whining ?

doesit

Well-known member
#1
OK here goes :) why do most people here are whining ? i registered here not so long ago,and the most topics i would see here people always complaining :confused: I agree there are sometimes serious cases when a depression or SA gets really bad and life falls apart,this even happened to me not so long ago,just out of the blue one day i barrely could last few hours of work :cool: and anxiety was flowing through me that day.Now the most topics i would see here would be people feeling lonely,no relationships,no job or affraid to do anything.And still we live in the world where you need to communicate and fight every day for your happiness,and most people here choose just to speak about troubles which they have in their heads instead doing something better.I myself grew up seeing my parents working hard struggling to put food on the table every day and making my life better and it makes me feel ashamed sometimes,because the sh*t they went through is harder than any anxiety and they never gave up or showed weakness,because this is real life not a fairy tale where everyone is supposed to be nice to you and tolerant.If you wont take a chance millions of others gonna go through your head to take it.I dont want to insult any one with this post and i am just expressing my own view.Peace
 
#2
OK here goes :) why do most people here are whining ? i registered here not so long ago,and the most topics i would see here people always complaining :confused: I agree there are sometimes serious cases when a depression or SA gets really bad and life falls apart,this even happened to me not so long ago,just out of the blue one day i barrely could last few hours of work :cool: and anxiety was flowing through me that day.Now the most topics i would see here would be people feeling lonely,no relationships,no job or affraid to do anything.And still we live in the world where you need to communicate and fight every day for your happiness,and most people here choose just to speak about troubles which they have in their heads instead doing something better.I myself grew up seeing my parents working hard struggling to put food on the table every day and making my life better and it makes me feel ashamed sometimes,because the sh*t they went through is harder than any anxiety and they never gave up or showed weakness,because this is real life not a fairy tale where everyone is supposed to be nice to you and tolerant.If you wont take a chance millions of others gonna go through your head to take it.I dont want to insult any one with this post and i am just expressing my own view.Peace
what you think we don't try? are you whining?
 
#3
btw. financial problems is kinda different from SA.

yea sure... people who are in poverty are having problems. But imagine that you are supposed to be a normal person, who should be sharing the greatest gift (which is love) and you have been unable to. It's not about that you're having financial problems or that you are less fortunate. The point is that you are supposed to be somehwat "normal" and yet can't do things that "normal" people do.

it's like holding food in front of your and you are hungry as hell yet every step you take takes it further away from you. It is agonizing.

How can you compare us who may be financially well off, with people in poverty? Sure we have some things which are similar but it's not the same thing so how can you compare us?
 

doesit

Well-known member
#5
btw. financial problems is kinda different from SA.

yea sure... people who are in poverty are having problems. But imagine that you are supposed to be a normal person, who should be sharing the greatest gift (which is love) and you have been unable to. It's not about that you're having financial problems or that you are less fortunate. The point is that you are supposed to be somehwat "normal" and yet can't do things that "normal" people do.

it's like holding food in front of your and you are hungry as hell yet every step you take takes it further away from you. It is agonizing.

How can you compare us who may be financially well off, with people in poverty? Sure we have some things which are similar but it's not the same thing so how can you compare us?
My point is when everything is put on the table by someone else like parents ,it removes many real life struggle and leaves you with unreal troubles in the head :rolleyes:
 

DaaaBulls

Well-known member
#6
I agree to an extent. I think that whining is a good way to relieve anxiety short term. It helps get things off of your chest and you feel a little better. BUT, you need to do something about these problems or nothing will get any better imo.
 

Perfidion

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#7
I agree to an extent. I think that whining is a good way to relieve anxiety short term. It helps get things off of your chest and you feel a little better. BUT, you need to do something about these problems or nothing will get any better imo.

True. But some people aren't particularly interested in "doing something" about their problems. They'd rather sit around and regale a captive audience with endless tales of woe, because it's so much easier to get people to feel sorry for you than to actually work at changing your unfortunate circumstances. :D
 
#8
True. But some people aren't particularly interested in "doing something" about their problems. They'd rather sit around and regale a captive audience with endless tales of woe, because it's so much easier to get people to feel sorry for you than to actually work at changing your unfortunate circumstances. :D
I dont know why you like to talk so much about people, with such a pompous and jerky attitude. What is it, you want to gain the attention of the females on this board, and make them see you as the "superior male"? Because you can't understand these people so you talk, condescendingly about them, or talk down to them?

Dont you see that perhaps some of these people don't "want" to change for a reason, even if they can't see it themselves. Something that you might not understand at this point.

Not that I'm one of these people. Changing can be hard. It's not easy for everyone.
 
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Perfidion

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I dont know why you like to talk so much about people, with such a pompous and jerky attitude.

Dont you see that perhaps some of these people don't "want" to change for a reason, even if they can't see it themselves. Something that you might not understand at this point.

Not that I'm one of these people. Changing can be hard. It's not easy for everyone.
I have a pompous and jerky attitude? Oh, that hurts. :D

If you don't change, either now or in the future, you'll stagnate. Your life will remain the same relentless carousel of misery and despair its always been. I'm not saying it's easy. Far from it. But the difficulty doesn't negate the reality. It's sink or swim. Ultimately, the only person who can force a change is you. If you don't want it badly enough, or you're not prepared to do the hard yards, then welcome to the hell that is the rest of your life...

