Guys: Ask Us Girls!

what time of the month is it?
what am i talking about!
what day is it? 😀

Kinetik said: ↑

I actually do have a serious question, or rather, a set of related ones.

When you're in a relationship, at what point do you lose your respect for the guy you're with? What are some of the subtle, everyday things a man can do to wear you down and make you less excited to see him? I don't mean obvious breaches of rules (like infidelity or violence towards you), I'm talking about the daily things that add up to make you go "blah" and curb your enthusiasm over time. I've observed this hero-to-zero phenomenon several times in my life now; where the guy starts out untouchable but ultimately winds up being less of a man in her eyes, with no clearly discernible reason. I think it'd be interesting to talk about it.

first of all - it is an AWESOME question, way to go on asking something that interesting!

i don't think it's a set point, but rather a collection of small things that makes you think the guy is not who you thought he was. (as you, not going to talk about breaches of rules).

anyways, i'll mention a few ^:

before i start - all those, imho, apply BOTH ways. i think that girls should treat their guys better as well :/ and can be SUCH asses sometimes.
also, not ALL those apply in ALL cases. every person is different, and those are just some thoughts on the matter. don't expect them to apply in all cases.

* not taking her side in things around other people, EXPECIALLY if she seems to be NOT on the winning side, especially if it is with people that usually put her down - like family in some cases, friends in others.
* constantly showing her, sometimes subtly, (and usually withought intention :/ ) that she's incapable of doing certain things. basically - again, you are supposed to believe in her and back her up.
* letting her understand that once you got her - she's no longer interesting, and that you won't do anything to keep her interest. - do something out of ordinary every so long, (be it just flowers delivered to her workplace, or a date somewhere special).
and about money - i'll mention this. unless your girls is... please forgive my french, a demanding divalike person, she won't expect you to shell out large amounts of cash. you can go a long way with a little, just keep it creative and interesting.
* being too easy. she should never feel that you are just a toy, or that you will be there no matter what. you should LOVE her no matter what, but there is a difference. you should always respect yourself just as you respect her. if a man is so easy that she can do whatever and he'll still stay with her - the guy is not that interesting anymore.
* sometimes - even not exercising. i can't stress this one enough. it shows you care about your health, and about your body. and well - every girl likes her guy (or geek in my case) to be prrrrrrty 😀 lol it seems obvious, but you've no idea how much this can do for ya 😀
* not being spontaneous. try stuff. for example - get her in the car on a holiday, and just drive SOMEWHERE, stop in every interesting place you see, and take your day at your pace.

and by GOD help her clean the house.
SHE'S NOT A MAID, DAMMIT XD
lol

ok - that's enough for now, i guess :/

just_shadows said: ↑

well. you didn't say anything really wrong, it's not that mean or anything. just slightly rude i guess.
but well... if she won't talk to you on after that, i wouldn't try too much, unless you want to be just a friend with her.
:/
sorry dear.

ok, I attached what I said to her, and ofcourse, she didn't respond so..w/e


I was having serious issues focusing on class ever since my friend started talking about girls...I couldn't stop think about her, which bothered me, F*k, annoying thoughts. Now we both deleted each other off MSN, that's good.
coming to a uni with ppl from my old high school wasn't exactly what I had in mind of starting clean. I get so anxious everytime I see ppl from my old high school, except for one or two, wh

FOR REAL said: ↑

what time of the month is it?
what am i talking about!
what day is it? 😀

i was sure you are going to ask about something like this

OK, when I woman says she's got a backbone, and doesn't want to talk to you again, but contacts you a month later - what is that?

what are the specifications you like to be in the guy ?

what is important for you personality or good looking ?

do you Preferre sexual relationships before marrage and why ?

how can a guy know if a girl in love with him or not without she say ?

Banvard said: ↑

OK, when I woman says she's got a backbone, and doesn't want to talk to you again, but contacts you a month later - what is that?

That's confusing, sounds like she's playing games to me!

Pink_Paula said: ↑

That's confusing, sounds like she's playing games to me!

Maybe that's a good thing, when I reminded her about what she had said, she went silent, and I've heard nothing from her again.

