Would you date someone with kids

[fudgy]

adrox have you had a bad experience ?


everything you just said ........ well it's up to us (either the mum or dad depending on who your dating !! not you personally) To make sure these situations don't come up.

We, as parents have to introduce a new partner with care , making sure the child doesn't feel left out or pushed away , thus making sure new partner isn't a threat.

A child will view everything in such a different way and yes, I agree...some kids can be little sh***, but there should never be a reason why the kid needs to run to its father for protection regarding a new partner , but if they are making up little stories then as parents we should make sure that that is nipped in the bud straight away.


Its as much a mine field for us as well you know !!

Sometimes in life you have to take a chance ..... you have to trust and you have to give it a go and just hope your gut instinct is right. The end result would be none of us single parents ever getting a new partner and all of you who haven't had kids , maybe bypassing your twin flame because they have kids, if you never take a chance or presume its going to be a disaster.

For us we also have to consider quite the opposite of what you say , and deal with a child who may treat you and love you like they would their biological father , then if the relationship breaks down your left with a man/woman who no longer sees your child and a child distrought because they wont see your new partner ever again.

its a toughie , and I don't think there is a right or wrong answer for this.

 

[stephen]

I love kids so that in itself wouldn't put me off but it would certainly complicate things. I think if the kids were older you could face some hostility. Also there could be the problem of the ex who would have to maintain a relationship with the kids so would always be there in the background.

 

[redski]

Never bothered me but I can tell you as you get older, people without kids become much rarer

That was what I was thinking when I answered the poll.
I think I could date a women with kids.

 

[redski]

...
If I were to have a one night stand, got pregnant (never has happened and I would not let it happen) and decided to keep the child, I would not expect or force the guy to pay child support or be there for the child if he did not want to be...

See I do not belive this one but because I have seen otherwise.
I am not pointing fingers at you Serafina but I have seen just what you
say happen in real life. One night stand, girl got pregnant, guy knew about it,
girl said I will take care of it. Girl ends up in bad financial situation goes to social services,
man ends up paying child support.
So I figure it was more along the lines, "desperate times call for desperate measures".
I really amazes me sometimes what lengths some people will go
to to care for their children. How some apparently decent responsible people
can end up becoming completely nasty when one has to tend for a child and
their is all all known "money" issue in the mix.

 

[AGR]

adrox have you had a bad experience ?


everything you just said ........ well it's up to us (either the mum or dad depending on who your dating !! not you personally) To make sure these situations don't come up.

We, as parents have to introduce a new partner with care , making sure the child doesn't feel left out or pushed away , thus making sure new partner isn't a threat.

A child will view everything in such a different way and yes, I agree...some kids can be little sh***, but there should never be a reason why the kid needs to run to its father for protection regarding a new partner , but if they are making up little stories then as parents we should make sure that that is nipped in the bud straight away.


Its as much a mine field for us as well you know !!

Sometimes in life you have to take a chance ..... you have to trust and you have to give it a go and just hope your gut instinct is right. The end result would be none of us single parents ever getting a new partner and all of you who haven't had kids , maybe bypassing your twin flame because they have kids, if you never take a chance or presume its going to be a disaster.

For us we also have to consider quite the opposite of what you say , and deal with a child who may treat you and love you like they would their biological father , then if the relationship breaks down your left with a man/woman who no longer sees your child and a child distrought because they wont see your new partner ever again.

its a toughie , and I don't think there is a right or wrong answer for this.

not me,my friend,he tells me,he says the girl is a good kid,but sometimes she turns into little devil,as I said personally I would only try it out if the girl(woman) was really worth it.

 

[Luke1993]

See I do not belive this one but because I have seen otherwise.
I am not pointing fingers at you Serafina but I have seen just what you
say happen in real life. One night stand, girl got pregnant, guy knew about it,
girl said I will take care of it. Girl ends up in bad financial situation goes to social services,
man ends up paying child support.
So I figure it was more along the lines, "desperate times call for desperate measures".
I really amazes me sometimes what lengths some people will go
to to care for their children. How some apparently decent responsible people
can end up becoming completely nasty when one has to tend for a child and
their is all all known "money" issue in the mix.

Indeed sir indeed.

 

[SoulSeeker]

Yes. Kids would never stop me falling for someone. It's my and her whole life i think of..and not just the here and now.

Im so feking awkward about myself..i feel fake..and i feel like im unloveable though. It's hard..i need to gain self belief and some confidence..and accept the real 'aging' me. Instead of making myself look good in avatar pics. Everlasting love and the feeling of trust..would be far more important to me than looks. Must be an awesome feeling..the feeling of long lasting love and trust.

 

[deadwetter]

Dating is OK. I would recommend minimal child involvement for the first few dates. When things get serious and you decide to take it to the next level BEWARE. Being a step parent is one of the most difficult and thankless jobs on this planet. The child's parent must learn to trust you, help you, teach you, and back you....even when you make a mistake concerning the child. You have to have the courage to be more than just the child's "friend". And don't forget the headaches like the ex, the ex's new honey, copayments, and in-laws. A blended family is extremely delicate and only as strong as it's weakest link. And don't think these things will work themselves out.....that's when other people end up working them out for you. Oh wow .........I am rambling (and venting)! I guess dinner and a movie would be OK Then RUN!

 

[Masychefx2]

oh yah.....