Would you get married?

[klytus]

but what about symbolic type celebrations? Such as a moment of silence.... or a simple candle being lit.. or writing and dedicating a poem/song etc

I don't see any sense in such "moments". Plus that they don't make me feel good. I have never felt any differently when subjected to one. Actions of a symbolic, or traditional, nature have no meaning for me. I don't celebrate anything at all - no Christmas eve, no New Year's Day, no birthdays, etc. The emotional part of my mind is as simple as a slate tile.

 

[pufferfish]

i want to get married, i plan on it. but i have a lot of relationship fears to overcome before this is possible. i am with a great guy right now who i love, so i don't care when the date comes or if it does, but i would like it very much. i love my boyfriend very much, and i just want that marriage to be there for my future children... not really for myself. i'd like a ceremony with all of my friends & family to be there. who wouldn't?

 

[WelshOne]

Yes, I want to marry. So long as it feels right (ie. not getting pressued into it,) and I'm in love with them. I won't be rushing into anything though, because I only want to get married once.

I'd prefer a very small wedding (because of my SA,) but if the woman I love wanted a huge, expensive wedding then I would try and put my fears aside. I'd probably need a few valium though, lol.

Given the fact that I'm very nervous around girls though, especially when a relationship could be on the cards (like where there is an attraction,) I wonder if I will ever get to that point.

 

[worrywort]

Possibly. At the moment the single life excites me a lot more cause I cherish my own private space and independence so much. But then some days the loneliness comes and I think twice. Right now I'm not actively looking for love, but I'm open to meeting new people and making new friends, and if one of those friendships happens to lead anywhere nice I might consider pursuing it. But I think, if anything, I'm already married to my art. I think it'd have to take a pretty amazing girl to take the place of my art.

 

[Avery]

Getting married and having kids is probably the only longterm goal I have. I'm a family man at heart -- I played a large role in raising my brothers, and I'm prouder of those efforts (and those results) than of everything else I've ever done. Raising a family is the one thing that could give my life real meaning.

But that's an abstraction -- the reality is much different. No matter how husbandly or fatherly I might be, it doesn't matter when my ability to interact with others (and especially peers, and *especially* girls) is essentially nil. I have a hard time ordering a pizza; convincing a girl to marry me is about as likely as me killing a polar bear with a wiffle bat.

So I've slowly been resigning myself to perpetual bachelorhood. I doubt I'll ever fully stamp out my hope for a family, but maybe there are future substitutes that will keep me going: nephews and nieces, an engaging job, evermore advanced gadgets and games, etc.

 

[theblank]

Growing up I never thought I'd get married. I always figured I would die young so it wouldn't matter, but I'm still here and now I just don't consider myself to be the marrying type. I like being single. I'm used to being single.

With that said however, I'm still open to the idea of marriage if the right person comes along. Any of the details would depend upon the other person's feelings as well, but I would prefer something small, private and without a lot of fanfare.

 

[zlench]

I don't really believe in marrige I see to many people who do it and then just end up getting divorced within months of getting married.

 

[Acme]

No. (Damn 10 character limit)

 

[Ashiene]

I am never going to marry and never going to have children. I have already decided this when I was 8 years old, and now, at 20 years old, I have not yet changed my mind.

 

[AlleyCat]

I would love to get married someday. I would be happy with just a small, private ceremony. I don't care about all the fancy stuff. I helped my mom plan my sister's wedding and oh my gosh what a stressful ordeal that was! Simple works for me. It would be important to me what my husband-to-be wanted too though.

 

[Banvard]

I’m not that fussed about it, but if she wanted that, then what ever makes her happy I would do; as long as it’s not in a church or something.

 

[recluse]

Well it's not likely to happen because i've never even had a girlfriend. If i did do the unlikely and get married who would be my best man

 

[Rodox]

I will probably never get married,but if a special girl showed up and everything goes right why not?
I wouldnt like a huge thing though.

 

[Rodox]

artificial structure point of view I understand... but what about symbolic type celebrations? Such as a moment of silence.... or a simple candle being lit.. or writing and dedicating a poem/song etc

Yes I would do only because of the symbolic meaning, its good because it will bring good memories later.

 

[Apple Strudel]

I don't think so.

I am useless, unattractive and I don't know how to handle relationships. I've not been attached before. So basically, I got no experience or at least a passport of human relations to a marriage.

 

[El.Sonador]

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[this_portrait]

I must also add that I find marriage to be too restrictive (and the idea of children is even more restrictive). I'll date, but I highly doubt I could ever get married, or even have a live-in partner, for that matter.

 

[meatcake]

i would. but i'd want to be healthier psychologically first.

i like the idea of a secret marriage. like i wouldn't want a public ceremony. but some ritual to mark the occasion would be important, because it would solidify it somehow.

 

[Rodney]

thanx for starting the thread moonie, much appreciated . I would not get married because I don't want a wedding. I hate being at weddings as it is, not to mention the receptions that follow the weddings (those are the worst). I would how ever give my partner a commitment ring showing my love and devoution for them. If my partner however really wanted a wedding I would only allow for a really small intimate one with only like a max of 16 people lol and costing only $1,000 . I think its stupid to spend alot of money on weddings, it just doesn't makes sense to me.

 

[2Crowded]

Well it's not likely to happen because i've never even had a girlfriend. If i did do the unlikely and get married who would be my best man

If you have your wedding near me....I will be your best man...barring i dont have to stand in place for more than 5 minutes & I have super air conditioning blowing on me or it is an outdoor wedding & i am in the shade & it isent hot out...& I dont have to wear a suit..or tuck my shirt in ...you pull that off..Im your guy