Anyone feel like they have no goal in life?

[da_illest101]

every time i have a conversation with someone about the future, i realize that i'm not looking forward to anything at all. All i hope is to have good health and be able to pay the bills but to what purpose? To keep living the life of an hermit? and it's not like i was going out of my way to stay in great shape or make good money either. Most people look forward to get married, buy a house, buy a car, have children, have a career but none of those things seem to have importance to me

 

[Sammie_Kay]

I feel ya. I wouldnt say I dont have goals in life. I do. I have a ton of goals in life. Its just super hard for me to get them done. Now I feel that i have no passions in life. I cant seem to get out there and get a job or go to school.
So i can have a nice house or whatever.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

It can be difficult to concentrate on long terms goals when every day, 'normal' activities present such daunting challenges.

 

[Forgotten-Children]

Well, I did have goals but now I know they were just a crack dream. I wanted to be a game designer that works for Nintendo or GameFreak. The only thing I could consider as a goal that I have now would to finally be able to move out of my parents and move in with my boyfriend.

Other than that, I don't see much in my future.

 

[Kinetik]

I have no goals. In terms of the future, I don't want a family or anything, nor do I have any aspirations on an interpersonal/relationship level, so I'm left with trying to find a decent job and then spending the rest of my life trying to climb some boring corporate ladder somewhere, earning steadily more money that I have no use for anyway. So glad I was born. ::

 

[Feathers]

well, I have too many goals/wishes.. Not sure how many of those are realistic though, and which ones to focus on first (opinions on this differ, depending on who you ask, grr!) It's sometimes very frustrating.. I'm also afraid to do many of them, even though I'd wish to.. Or I may think I might not have what it takes...

I'm thinking that many people with 'no goals' are actually very ambitious and maybe just have too big 'dreams' or had their ambitions thwarted early by unsuspecting family, teachers or friends...

Maybe you also just need to look around and focus on something that you'd like changing, either in your near environment or wider... From painting/cleaning a room to social changes or such..

 

[Pacific_Loner]

every time i have a conversation with someone about the future, i realize that i'm not looking forward to anything at all. All i hope is to have good health and be able to pay the bills but to what purpose? To keep living the life of an hermit? and it's not like i was going out of my way to stay in great shape or make good money either. Most people look forward to get married, buy a house, buy a car, have children, have a career but none of those things seem to have importance to me

I think you should put away these standard goals and use your imagination to find one that you would really want to achieve. Travel? Write? learn to play banjo? Help others? Open a coffee shop? Whatever.
Then make some sort of plan. And work on it since you have nothing better to do.

 

[Kato]

I feel what you say. It is like that game at the fair where you toss rings onto bowling pins. You get a few but gain only a cheap stuffed animal. Then you save up enough to trade up to something valuable. It takes a lot of energy.
Pain in the ass! On the other, side I have got some valuables in life and I treasure them.

 

[Aussie_Lad]

Ask yourself, if SA wasn't an issue in your life and you had just won the lottery, where would you go? What would you do? What would you buy?

Most people would be able to get at least a small list of things from this, and some might get up to 50 or more within a few minutes of thinking. You don't need a huge list, and it may be okay if you only have one or two things, as long as they are what is important to you and can give you something to reach out for.

 

[Forgotten-Children]

Ask yourself, if SA wasn't an issue in your life and you had just won the lottery, where would you go? What would you do? What would you buy?

Most people would be able to get at least a small list of things from this, and some might get up to 50 or more within a few minutes of thinking. You don't need a huge list, and it may be okay if you only have one or two things, as long as they are what is important to you and can give you something to reach out for.

It would be amazing for that to happen but it would still be a dream, however, if I ended up with a boat-load of money in my lap I'd use it to first pay off that debt, buy a plane ticket to Florida to move in with my boyfriend, help his family finacially, buy the video games I never got a chance to buy and play so James and I can never be bored and put the rest in savings.

Depending on how much money I have, I wanna say I'll give some to charity and to help find a cure to Wilson's Disease but I dunno how much the jackpot is in the lottery since I don't buy the tickets.

 

[kihira]

every time i have a conversation with someone about the future, i realize that i'm not looking forward to anything at all. All i hope is to have good health and be able to pay the bills but to what purpose? To keep living the life of an hermit? and it's not like i was going out of my way to stay in great shape or make good money either. Most people look forward to get married, buy a house, buy a car, have children, have a career but none of those things seem to have importance to me

That's because most people follow the crowd and do what they think is expected of them. You need to find what stokes your own boiler.

 

[da_illest101]

well money has never really been a issue and i'll never care about society's standard. It's like nothing seem worth achieving, even dreams and interest i have seems to fade away, like everything is boring.

 

[coyote]

my main goal is to make it through each day

secondary is to make it through the week, until i can spend the night with a beautiful woman

 

[S_Spartan]

I have no goals. I just exist.

 

[EscapeArtist]

My goal in life is to be at peace with who I am, the world, how I feel, my health, the people around me whoever they me be. I think striving for happiness is worth living for alone

 

[coyote]

My goal in life is to be at peace with who I am, the world, how I feel, my health, the people around me whoever they me be. I think striving for happiness is worth living for alone

this is good

I'm going to remind myself of this each morning

thanks

 

[Tiercel]

Here's another one who feels like he has no goals in life. I don't blame the SA as much as the depression. And the fact that I'm great at dreams, but a complete failure at setting and achieving goals.

For years I've thought I would like to be a father. But I can barely get my dog to lift his paw and shake. I'd also love to do something with birds of prey, but there's no way the state and federal governments will let me in my current situation. So it comes back to that whole goals thing, at which I royally suck.

But the depression really kills me. That constant voice saying things like "Why bother?" or "What's the use?" If my depression was a person I would give him some awful disease and get rid of him for good.

 

[Interzone]

Same feelings here. My lack of clear aim in life has led me to barely trying to do good in college. I'm already half-expecting to fail two of my four classes. Which won't be good cause that means less financial aid money and a ton of criticism from the parents...

 

[BlueDays]

The only goal I have in life is to die naturally.
Only I can't exactly tell that to people when they ask if I have any goals in life.

 

[shellshackled]

It can be difficult to concentrate on long terms goals when every day, 'normal' activities present such daunting challenges.

Well said.

My goal is merely to get through each day...