I'm just being honest. I guess some people like their truth to be a little more sugar-coated. Or perhaps they don't like it at all. I'll go back to nodding and smiling and wringing my hands in sympathetic consternation, shall I? :D
 
#10
i watched a documentary recently where people have to work constantly to put food on the table (jamaica i think it was)
they were getting paid next to nothing for a whole days work(or weeks work)
when i see things like that i feel guilty as hell cause i have no right to complain!
but at the same time i feel jealous(if thats the word) cause no matter what, they always have a smile on their face and they are always happy!
 
#11
I have a pompous and jerky attitude? Oh, that hurts. :D

If you don't change, either now or in the future, you'll stagnate. Your life will remain the same relentless carousel of misery and despair its always been. I'm not saying it's easy. Far from it. But the difficulty doesn't negate the reality. It's sink or swim. Ultimately, the only person who can force a change is you. If you don't want it badly enough, or you're not prepared to do the hard yards, then welcome to the hell that is the rest of your life...

I'm just being honest. I guess some people like their truth to be a little more sugar-coated. Or perhaps they don't like it at all. I'll go back to nodding and smiling and wringing my hands in sympathetic consternation, shall I? :D
See there you go again making assumptions. You don't know what I do to make a change. I am taking steps to make a change. I simply mentioned that that's how it is for a lot of people who find it hard to change, because I've been there, and even though I didn't want to change, I also wanted to change, and want to want to change. If life is so easy for you why are you here?

And yes you are acting like a pompous asshole and probably have no real understanding of SA.
 
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Perfidion

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#12
Relax no1. When I said "If you don't change..." I wasn't meaning you specifically. I was speaking in general terms. No one's persecuting you.
 
#13
Relax no1. When I said "If you don't change..." I wasn't meaning you specifically. I was speaking in general terms. No one's persecuting you.
Alright then I apologize. it just seems that anytime someone complains or talks about their problems there are always going to be people saying that the person who talks about these things is being selfish, and doing nothing to change or don't want to change.
 
#14
yea i guess it's true. but really we don't need people talking down to others or condescendingly about others who have a real problem with SA and just don't know how to overcome it.

Yea you said no offense. So I understand you're not really trying to offend. If I sound offensive then I apologize for it.

Im tired....
 

DaaaBulls

Well-known member
#15
I feel like there is a lot of good advice that is swapped between the members of this forum. Some of those members, I don't know any off the top of my head do not seem to have the will power or strive to change and continue to moan and groan about their lives. I know that it is hard, especially having different circumstances growing up but imo there comes a point when you realize life isn't perfect and it probably never will be but that's ok. You just live your own life, what ever that may be, and be content with it. But sitting at home and not even trying to change does kind of urk some of us who do give useful information and yet people seem to not take it to heart and want to hear sympathizers.

Not trying to sound rude or stand on a soap box but I think the op has a point in some respects. You should use this site as a way to improve and find ways to improve and not to wallow in misery and not take any advice or just ignore the advice given.
 

LostViking

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#16
Now the most topics i would see here would be people feeling lonely,no relationships,no job or affraid to do anything.And still we live in the world where you need to communicate and fight every day for your happiness,and most people here choose just to speak about troubles which they have in their heads instead doing something better.
Considering this is a support board for the troubles inside our head, I believe you had the wrong expectations when you signed up.

As for change, it can be a bitch, and for most people it's hard to break out of old habits and routine. If you're in a bad circle long enough, that bad circle is all you know, so it's still potentially safer and "better" than whatever the option is (even though the option is rationally better in every way). And I don't think anyone here doesn't want to change at all, it's mostly that individuals respond to things in different ways. Some will be hostile to any suggestions they don't come up with themselves, some will be hostile to suggestions with roots in religion, etc.
 
#17
Whining and Dining

I dont know why you like to talk so much about people, with such a pompous and jerky attitude. What is it, you want to gain the attention of the females on this board, and make them see you as the "superior male"?
Oh my god, that was like so funny!!!! no1 that was great, it really was.

There are lots of reaons why people complain. A lot of people confuse excuses and reasons, and they don't want to try anything that takes any amount of effort. People want to vent, yeah I get that, but it can get to be a bit much after awhile. If you aren't going to even try to do do something about it, sometimes it's just like "SHUT UP!!!". I guess it's a different thing if it's out of your control. Everyone has a right to their problems, no matter how bad they are. There is always going to be someone who is off worse and someone who is off better, so it's not about comparing anything... Just try to keep the complaints to a reasonable level, and try not to be annoying in the process!!!
 

I_Walk_Alone

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#18
True. But some people aren't particularly interested in "doing something" about their problems. They'd rather sit around and regale a captive audience with endless tales of woe, because it's so much easier to get people to feel sorry for you than to actually work at changing your unfortunate circumstances. :D
Whilst I agree, I'd advise you to maybe sugar-coat it a little on a board like this..;)
 

Ashiene

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#20
Why are you whining about people whining?
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