Banvard said: ↑

OK, when I woman says she's got a backbone, and doesn't want to talk to you again, but contacts you a month later - what is that?

maybe that means she was need you and you failed her

I don't think that's what it is genius, it really sounds to me like she's playing games, or she's confused and doesn't know what she wants!

Pink_Paula said: ↑

I don't think that's what it is genius, it really sounds to me like she's playing games, or she's confused and doesn't know what she wants!

its possible because we dont know any details we need more details

Riiya said: ↑

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Banvard said: ↑

OK, when I woman says she's got a backbone, and doesn't want to talk to you again, but contacts you a month later - what is that?

Games or she's lonely.

Noca said: ↑

Girls have you EVER been in a relationship where you DIDN'T have the upper hand?

This makes you sound like you've only dated bossy or domineering women? Every relationship I've been in was me not having the upper hand. I suppose I feel there should be no one with the "upper hand" anyways. If a guy/girl can't understand the terms of being equals that's a match that's probably not going to work. No one likes taking commands from anyone, even the people who tend to act like they do.

Noca said: ↑

Girls have you EVER been in a relationship where you DIDN'T have the upper hand?

Hm, I'm not sure about the upper hand. But I have felt that I've had a bit more control and security with myself in the relationship. I was the one doing the reassuring. Now it feels like I'm just some whiny, jealous, nagging girl :🙁:

Would you girls rather be more intelligent than your partners or vice versa?

Luke1993 said: ↑

Would you girls rather be more intelligent than your partners or vice versa?

I think someone of about equal intelligence would be best.

Luke1993 said: ↑

Would you girls rather be more intelligent than your partners or vice versa?

I don't really think this is something that is acknowledged so much. At least not for me. You just sort of tend to see what's good in the other person and their intelligence and admire that, and they do the same. So, it's kind of like, you think they're more intelligent, and they think you are sort of. That's how it is for me anyway. And I like that because I feel like I can be shown many things that I don't know about. Everyone is intelligent in their own areas. I like to be able to be shown new things that I didn't know before. Or I like to be told something from a different perspective.

Nervous said: ↑

That man doesn't exist lol

Riiya said: ↑

Sure he does. It's not like I put "strong and manly, but sensitive and not afraid to show his emotions."

Ooohhh sick burn!

I can come up with some questions but from what I've read so far in this thread they would be quite the departure since almost all the questions so far relate to how to have sex with females.

That's important of course but I want to know about how your brains really work. Is it really all about emotions or not? Do your lives revolve around emotional fulfillment, yes or no? Hopefully you are self-aware enough to know the correct answer.

Also, do your entire lives revolve around how everything "makes you feel"?. Is there any thought or brain activity or motivation outside of this?

mrb said: ↑

How come some girls wear real low cut tops , but if they catch you lookin at there tits you get a filthy look , i mean if they didnt want to flash off there tits why wear the low cut top , this has always to me seemed really strange

Riiya said: ↑

I have since learned that girls don't always realize their fashion statement can be interpreted as an invitation for sex. More importantly, it's common knowledge that you simply don't look at girls right in that area and then wonder why they give you a filthy look. What seems really strange to me is how you didn't sound guilty at the slightest about doing that

Lea said: ↑

Maybe just because it´s too hot! I am not going to walk around in wintercoat in sweltering summer.

Serafina said: ↑

You have to be tactful about the way you look. Remember that women dress for other women more than they do for men. It's a competition thing. Just because a woman wears a low-cut top doesn't mean that you have to stare.

These responses seem naive to me. I think the women in this thread might be playing stupid or they are completely oblivious of those around them. In a man's mind when he is walking along and catches something like that it is always an invitation to look at the very least. This is ingrained, or hard-wired into our brains. There is nothing we can do about it. That's why we are so shocked to see a surprised reaction from a woman when they realize they have attracted our attention.

I wish I could come up with a fitting analogy to describe it. Maybe this one will work. It would be the equivalent for a woman to see a guy who is tall, handsome, confident and dressed well with perfect teeth who just knocked out 3 assailants, drives a Bentley and works in a position of power of some sort like a politician and also is sensitive and not afraid to show his emotions. This level of attraction is what men experience when they look over and see a woman advertising her body. And despite what any women in this thread say, on some level all women know this and that is why they do it.