I think the fact that ILOVELIONS has never been in a relationship before is why she/he hesitates and finds reasons not to. It's kinda like not being physically active when you're out of shape and saying "When I am in shape I will take-up "X" sport", when actually participating in and doing the sport will get you in shape. I have done that with back-country skiing
Just Do it!
Go get hurt, live a little!
Nobody is a perfect mate no matter what they many advertise, far from it. Probably the worst people to hook up with are the ones who claim to be problem free!
I don't want to pick a fight with you MollyBeGood. The actual reason I don't want to be in a relationship is that I don't want to be the one always relying on my boyfriend when I'm depressed. I need to get some help for that myself. I've said many times that you can't be expecting your spouse to bring you happiness. Sure, they may be able to give you that but it's not a permanent cure for your depression. Nothing lasts forever.
"Nobody is a perfect mate no matter what they many advertise, far from it. Probably the worst people to hook up with are the ones who claim to be problem free!"
I never said nobody wasn't perfect. I'm saying that a relationship isn't the only thing that will fix you or at least make your life instantly better. I'm glad that some of you had been able to maintain a relationship with SA and I know that's a very difficult thing to. Yes, I know relationships aren't perfect but it's just like when you have low self esteem. People will eventually get fed up that you're asking for reassurance whether you are pretty or not, especially if you're attention seeking. Like I said, I'm not trying to start an argument, I'm saying I would never be in "just" a relationship because it'll help cure my problems. Heck, my problems will still consist if I were in a relationship because of how people have treated me so it wouldn't matter if my spouse would cheer me up.
I think the fact that ILOVELIONS has never been in a relationship before is why she/he hesitates and finds reasons not to.
Yes, you're right. I've never been in a relationship as I told Oceanmist. I hesitate because a relationship isn't just a walk in the picnic kind of thing. It may or may not bring you happiness, unless you just got lucky. I don't think those are bad reasons, when someone especially as young 17 like me, it'd be more difficult to manage a relationship so young, along with that instability and depression, and I'm at least glad I've waited for years not to get into that. Do you think it's fair that your spouse has to put up with your constant dependence and depression on them? You need to want to improve yourself or you won't get anywhere but feeling depressed all the time. That's why I take natural medication and counseling so that I at least learn from something and try to work on it myself. Why do people think they need to find a boyfriend/girlfriend to make them happy anyways, even if they aren't depressed? I don't know if it's just because shows like hallmark and lifetime are always teaching them that their love is going to be a happy, soppy fairytale or if it's because they see people, for example, friends having spouses and they think that they should have a boyfriend/girlfriend because their friends have boyfriends/girlfriends. I'm sorry that some of you are taking my thread the wrong way or are offended that I said some things that may have came across as unprofessional and rude. I'm just trying to figure out why people think that a relationship can solve/fix everything.
It's kinda like not being physically active when you're out of shape and saying "When I am in shape I will take-up "X" sport", when actually participating in and doing the sport will get you in shape. I have done that with back-country skiing
I wouldn't actually compare to that. What about when one of the spouses actually relies on the other to do everything for them (pay dinner all the time, do their laundry, ect.) And how about when a spouse threatens to kill/cut him/herself. I worry for those who have a very unstable person in their relationship. My sister had a boyfriend like that and they ended up breaking up because he was too emotionally unstable.