Your longing for sexual experiences?
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panicsurvivor
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Ha, me and Coyote once again are in complete agreement here!!!! Although I wouldn't say I avoid doing other things, by having sex.
I think sex is too important a topic in society, and too many people seem to think that there is some right, and wrong way to go about it. I call bull****!!!! Sex is great!!!
I am in a relationship now, and I am faithful, but I constantly find myself wishing that I could be single for a couple of nights to take advantage of opportunities that I must pass on. I think that forcing yourself on someone is wrong. I also think having sex with someone who is has not reached sexual maturity is really wrong (children, pre teens ect. ect.). Other than that all bets are off. Sex is natural, and fun. It's both recreation, and intimacy. People that look down their noses at others for their sexual practices, need to mind their own business, get of their bitter soap box and live their own ****ing life. I have had sex with girls that I was deeply in love with. I have also had sex with girls I met that night, and never saw again. Both were great!!!! I have been very sexually promiscuous in my life. That's my business, and nobody has any right to tell me that it was wrong. Just like no one has any right to tell a gay person that they are wrong. Sex is freedom, sex is love, sex is personal, its a part of life. One of the best parts if you ask me.
For those of you who say that you don't have any need for sex, or don't have the desire. The same thing applies. Don't let anybody tell you that you are weird and freak for feeling the way you do. Everybody is different. If you don't want to have sex, or only want it to be with someone you love, good for you!! It's not how I feel, not by a long shot, but its not for me say what is good for you sexually. As long as you are happy with your sex life, that is all that matters, not what other people think of it.
Kiwong- Doesn't your libido go through the roof, after a run? Exercise increases your libido, especially cardio exercise. When I am consistently working out my sex drive is always stronger, and when I was running, it was the strongest. This doesn't happen to you?
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Sex involves a lot of physical interaction with the other person. Now you might not know what all bacteria,virus,fungi,protozoans/yuck might be there on the other person. Image if one does it i.e. sex and catches some horrible STD/skin disease, the impact that would cause. Unfathomable.
I have several problems and i certainly do not want the above to be added to the list.
This is my defense mechanism when any sexual thought comes to my mind. Coupled with the above, i also suddenly forcefully begin to ponder about space/astronomy/origin of life and other great mysteries which would change my mood into philosophical. This has always worked for me.
Nip the desire in the bud as desire (for something that is unattainable) is the cause of misery and misery leads to unhappiness, as per a great man who once lived in India said and whose name happens to be Buddha.
I wish i never have any sexual thoughts. I would also like to state the reality that no one would ever want to have sex with me, not even a prostitute.
I have several problems and i certainly do not want the above to be added to the list.
This is my defense mechanism when any sexual thought comes to my mind. Coupled with the above, i also suddenly forcefully begin to ponder about space/astronomy/origin of life and other great mysteries which would change my mood into philosophical. This has always worked for me.
Nip the desire in the bud as desire (for something that is unattainable) is the cause of misery and misery leads to unhappiness, as per a great man who once lived in India said and whose name happens to be Buddha.
I wish i never have any sexual thoughts. I would also like to state the reality that no one would ever want to have sex with me, not even a prostitute.
Mickery
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Was it cathartic to say that?
Falkor
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I think it is natural. Everybody is longing for a sexual desire. I mean, who doesn't right? And it's no shame to talk about it on SPW, Secretly.. everybody would rather avoid stuff and tralaalaaa , haha no, I can't live without chasing my dreams, I really want to get out of here and see the world, but it's normal to feel like wanting having sex now and then... right?
And well, I don't know, if I were asexual, I would probably not feel so stupid when i talk about s.e.x, sometimes it's very embarrassing haha lol, i used to be very closed about it, now trying to just be open and relaxed about it.
But hey It's a normal activity, just like going to sports, doing groceries, going to school, work.. Although It's still secret, it is a normal thing! Just nature thing.
