Who's Desperate?
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lyricalliaisons
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I'm not. I'm more afraid of being around other people than I am tired of being alone. The fear beats out the loneliness.
iamthenra
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Yes.... Me too. I feel desperate due to my age, and feeling that the best years are behind me, and I am worried that I won't have anything more to give physically or whatnot. I feel wore down, and tired all the time. Each year it is getting worse. Being alone and feeling lonely tends to make me feel less of a person, not wanted or needed. A basic human need left unmet for more than half of my life already. I'm tired of just existing, but fear keeps me from pursuing what I really want out of life. The more desperate I become the more depressed I get. So I try very hard to forget about it. I try to keep myself occupied with other challenges that I can accomplish. Fear is killing me....
lonely_drummer
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I actually really enjoy being alone for most of the time. Every now and then its good to get away from myself. I just find that when looking at some of my friends, its easy to notice how the good majority of people can't handle being alone. Some of them are so desperate that they will completely change their personality so they can be more appealing to their girlfriend. Yes, people in relationships need to make a sacrifice and compensate for certain things, however changing your entire personality is not the way to go, you're just fooling yourself and the other person. Being alone makes it easier to truly be yourself. And when you feel like your life is changing or that you need to make a change, its easy to be able to fulfill that when you're the only person that it concerns. Yes I would love to be in a relationship with someone who I can love and feel loved by, however Im just too stubborn to change myself for somebody else, maybe I just need to find someone who likes me for me
Silentknight
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Desperate when it comes to more social interaction Yes but when it comes to a relationship desperate maybe too strong of a word but I do really really wish I was in one 
Tiercel
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I'm desperate, but still clinging to the vestiges of some standards and hope. Yes, sometimes I can practically feel the loneliness; but there are plenty of women I'd like nothing to do with.
But it's because of this desperation that I try to avoid anything remotely like flirting with women. I'm afraid that I'll misinterpret any old thing one does as showing an interest in me, so I pretty much just block them out altogether. It's bad enough being alone. I don't want to creep out or scare some poor woman because of it.
Lonely and creepy. Now there's a winning combination!
But it's because of this desperation that I try to avoid anything remotely like flirting with women. I'm afraid that I'll misinterpret any old thing one does as showing an interest in me, so I pretty much just block them out altogether. It's bad enough being alone. I don't want to creep out or scare some poor woman because of it.
Lonely and creepy. Now there's a winning combination!
Jesushasomeoneforme
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To go where no man has gone before. James T. Kirk of the starship enterprise
Waybuloo
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It sounds like friends with benefits but with more trust and exclusivity. I am sure if you post that proposition on like a dating site there might be women interested. That is one of my favoured scenarios.
Pookah
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Problem is human emotion is a tricky thing.
omnighost
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I think a lot of people with Social phobia are desperate. I wouldn't say I am desperate as I know nobody that would like to date the likes of me and I can see why because i have to live with my personal flaws everyday.
However a relationship could be very helpful or more painful I havn't decided which one yet.
However a relationship could be very helpful or more painful I havn't decided which one yet.
talisman
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I'm deserpate for sex and friendship. I'm not too worried about a relationship, but I'm not against it either. Sadly I suspect I'll continue being desperate into my 30s at the rate I'm going. I'm almost at the point where I'd take sympathy sex over nothing at all. Shame you can't get sympathy friendship too (maybe...I dunno). lol
Shame you can't get sympathy friendship too (maybe...I dunno). lol
planemo
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I don't know really. I suppose I should want to be with someone, but then again I'm so insecure it's better to be on my own. Honestly, I think one day I will feel desperation, but it won't change a thing. Being desperate or not won't force me to face my fear of showing affection to someone.
I just expect the other person to reject me. As I always reject myself. Sad, but true.
I just expect the other person to reject me. As I always reject myself. Sad, but true.
mrb
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alone is good in some respects , you can take time time to get to know yourself , get to know what you really want out of life without the complications of a relationship .... then you can move on to better things , some people like a lady we moved the other day was happy to be alone , she told me men are like buses , you get rid of 1 and another 1 soon comes along she was about 60 by the way , she loves being alone , hey were all diff i soppose ......
without the complications of a relationship .... then you can move on to better things , some people like a lady we moved the other day was happy to be alone , she told me men are like buses , you get rid of 1 and another 1 soon comes along she was about 60 by the way , she loves being alone , hey were all diff i soppose ...... Tired of wanting to get better, not quite getting there? Yeah. Tired of being single? No. It'd be nice to have somebody who's very much like minded enough to spend time with, but I'm not looking for that. I'm looking to beat my personal problems, once and for all. I couldn't ask for anything more. I'm going to get it, though. It's all about evolution.
fedupoffear88
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Yep i Kinda i agree tht i'm desperate...actually i feel like that almost all the time but few rare instances i feel like I'm okay alone. And I'm too picky too so alot of times i've had girls interested in me but theres something in them tht i dislike so kinda lose my interest in them and ignore them.
I'm not really desperate. I've decided that I don't want to be in a relationship whether it's platonic or romantic. People have always disappointed me.
If I ever become extremely desperate to have sex, there are always one-night-stands, or escorts if that's not possible (though I doubt I'll ever become that desperate).
I don't care what other people think of me because of this because they'll never be my friends/girlfriends/family.
If I ever become extremely desperate to have sex, there are always one-night-stands, or escorts if that's not possible (though I doubt I'll ever become that desperate).
I don't care what other people think of me because of this because they'll never be my friends/girlfriends/family.