Are you socially awkward

[KiaKaha]

My whole life I have been very socially awkward. I am not just a quiet introvert ... I am uncomfortable...it makes others uncomfortable.. and it bothers me greatly. This problem handicaps me on so many levels I cant live a meaningful happy life. Almost every social interaction I have is agonizing for me. When I am around others I seize up, I panic, my heart races, I begin to tremble.. I stumble my words, I look visibly awkward and I want to escape (flee)....further more its embarrassing because its so obvious.

I am actually quite a friendly person but my shyness prevents me from showing that. I feel that if I engage with people, they wont engage with me back. Its a risk that is too scary to make. Most people wont make the first move with me (to interact) so I have to do it first... but I have this underlying belief that I am unlikeable and uninteresting....and I fear that if I do, I will just sound like an idiot.

I can talk to people though... I have had friends before, I have socialized...but as I get older it just seems to be getting worse.. I am actually going backward instead. Year after year its just so exhausting to enjoy life.

I just want to know if anyone else is awkward around people, less than adequate social skills.

 

[Silatuyok]

I am uncomfortable...it makes others uncomfortable.. and it bothers me greatly.

This is my biggest problem in life, pretty much. I hate feeling like others are made to feel awkward by being around me. That's the core of all my social anxieties.

 

[deleted #89]

Me too I make others feel uncomfortable but im starting to realize is that im always trying to make sure this doesn't happen and that's the problem. Its like telling myself that its not Ok to be me. That creates anxiety and makes life incredibly difficult.

 

[Aletheia]

I just want to know if anyone else is awkward around people, less than adequate social skills.

Me.

I panic

I panic. My mind goes blank. I can't even really see the other person through the fear.

I am actually quite a friendly person but my shyness prevents me from showing that.

You are friendly. You were certainly friendly yesterday.

I think I can be quite warm once I get to know someone and the panic subsides.

But even then, socializing can be tiring.

 

[StandingJelly]

Similar deal with going backwards, lol.

I hope I can say that
The other people doesn't get to decide whether my life is interesting or not. That's my decision to make.

That might be a load of crap full of denial, but knowing that I am on the drivers seat of my life is interesting already. We still may be socially awkward, but I hope that is an argument against being uninteresting at least.

 

[Nathália]

My whole life I have been very socially awkward. I am not just a quiet introvert ... I am uncomfortable...it makes others uncomfortable.. and it bothers me greatly. This problem handicaps me on so many levels I cant live a meaningful happy life. Almost every social interaction I have is agonizing for me. When I am around others I seize up, I panic, my heart races, I begin to tremble.. I stumble my words, I look visibly awkward and I want to escape (flee)....further more its embarrassing because its so obvious.

You just summed it up. I stumble over my words, have panic attacks, my heart races and at times my hands and head shake. Sometimes I feel so awkward that I can not even walk to pick something up or eat. I would love to live my life also. Sometimes I get so disappointed I just jump into the water, then I have regret thoughts all day when I do. It is mental torture.

 

[Raijin]

I know i am akward around people its a given for me but i know i need to work on that

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Yes.
I'm the type of person who is 'from another planet' so even if I knew how average people act towards eachother, I could never emulate it.

People seem to find my awkwardness to be rather charming- although they don't get me at all... and I don't get them.
Oh, well.

 

[MrJones]

Yes I am, I don't understand how other people behave and they don't understand me.
I make people feel uncomfortable all the time, so a lot of times I just want to disappear from the face of Earth (and more than once I almost did).

 

[KiaKaha]

I often wonder how other people on this forum actually behave around others in the real world. I believe in an illusion that people here come across the same way in the real world as they do in the forum.

I know its not true... but I feel like I am the only one who acts this way. I cant help but feel isolated with my behavior and social ineptness.

Also I am very aware of social discomfort in other people. I try to make them feel at ease, but my own shyness and awkwardness gets in the way, making things worse.

 

[MrJones]

I am nothing similar in this site and irl, but irl I'm slowly becoming similar to what I can be in here (or so I like to think).

I have the hability to make people uncomfortable in both places, though.

 

[MikeyC]

I often wonder how other people on this forum actually behave around others in the real world.

There would be far less conversation that what you see here if we all got together in a big hall with nametags on, that's for sure!

As for me, I used to be more awkward than I am now, but meeting my current best friend has gotten me out of my shell more and I've been taught some things, too, and both of those things are invaluable. Socialising is still something I like to avoid usually, but I don't tend to freeze up around people. The most times I'll freeze up are around attractive girls.

It's mostly the depression that'll dictate how social I'll be these days.

 

[Mickery]

When I am around others I seize up, I panic, my heart races, I begin to tremble.. I stumble my words, I look visibly awkward and I want to escape (flee)....further more its embarrassing because its so obvious.

In what way do you look awkward to others? How much do others notice? How often do you stumble over words, as a % of what you say?

 

[Nanita]

I feel very awkward and nervous around most people.
I feel uncomfortable when meeting people, like when a friend introduces me to their friend or family.
I have a weird empty life because of this.

 

[phantastica]

i nodded a lot while reading this thread.
most of the time around others i feel like an alien. i try to act normal to make no one uncomfortable, which doesn't get me anywhere, since i'm still perceived as awkward and i deprive myself of every chance to find someone who likes me for who i am. (in the unlikely case such a someone exists.)
if i find the courage to approach somebody, i'm okay with saying 'hello!', but after that i just panic somehow through some sentences, which are followed by awkward silence. (sometimes, when it's clear to me why the situation is awkward, i want to explain it to the other person, but everything i say makes it just worse..)

 

[Pacific_Loner]

Same here, being awkward is one of my main problem. I found that it helps me to aknowledge it and be open about it with my few good friends by making a joke about it once in a while, so that they know that I know and that I know they noticed... It all seems less awkward to me that way, if that makes sense.

 

[Graeme1988]

I feel very awkward and nervous around most people.
I feel uncomfortable when meeting people, like when a friend introduces me to their friend or family.
I have a weird empty life because of this.

^ Yeah, this basically describes me too.

 

[davidburke]

i come across as really dumb in social situations, i mix up all my sentences and what i say doesn't make since sometimes cause i brain is on overdrive

 

[polishgirl]

I'm an extrovert, I guess. I talk a lot. But I'm still socially awkward because I just talk because I'm afraid of awkward silences. So it's not natural in anyway, it feels very pushed and therefore awkward. I sometimes wonder if I were quiet people would respect me more.

But overall, yes I am socially awkward and it doesn't help me meeting new people at all

 

[Falkor]

Yes I am.... But I try to accept it... It is a part of who I am... It's getting easier though... But still I can be very clumsy.... Most people don't even care... They can laugh about it.. So do I now... It's just that I have social disabilities.... as in moving my body or being nervous... but it's okay .

You are not a robot... You are just normal like everybody else.... <3