41 and still have not experienced a sexual relationship..
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recluse
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Yeah I agree!
recluse, you have to not dwell on the negative so much, I've seen girls on here flirt with you, you don't seem to respond, I wonder do you notice this? Sometimes we reflect so inwardly with our thoughts, we don't notice the "bleedin obvious" , we "doom" everything in our lives, I think you need to take big steps to tackle this because sometimes I see in your posts a kind caring imaginate your man who would be a pleasure to be around
Flirting? What is that?!
Honestly i wouldn't know if anyone was flirting with me lol.I know that i am a nice guy but that makes no difference, i'm afraid of getting close to people i guess. With people i know well at work i show my true self but with other people i appear unfriendly and probably stuck-up because my shyness stops me from revealing the true me.
krs2snow
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Hi Argamemnon. I agree w/ u. It's not a reason to treat us differently but, like u said, we do it. Isn't it funny that by societies rules we must be w/someone by a certain age? I think thats a strange thing. It's like the unspoken rule. Nobody talks about it but if u aren't married b/4 30 or if u haven't been w/someone by age 20- your weird! It's not fair. I think the challenge is to not buy into it. We all have our own paths to follow. Somehow, we have to follow that path and not be diswayed by what others might say.
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lancelot82
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there are a lot of young guys who prefer sex with mature women. i'm sure if you would give a chance to that segment of guys you want to date, yu'll get your sex.
there are a lot of young guys who prefer sex with mature women. i'm sure if you would give a chance to that segment of guys you want to date, yu'll get your sex.
Ddarko
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Yes but it's not really the prospect of temporary release that causes this kind of psychological longing and alienation when it comes to sex and relationships. It's a host of other, far more complicated emotional and existential factors.
For instance, the idea of loss, of regret, of knowing that time is passing and that the world is passing by with it. Masturbation will achieve the physical release if that's what one is looking for. Hell, if that's all one wants then masturbation is a lot easier than dealing with another person invading your space, who has different preferences, etc.
But for people who either have not experienced sexual contact, or experience very little of it, the real issue can be a kind of doubt about whether things can ever get better. It's a feeling that regret is just behind one even if it hasn't quite caught up yet. Maybe it never will. Maybe one can go one's whole life without the regret of being different from everyone else. That wouldn't be so bad. But maybe there will be regret. That's the risk of being different from everyone else.
Sometimes it's about power, about competition with other people and our perceived place within the social order... we feel that an active sex-life and a relationship gives someone a stamp of certifiability. In part that may be true. It's about how others perceive us, or how we perceive their perception. We may even want a significant other simply to use against other people... to show them that we "have it all". Knowing that one has made an impression is quite a dose of dopamine in itself.
So much of social life is a subconscious process of making others envious of ourselves... of subtle deprication until one finally succeeds in fending off the attacks from outside.
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Hi BlueRose. I know it's easier said than done, but try to make daily affirmations whereby you tell yourself "I am something special that the world is waiting to see". It would also be nice if there was a dating netwok specifically for social phobia sufferers because I think you become less self-conscious when you date someone with the same problem as you. Good luck and keep the faith!!
Khanya
Khanya
Danfalc
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Erm not quite how id word it :
: But alot of young guys,well from teens untill early 30's-35 are definatley attracted to older girls.Ive always liked the idea of an older girlfriend,id figure hopefully they would be more mature and know what they want.Alot of girls my age tend to come with alot of Drama.Thing is most young guys dont think an older woman would be intrested in them.I mainly went out with girls younger than me and it didnt end too well,i finaly met a girl who is a tiny bit older than me,and i havnt been happier.
BlueRose
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I don't feel comfortable doing that sort of thing and I find it less exciting. I'd would rather watch porn movies..
I'm NOT a lesbian or bisexual, lesbians turn me off.. I'd rather have sex with gay or bisexual men. I have to admit, I do think virgin men turn me on, but I probably won't find many around. I'll settle for men in their 20s if they're good looking and exciting. I have a crush on a professional poker player who's now 24 but he's probably already married or has a steady girlfriend..
no1
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yea well. it's a biological necessity in a way.
Misterhopefull
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If there are any other females around lacking sex, send me a private message.
No just kidding. Very interesting it took 41 years to have sex, and you don't masturbate. What do you do? What's your sex substitute?
No just kidding. Very interesting it took 41 years to have sex, and you don't masturbate. What do you do? What's your sex substitute?
philly2bits
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I could have done without reading that post. The nightmares...can't stop the nightmares.
BlueRose
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philly2bits
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is my next option..
I hope you are joking
