Would you date someone with kids

[da_illest101]

( I can make random topic when i'm tired)
would you, plz no i never dated someone in my life ( i never did either), that's not the point of this thread.

personally no ( too tired to give a detailed answer, will do tommorow)

what about you?

 

[nopark]

Mmmm I'd say no, but not a definite no. I'm not good around kids, and I think I'm too young to have kids right now (I'd be a horrible parent!). So my first reaction would be to steer clear.

But if the right person came along then I could imagine loving every part, including their kids. It's just be a different experience. Not bad, just different.

 

[xSleepy]

Good question.

No, I could not date a man with kids at this point in my life for a few reasons. It seems like things would be too complicated to deal with a guy who has a child or children. I'm not ready for that type of relationship. I think I'd only be able to handle that if I was a single parent myself.

And also, I don't want to sound too selfish, but I would need more attention then he could probably give me. I would never want to take away from his time with his kid(s), so that would leave me feeling neglected. So yeah, I couldn't handle that.

 

[Going Insane]

Absolutely, in a heart beat... To quote American Pie "Milf, Milf, Milf, Oh man what are you doing..." *kisses picture*.
No but seriously, why not as long as they're compatible.

 

[Remus]

Never bothered me but I can tell you as you get older, people without kids become much rarer

 

[madness_lover]

At this particular point in my life, no. It is a big responsibility that I'm just not ready for. First of all I'm not even that good with kids and I have lived this situation with family members and my own parents. My father already had a child when they married and I have seen how difficult it is not only for the childless partner but for the child as well. Then there's the issue of having to compromise your "couple" time with your partner's child.

It is not a definite no. As one gets older one also develops maturity and becomes less selfish. Maybe in a couple of years I would be willing to give it a try if I cared enough about the person.

 

[Nack]

Meh, I may end up being alone; I'm 21 and already feeling hopeless... These days you can't really find a fresh bun off the stove.

 

[illuminationSP]

Women with children are very attractive to me and I already love children, so, a definite yes.

 

[SickCycleCarousel]

I answered depends on the situation. But no, I don't want to date someone who has to think about what their kid and what's best for them. I mean...I'm a spontaneous person and I don't want to have to worry about not being able to do something because my partner has to take care of their kid.
I'm not ready for kids...I may never want them. I can't be friends with people who have kids, either. Blech. There's just too much you can't do. =\

 

[Danfalc]

I think I probably need to look after myself better before I took on kids,and I would honestly prefer to have my own kids before I tried raising someone else's in a perfect world.

But yeah I would date someone with kid's,I believe if you really fall for someone,you take them as they are and there life too.

 

[NinjaLikesToast]

I would. It's not something I would go for right away, but if I like someone enough I wouldn't let that get in the way. It does make things more difficult in some cases, doesn't always have to be a bad thing though

 

[Tangent]

If he was a caring dad and actively involved in his children's lives, I would for sure.

 

[Emily_G]

I voted 'maybe'...I really don't know. I've always wondered how stepparents toe that fine line between being a parent but not a biological one. I think it depends on the age of the child as well...

 

[lurknomore]

Yes, I would. But I'm single with kids myself, so I would just be dating someone in the same boat as me. I would expect that we would attempt to treat all of the kids the same though, no distinctions based on biology.

 

[Ignace]

Since I'm 17.. Prob not. And what's dating anyway ? Never heard of it..

 

[Felgen]

It depends on the situation, I guess. I like kids, but if she brings her kids to every date, it's obvious that it's not gonna work.

 

[Pink_Paula]

I don't think i'd mind if they had kids, i love children so i can't see it being a problem. But i would prefer to have my own kiddies one day

 

[Waybuloo]

Dating doesn't have to mean you become a step-parent. My mum was going out with men since I was 14. The first boyfriend she dated had two daughters younger than me, we'd all go out as a group but neither of them were more than just friendly to the other's kids. She is married now to another guy and I wouldn't call him stepdad, we only met a few times and i've not even met his kids and I really don't care cause we're all adults leading our own lives...

It is way easier to date single parents when they are older cause their kids would usually be teens or adults who wouldn't want to go out as a group. It is a bit more tricky with younger kids but why should there be any expectation that you would help to bring up these kids? You can't substitue their real parents unless they are extremely abusive or gone. If I ever find myself in a situation like this I would just act like a good family friend or something.

 

[userremoved]

Never bothered me but I can tell you as you get older, people without kids become much rarer

Thats my reasoning. I don't expect to find many 27 year old women that doesn't already have a kids, so yes I would date one.

 

[Waybuloo]

Both my female cousins are 29 and still dating, all my school friends (about 24/25) are all childless. They all want to get their careers going, except my cousin who wants to bag a rich man ::