. *sigh*
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Waybuloo
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Agree. I would rather be chased by someone who likes who I am and what I do or think, than for any superficial reason. It is not difficult to uphold who you are, but it is to remain attractive all the time. It's also my mindset, if I think someone is attracted to my appearance I'd be afraid to yawn. :
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Waybuloo
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Maybe it's like an addiction for him, always looking for the next fix but ultimately it's an unfulfilled road to go down.
spect01
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Realistically speaking, a guy will pretty much never get chased. Unless he has alot of money (and makes it known) or is a famous movie star or musician. All guys would probably love the idea of a girl chasing them but it just doesn't happen. For a guy with social anxiety this is a harsh reality.
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some girls have a thing for shy guys trust me x)... and sometimes you will wish you were the one to chase because then you can choose
Felgen
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A woman today can choose between the men who've shown interest in her. She can also choose to do the chasing, but it's never necessary for her to do so. I know that some women like shy guys, but they don't like chasing after them.
depends on the culture, if a woman wants something she can get it herself this is not the 20th century if women want to be 100% equal they have actively fight for that x)...
vichyssoise
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My boyfriend claims that he doesn't like the chase and refuses to pursue girls who don't show much interest in him. Originally, I would wear my heart on my sleeve, but since I got hurt, I totally changed my attitude and acted different around my now-boyfriend, pretending I had many suitors (which was only half-true), no need for a man, etc. Apparently, that really put him off, but at least it ended well.
Felgen
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If you politely reject someone, it's not your fault if they get hurt.
