Your longing for sexual experiences?

fitftw

Well-known member
I get sexual urges but I don't want them, if that makes sense. It's like I feel it would be easier if I was asexual, but I'm not.

I feel the same way. I hate getting urges, and I always tell myself it would be easier to live if I didn't have sexual organs. But when the urges strike, I'm usually always home so I knock it out in a few minutes and go on with my business.
 

Steppen-Wolf

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I should admit that I have no experience of sex but I don't think this is just frustration. Although I have experienced that exact thought, my feelings are as strong as fitftw. It's like a dripping tap you can't close properly. You can put it to the back of your mind but it will always be there (unless in the tap analogy, you call a plumber but go with it) :)

Sex is a natural desire, possibly the most natural of them all, very few people can actually be called asexual. But the fact that you can't experience it right now (I'm assuming due to your AvPD) is quite possibly a very painful fact for your mind to deal with (even if you don't see it as such).

Your apparent disinterest for sex might be a defence mechanism: "I can't have sex, but it's not like I wanted it anyway."

But that's just based in my personal experience, that might not be the case for you at all.
 
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Beatrice

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I rarely think about how much I want sex. Does that make me weird? I mean, its good when its with somebody you care about, but since I'm not in a relationship at the moment, and I don't have regular contact with anybody I fancy, I don't think about it.

Damn, I wish I could be like this ::(: Would make life a hell of lot easier to deal with....
 

BleedTheFreak

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I have sexual urges like everyone else, but what I really long for is companionship. I want a mate, someone to share things with. Of course that includes sex, but that's not what I'm really desperate for. I want alot more than that.
 

megalon

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I have sexual urges like everyone else, but what I really long for is companionship. I want a mate, someone to share things with. Of course that includes sex, but that's not what I'm really desperate for. I want alot more than that.

I totally agree. I'd go so far as to say if I found a girl who I loved and who loved me in return, I think that's all I would need, even if for some reason there was no sex involved at all.
 
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Starchild

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I have sexual urges like everyone else, but what I really long for is companionship. I want a mate, someone to share things with. Of course that includes sex, but that's not what I'm really desperate for. I want alot more than that.

Yup yup yup. I feel exactly the same way.

I just want someone who I love and who loves me back. Sex is something that'll come along with that, but it's definitely not something I focus on whatsoever.
 

Rembrandt Broam

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sex is just about my favorite activity

i would rather have sex and avoid doing other things

so, no

Sex is like any other enjoyable activity for me. If I'm in the mood to have sex, then that's what I really want to do. If I'm in the mood to be doing something else, than I'd rather do that something else than have sex.

I suspect you're in the majority though when it comes to society as a whole. I think it's just about most people's favourite activity. :)
 
There are many things better than sex! You'd be surprised how many men would agree with that, lol. It's more than most would be willing to admit.

Really!? wow, that is really interesting to hear that. It is incredible how many different sides to a story I have learnt there can be, from being in this site!:)
 

anuskas

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I totally agree. I'd go so far as to say if I found a girl who I loved and who loved me in return, I think that's all I would need, even if for some reason there was no sex involved at all.


Really? I thought that no man would consider having a girl and have no sex with her at all. I don´t know if you both could deal with that ...
 

Kiwong

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You could always get romantically involved with a woman who lives some distance away. Then you could run over there and have sex. Make running into a sort of foreplay. ;)

That would be messy, I'd have to wash my running gear, that'd slow my kilometre splits down.

A long run is more than enough for me. Sex is overated.
 
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Nanita

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For me, when I´m in a relationship, I can´t get enough sex.
But the less I have, the less I think about it and.. take up other "hobbies".
 

Remus

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Staff member
I rarely think about how much I want sex. Does that make me weird? I mean, its good when its with somebody you care about, but since I'm not in a relationship at the moment, and I don't have regular contact with anybody I fancy, I don't think about it.

That's pretty much me all my life
 

fitftw

Well-known member
I couldn't care less about sex. I do enjoy receiving oral sex though for some reason. But real sex? Don't care, don't need it.
 
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