iamthenra
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OMG, so true.... I'm 41, and have only been on 3 dates my entire life... Now I am old, and very undesirable with SA, depression and by the time I actually find someone I will most likely need Viagra....
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OMG, so true.... I'm 41, and have only been on 3 dates my entire life... Now I am old, and very undesirable with SA, depression and by the time I actually find someone I will most likely need Viagra....
just_shadows
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i would say that you might want to first of all, apologize for being mean, maybe. girls tend to remember stuff like that, and this way she would know you moved on, and would not do such a thing again.
on the other hand, you should treat her as if she is a person you never met, (not assuming that she is who she were back then.) if you start being all familiar and too close - it might put her off abit.
generally - be nice, give her a bit more space than you'd like, so she will have the space to pursue you a bit, and not feel suffocated. be friendly and mature.
(sorry if this is a bit of a mess... i try)
Sinar_Matahari
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OMG, so true.... I'm 41, and have only been on 3 dates my entire life... Now I am old, and very undesirable with SA, depression and by the time I actually find someone I will most likely need Viagra....
41 is not old. I've seen what you look like. It's really not about the number of dates. It's the qualiy of the dates that matter. I don't think SA will be as much of an obstacle as depression but it's something you can still work on. Have you ever thought of finding a foreign bride? You seem to have a lot to offer despite your depression and anxiety. You're not gross, you're not ninety years old and you're a nice guy so a foreign bride would be happy to have you. I've said before that you would make a good family guy so maybe you can have a family and maybe you will be much happier with life. Young women from countries like Asia and South America have no problem being with a man who is twenty years their senior. If there are unattractive old men who find beautiful, caring and nurturing women in foreign countries then why should you not be able to when you have so much more to offer than they do?
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whats the deal with my bird tellin me to leave her alone then when i go to leave she starts going noooo dont leave i want you to stay, even though she more or less tellin me to f**k off but then when i do go to leave her she says stay! head is melted over this how am i supposed to know what she wants i'm not a mind reader
Darker Than Black
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The only time I was mean to her was once in art class, she wasn't part of the class btw, she just came to visit her friends, well..I said something mean, and I think she was mad at me. Other times, when she was trying to initiate a convo, I just end it quickly and leaves.
I was thinking of apologizing to her on msn,
do u think this is gonna be kind of awkward? Cuz she stopped replying to me on msn last couple of time, all I got was "..."
FountainandFairfax
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Why do girls think it's weird to only come out at night, never make direct eye contact with your kind, and to run inside whenever I see you?
I'll never figure it out.
I'll never figure it out.
just_shadows
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well... what did you say? (not trying to be nosy, just to understand how bad/not bad it was).
i would say that then it would be strange to her, if she was trying to initiate, and you would just leave asap, she might not understand why you are suddenly all interested, and think all kinds of stuff (girls :/)
well... it CAN be awkward, because you aren't starting on clean turf with her, and she already has some opinions formed.
i'd say - if you want to try and talk to her - tell her why you ended the conversations really soon, (possibly - mention you were kinda shy, or something). but i'd say - don't come too strong/intence, start with smalltalk, at least for a while.
just_shadows
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Why do girls think it's weird to only come out at night, never make direct eye contact with your kind, and to run inside whenever I see you?
I'll never figure it out.
ummmm... being vampires might be a possible reason.
(XD)
Darker Than Black
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well its started like this
she walked in and saw me
"hey, ur in art too?" she was really nice, and asked
"well, what does it look like?" I said, with a look on my face
"yah...art..."
thats how it went. I don't know why I say things like that sometimes.
I dont know about telling her I was all shy and stuff, cuz well, we just never talked to each other, never hung out or anything...why would I tell some stranger girl "hey, I'm really shy.." and stuff?
and this happened like in grade 12, she used to try to talk to me (once in a while) in grade 11. I'm now in 2nd yr university.
did I say, I told a friend of mine that knows her. I told him what kind of girls I liked, and he automatically assumed it was her, and he said he'll tell her.
day after that, I stopped getting responses from her on MSN
Sinar_Matahari
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This is a serious question? Do you think that every relationship fits the bossy woman/feminazi has the upper hand stereotype? Relationships should be about balance and compromise not who can be the boss.
Sinar_Matahari
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She's probably crazy but in the end I think she really wants you to stay. If I were you though, I'd leave RUNNING!
FountainandFairfax
in a VAN down by the RIVER
Sinar_Matahari
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Why do girls think it's weird to only come out at night, never make direct eye contact with your kind, and to run inside whenever I see you?
I'll never figure it out.
One might be inclined to believe that you have a photosensitivity to the sunlight or that you are a real vampire. Then I might just be inclined to run right after you!
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it was more of a poll
I actually do have a serious question, or rather, a set of related ones.
When you're in a relationship, at what point do you lose your respect for the guy you're with? What are some of the subtle, everyday things a man can do to wear you down and make you less excited to see him? I don't mean obvious breaches of rules (like infidelity or violence towards you), I'm talking about the daily things that add up to make you go "blah" and curb your enthusiasm over time. I've observed this hero-to-zero phenomenon several times in my life now; where the guy starts out untouchable but ultimately winds up being less of a man in her eyes, with no clearly discernible reason. I think it'd be interesting to talk about it.
When you're in a relationship, at what point do you lose your respect for the guy you're with? What are some of the subtle, everyday things a man can do to wear you down and make you less excited to see him? I don't mean obvious breaches of rules (like infidelity or violence towards you), I'm talking about the daily things that add up to make you go "blah" and curb your enthusiasm over time. I've observed this hero-to-zero phenomenon several times in my life now; where the guy starts out untouchable but ultimately winds up being less of a man in her eyes, with no clearly discernible reason. I think it'd be interesting to talk about it.
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FountainandFairfax
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I think that's a good question, but I also think it definitely goes both ways. Guys lose their passion for the women they're with just as badly as girls do with guys.
It seems like a good woman will stick by her guy through rain or shine as long as she can still respect him. I think the worst ways that guys lose their girlfriend's respect is by not following through on things, being a pushover, or by turning into a complete louse with no aspirations or goals.
Guys on the other hand, on average (and I am talking about average guys, not SA guys) honestly seem to lose their passion for the one they're with over much more trivial matters.
*pounces on Serafina*:
:Absolutely - I have my own personal triggers that can totally and completely put me off a woman in an astonishingly short time. I'd like to see if they're similar the other way around.
And dude, you can't pounce on Serafina, she scratches. Or so I hear. :
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Lorraine Manca
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destruction of property normally takes the magic out of things. and leaving car windows down in the rain! never felt the same about the guy again. if i wanted to drive a fish tank, id of made the arrangements myself.
just_shadows
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well its started like this
she walked in and saw me
"hey, ur in art too?" she was really nice, and asked
"well, what does it look like?" I said, with a look on my face
"yah...art..."
thats how it went. I don't know why I say things like that sometimes.
I dont know about telling her I was all shy and stuff, cuz well, we just never talked to each other, never hung out or anything...why would I tell some stranger girl "hey, I'm really shy.." and stuff?
and this happened like in grade 12, she used to try to talk to me (once in a while) in grade 11. I'm now in 2nd yr university.
did I say, I told a friend of mine that knows her. I told him what kind of girls I liked, and he automatically assumed it was her, and he said he'll tell her.
day after that, I stopped getting responses from her on MSN
well. you didn't say anything really wrong, it's not that mean or anything. just slightly rude i guess.
but well... if she won't talk to you on after that, i wouldn't try too much, unless you want to be just a friend with her.
:/
sorry dear.
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