So don't worry, you're healthy
I mean, who doesn't right? And it's no shame to talk about it on SPW, Secretly.. everybody would rather avoid stuff and tralaalaaa , haha no, I can't live without chasing my dreams, I really want to get out of here and see the world, but it's normal to feel like wanting having sex now and then... right?And well, I don't know, if I were asexual, I would probably not feel so stupid when i talk about s.e.x, sometimes it's very embarrassing haha lol, i used to be very closed about it, now trying to just be open and relaxed about it.
But hey It's a normal activity, just like going to sports, doing groceries, going to school, work.. Although It's still secret, it is a normal thing! Just nature thing.
So don't worry, you're healthy
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Newtype
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Sexual experiences? Does that mean sex with random girls and stuff like that? If so, then I have no interest in that. I wanna make love, but I don't wanna have sex. Though I'm still a virgin, I think I can safely say that if I had sex with a random girl, I would feel empty after. On the contrary, if I made love with someone that I really love, then I would feel happy and at peace after. But my way of thinking isn't unique to sex. I think the same way about everything that I do. I just want meaning in everything that I do.
upndwn
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I would certainly sleep with a girl if there was a mutual attraction even if I never saw her again. I would, however, not sleep with someone just because the opportunity presented itself. I could never sleep with someone just for the sex, there had to be some kind of physical and emotional attraction for it to work for me.
Shant
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THIS.I get sexual urges but I don't want them, if that makes sense. It's like I feel it would be easier if I was asexual, but I'm not. I was just wondering if anyone else with AvPD felt the same or whether I'm possibly more schzoid than avoidant. The problem with that theory, in my eyes, is that I do want some form of relationship (I believe schzoids don't long for any) but just not in the sexual sense.
I have a libido, but I personally don't give a damn about it. I'm heterosexual, but I feel like anything relating to love and/or sex is just a waste of time. Life would be easier without having to worry about it. If only I was asexual and could easily live without having to worry about it.
Mickery
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If I may gently suggest... I think some of the problems relating to your (some people, in general) desires are grounded in the fact that you're just taking a best guess at circumstances with which you have limited experience. You're falling into the classic SA trap of making predictions and mentally deciding your future, instead of actually seeing what happens. And probably finding out that it doesn't much resemble what you had in your head.
I'm not saying you don't know your own mind but there's a limited amount you can do with imagination, especially for something as unique and intense as relationships. You're trying to decide what you want without actually finding out.
I'm not saying you don't know your own mind but there's a limited amount you can do with imagination, especially for something as unique and intense as relationships. You're trying to decide what you want without actually finding out.
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panicsurvivor
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drganon
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All I know is that I'm in my twenties and haven't so much as held a girls hand. Needless to say I have an extreme amount of sexual frustration.Every year I get closer to 30, I feel the odds of me ever having sex get even lower, and the odds were already bad to begin with since I'm pretty much a total loser.
vexatiousmind
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^ It can bring to people closer together. It feels good. It releases endorphins. It helps some people fall asleep.
There are probably more reasons, but its been a while, so I forgot them.
but Yeah I long for it, and it makes it harder to talk to people I like because I have gone so long without it, that that's all I can think about when I am around someone I like.
There are probably more reasons, but its been a while, so I forgot them.
but Yeah I long for it, and it makes it harder to talk to people I like because I have gone so long without it, that that's all I can think about when I am around someone I like.
EnigmatiConduit
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in a relationship - closeness, kids
Deus_Ex_Lemur
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I wish Mila Kunis was my friend. (I guess this should just go in the random thoughts/feelings thread, but felt pertinent to this =)
And wow, great post, wish I could have surmised it as well as you did. Hey Mickery you're so fine, you're so fine with words you blown my mind! Hey Mickery *clap clap clap* Hey Mickery *clap clap clap*
And wow, great post, wish I could have surmised it as well as you did. Hey Mickery you're so fine, you're so fine with words you blown my mind! Hey Mickery *clap clap clap* Hey Mickery *clap clap clap*
vexatiousmind
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I have seen this thread before, but for some reason when I saw it today I read it as " your longest sexual experience"