I can sympathize with your pain, guessed. I've never been lucky in love. At all. And I've always beat myself up incessantly afterwards. Because if my efforts didn't succeed, I must have done something wrong. Or maybe there's something so terribly wrong with me that others just can't stand me. But eventually I realize that that's just my way of dealing with rejection. So I'm afraid I can't give you any constructive criticism.
But I can try to help you put things into perspective. And I'm going to do it with a bit of humor, so I hope it doesn't offend you too much. But the way I see it, you might as well get upset that no guys come running up to you at the Special Olympics. Not because the physically handicapped are inherently humorous, but because many of them can't even walk, let alone run. And if guys don't interact with you too well on a support site for those with social anxiety, well, that's to be expected. Not because there's something wrong with you, but because there's something wrong with
us.
Not just the guys, either. All of us. Otherwise we wouldn't have signed up for it. Can it be frustrating when you make an attempt at a normal conversation and it falls completely flat? Hell yeah! But you have to remind yourself that the vast majority of users here are socially inept because of their disorder(s). We get nervous, anxious, jittery, our minds race, we worry about how we'll be perceived, and we communicate poorly as a result. On top of that, there's been plenty of talk about the quirks of the MiniMessenger. So it's not necessarily anyone's fault if the conversation is dead on arrival.
And people are different. Many of us are great when we have time to think about and plan out what we want to say to other. So we're great at replying to threads, but terrible in real time. Anyone who has ever IMed me has learned that one the hard way.
Oh, and just because someone is on my friends list doesn't mean that I've chatted with him or her. Most have added me after a perfunctory level of interaction (mainly replying to one another's posts). So if any guy catches your interest, try replying to some of his posts. Do that a few times, then send a friend request. Leave a few comments on his profile and see if he responds. If he seems friendly enough, you might even try the dreaded real time chat.
Above all, just be patient. We all get nervous about this sort of thing, so we need to take baby steps. And since so many of the guys here get more anxious around women, they'll probably run for their lives if you just IM them out of the blue (especially now that we know you're one of
them!). But the more you try to initiate conversations with people the easier it should become. If they don't respond favorably to your overtures, just tell yourself that they're not worth getting upset over.
I'm sorry if I can't be more helpful than that. And I'm sorry if my humor offends. I tend to use it when all other attempts have failed.
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