Flowers-Of-Bloom
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"What's wrong with you?"
"Why are you nervous?"
"You're so quiet, I forgot you were even here."
"Why are you nervous?"
"You're so quiet, I forgot you were even here."
10 things you shouldn't say to someone with social anxiety!
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razzle dazzle rose
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It is hard for me to imagine a relationship without emotional abuse. What does it look like? What does it sound like? Aren't they sooner or later gonna snap and show their true colors?
Agent_Violet
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Oh rose that is so disappointing that you haven't experienced a healthy relationship. They are a real thing. I promise there are some truly amazing men out there who won't be emotionally or physically abusive.
BlueDays
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Wow, I think the exact same thing as you razzle dazzle rose!:
: I have an online friendship atm that is NOT emotionally abusive and I am still in awe of it!
Pacific_Loner
Pirate from the North Pole
"you look bored" is particularly efficient to make me uncomfortable......
pop-princess
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Teachers can really be the most unpedagocial species in the world sometimes
"Speak up please"
"Try to have eye contact"
"Wow! you finally said something"
"Wow! you actually can speak"
"Come and sit in front of the class this time"
I love this one:
Teacher: "Mmmm I can't really give you a good grade cuz you never say anything in class"
Me: "But I got an A in the exam?"
Teacher: "Yeeeah, but you have to be active in the classroom otherwise I don't know what you know and can"
Me: "But my exam?"
Teacher: "Yeah you did well, bye"
Uhhhh... trauma for life.
"Speak up please"
"Try to have eye contact"
"Wow! you finally said something"
"Wow! you actually can speak"
"Come and sit in front of the class this time"
I love this one:
Teacher: "Mmmm I can't really give you a good grade cuz you never say anything in class"
Me: "But I got an A in the exam?"
Teacher: "Yeeeah, but you have to be active in the classroom otherwise I don't know what you know and can"
Me: "But my exam?"
Teacher: "Yeah you did well, bye"
Uhhhh... trauma for life.
takethislife
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Story of my... well not life but high school right there.
Piece_By_Piece
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"Just run away then"
This is occasionally said to me, especially by one particular person. If at school after a lesson I wanna go somewhere alone because I need to be alone but she asks me with her and her friends (not that she really wants to hang out with me, just to be polite and because she somehow pities me, which I hate more than anything) and I say I'm going somewhere else. Then she says that. I feel so stupid actually just going then, without a word. It's that word: run. It's like she sees right through me - that I've pretty much been running away from everything my whole life. I hate to admit it, but I guess it shows.
This is occasionally said to me, especially by one particular person. If at school after a lesson I wanna go somewhere alone because I need to be alone but she asks me with her and her friends (not that she really wants to hang out with me, just to be polite and because she somehow pities me, which I hate more than anything) and I say I'm going somewhere else. Then she says that. I feel so stupid actually just going then, without a word. It's that word: run. It's like she sees right through me - that I've pretty much been running away from everything my whole life. I hate to admit it, but I guess it shows.
freestylemonster
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lol I haaaaate when people say "Do you ever talk?" or when a certain friend of mine makes the same "Ryan stop being so loud!" joke...every time I see him haha
razzle dazzle rose
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Perhaps I am now the unhealthy part of the equation.
I grew up in an abusive family. Still here. I am always scared. Always waiting for something to happen. 'Cause it happens out of nowhere. A friend once told me I was too jumpy.
I am sure there are good men. I am just not so sure if I can handle that. My boyfriend that I have, he is so nice. He has never called me "bitch" not even once. Not even during arguments. To me that is just amazing. I am the one that calls him names. Ahhh. Yeah. I do suck.
Wow, I think the exact same thing as you razzle dazzle rose!:
I have an online friendship atm that is NOT emotionally abusive and I am still in awe of it!
Yeah. I guess that is why I am skeptical.
There are good people out there. And we deserve to be treated well.
Lord_Spotface
Active member
Gah! that is an annoying one.
Or when they use the old random fact: "You know! It takes less energy to smile than it does to frown! herpaderp!"
It takes them less energy to leave me alone, but they don't seem to realise that.
Ughhhh why do you have an attitude? " She got a real bad attitude because she don't be talking to people! When people be saying stuff to her she be akin like she don't be currrrriiinnn(caring). I was like HAYYYYYY GURRRRRLLLLL HOW YOU DOIN? and she was like ( Hi, I'm good) That's okay, that's alright.
Okay, it's not that dramatic, I've only ran into a few dramatic people who were that way towards my shyness. I run for the hills every time I'm around a loud person because I don't want them to put me on the spotlight.
I could be the happiest person inside until someone tells me I have an attitude. I wasn't even thinking about being negative until they brought it up.
Another one that bothers me is * You need to stop being shy because people will take advantage of shy people. -_- * sigh, It's past face palming, it's to the point where one makes a dent in the wall from their head because a face palm is not enough.
People may assume that they can take advantage of someone who is shy, but to assume that because someone does not talk that they're easy is just ridiculous.
Okay, it's not that dramatic, I've only ran into a few dramatic people who were that way towards my shyness. I run for the hills every time I'm around a loud person because I don't want them to put me on the spotlight.
I could be the happiest person inside until someone tells me I have an attitude. I wasn't even thinking about being negative until they brought it up.
Another one that bothers me is * You need to stop being shy because people will take advantage of shy people. -_- * sigh, It's past face palming, it's to the point where one makes a dent in the wall from their head because a face palm is not enough.
People may assume that they can take advantage of someone who is shy, but to assume that because someone does not talk that they're easy is just ridiculous.
It takes more energy to smile than to have a relaxed face. I rarely frown, but I guess it looks like a frown because I'm not smiling.
I want to say " It takes more energy to be fake"
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
"You really don't talk much, do you?!"
Uh, like I hadn't noticed.
Uh, like I hadn't noticed.
LittleKitty
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When someone asks the person who's standing next to me. "why is she so quiet?"
When someone tells me "you're so quiet" or "why are you so quiet?"
When I say something and someone goes "she speaks!"
Its such a pointless thing to say, if anything there going to make me even more quiet.
When someone tells me "you're so quiet" or "why are you so quiet?"
When I say something and someone goes "she speaks!"
Its such a pointless thing to say, if anything there going to make me even more quiet.
memoryremains
Member
I've had people ask me, "Don't you ever talk?"
And the thing is, is that often times they don't even realize what they just have said is rude or hurtful..
It makes me want to ask them just the opposite like, "Uh, don't you ever stop talking?"
And the thing is, is that often times they don't even realize what they just have said is rude or hurtful..
It makes me want to ask them just the opposite like, "Uh, don't you ever stop talking?"
persianfan247
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When people are drawing attention to the fact you are quiet they can be aware that they are stating the obvious and they are just trying to interact with you and draw you out. On the other hand they could just be trying to bully you and the difference is not always obvious.
SilentBird
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Me, "I'm shy"
Neighbour, "You always say that."
OK, I won't say that anymore.
Neighbour, "You always say that."
OK, I won't say that anymore.
RaphialLee
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why are you so quiet? talk more and people will like you.