Agent_Violet
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My reaction was to show I care and to listen to my son as he expressed himself. Then i presented logical viewpoints for him to understand the gravity of what he's feeling.
I think you are doing the right thing, keep being caring and positive. If he seems to be manipulative is no reason for his father to deny what he needs; we all use manipulation in some form or other if we have a need that we do not know how to otherwise fulfil.
funny you mention karate, his father says he wants to enroll him in karate to toughen him up.
funny you mention karate, his father says he wants to enroll him in karate to toughen him up.
I'd be careful if that's what his dad wants out of it...
Karate is meant to be used as a tool to give the child structure and to learn about self appreciation, inner strength and responsibility.
...I just have a feeling, if it's coming from someone who acts the way you vaguely describe him as -___- ... he'll be told by his father to fight back against anyone who raises a finger to him; which isn't the way it should be used.
Anyway... just my own feeling.
Karate is great for kids young and old if they're willing to devote the time and effort into training.
If any of my children ever get bullied, I will talk to the parents and the bully, and explain to them that that if it doesn't stop, ill beat the **** out of the bully, I don't care how young they are. I wont let my children go threw what I went threw in life. Wouldn't let them know that any jail time would be 100%easier worth the bully getting theirs
Sounds pretty bad, but im not gonna let some ****ty little kid ruin any of my kids life
This is one of my biggest fears, I don't currently have children, but I do want children, but I worry that they will go threw SA like I did
thanks weirdy...i will look into those movies. i appreciate the suggestions
funny you mention karate, his father says he wants to enroll him in karate to toughen him up.
i know it's nice in theory to say what you'd do...but honestly, you can't exhibit that sort of behavior as a parent. you just cant.
First of all, you can't take it out on the other 9 year old who is doing the bullying. he is learning it from somewhere and taking it out of the other kids. He's a bully...but he's also just a little boy who isn't getting the guidance and care he needs to learn how to treat people.
Second, when you go into a situation like this with guns blazing and defenses high...chances of having the other parents shut down and tune you out become very high. you won't be heard because you will automatically put them on the defense...all they'll want to do is blame your child and protect their child even though their child is the bully.
You can't be soft...but you can't go in like gangbusters either.
dont be so quick to dismiss what his father is saying violet there is allot of truth in it, kids dont understand sensitivity or being compassionate what they do understand is if you call me that again il hurt you.
its sad but true in the school environment you need to stand up for yourself and beating the crap out of a bully or at least having a go would give your son more self-esteem and respect that practically anything else.
i know because i was going though exactly the same thing at 8 or 9 years old and one day i just thought enough is enough and always being tall for my age and strong i beat 3 bullys single handed my life changed after that moment. suddenly i was popular everyone wanted to be my friend and girls actually talked to me it was not what i wanted to do but i was forced in to it and have never had a fight since.