When someone asks you about yourself

[MollyBeGood]

Do you draw blanks when someone asks questions about you? Where you live, your past, even what you did last week?

I am always doing this and I feel soo stupid and it makes me so anxious talking to people. I literally have to think about where I live, like there is a pause and I have to think about it if they ask, instead of just free flow out my mouth. It's so bloody frustrating and immediately makes me blush and feel anxious.

Does anyone else have this problem?

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

There's really nothing to know, so I just deflect and redirect the conversation because it's much more interesting to hear about other people than myself.

Can you think of specific examples where this has happened to you?

 

[kihira]

I can usually come out with something to say, but it feels very awkward and in my mind I'm asking "why do they want to know that?"

 

[Psychedelicious]

this

I hateeeee it when people ask me about myself, hate it. I honestly have almost nothing to say. I hate when people ask how I'm doing, what my plans are, what I'm doing with my life right now, etc etc. I just awkwardly go completely blank, and look scared and silent. I have to really think about it too, and even then I don't know what to say most of the time.

 

[FountainandFairfax]

It's the worst.

It'd be nice if I could do that Dracula-move where he goes "No, don't see me now..." and just erase the whole thing whenever I bump into someone like that, ha ha.

 

[Kiwong]

I hate office round tables, waiting to say something halfway intelligent about myself.

 

[DeLasDudasInfinitas]

I hate it too. I always feel anxious because I can't stop thinking that what I'm going to say is stupid or that the person will think that it's stupid. I usually try to avoid it redirecting the questions to them even if I know that it isn't a good way to solve the situation.

 

[Graeme1988]

Oh aye, ah cun relate there. Coz ah dae that a lot...

But then, ah dinnae really like talkin' aboot masel' aw that much.
Ah dinnae huv much tae say - being it interesting or intelligent - and ah dinnae exactly an engaging personality fur that matter.
Also, who da f%*k would be interested in what ah've been up tae, anyway?

 

[Hellhound]

I don't mind as long as it isn't anything too personal.

 

[MollyBeGood]

There's really nothing to know, so I just deflect and redirect the conversation because it's much more interesting to hear about other people than myself.

Can you think of specific examples where this has happened to you?[/QUOTE

^anytime I ever run into anyone. I rate talking about myself up there with going to the gyno.

 

[Ajaix]

I hate when people ask me questions about anything on the job or not. Also i hate when people ask me what i have been doing then i have to tell them just been working. Then they say oh what do you do hate that so much.

 

[MollyBeGood]

I hate when people ask me questions about anything on the job or not. Also i hate when people ask me what i have been doing then i have to tell them just been working. Then they say oh what do you do hate that so much.

Yeah it's always a way they size you up and compare..it's like the empty "How are you?" when we all know people have no desire to really know how you are. IDK sometimes I think I am reading too much into things but then I know for a fact no one really gives a sh*t about other people.

 

[Ajaix]

Yeah i feel like if you have a bad job or a job you don't make a lot of money at most people just look at you like you are worthless. its why i hate telling people my job. I read to much into things good or bad for me.

 

[MollyBeGood]

I know they want to know what you're doing and yes if it's not something to be proud of it's hard to talk about. I feel like people ask because they want to one-up you and gossip. I just want to say "I am unemployed and living in poverty and I don't remember the last time I ate a warm meal" and see the look on their face. Damn I wish I could do that. Really weed out the azzholes quickly. Then unfortunately they wold view me as a charity case and tbh I choose to live the way I do because I don't want to be apart of society... But i have no desire to talk about that with people. I would rather go hungry anymore.

 

[MollyBeGood]

It's the worst.

It'd be nice if I could do that Dracula-move where he goes "No, don't see me now..." and just erase the whole thing whenever I bump into someone like that, ha ha.

LoL

I would LOVE to be invisible!

 

[MollyBeGood]

Re: this

I hateeeee it when people ask me about myself, hate it. I honestly have almost nothing to say. I hate when people ask how I'm doing, what my plans are, what I'm doing with my life right now, etc etc. I just awkwardly go completely blank, and look scared and silent. I have to really think about it too, and even then I don't know what to say most of the time.

me too!!.....

 

[Ajaix]

Oh i would love to be able to go invisible especially when i go grocery shopping man i hate doing that. All those people around me UGH!

 

[MollyBeGood]

hah yep. Definitely. I like to go at really weird hours if possible then no ones around. Then it's kinda fun.

 

[MikeyC]

I don't mind if people ask me questions about myself. Now that I'm going to uni and have some plans for the first time...well, ever, questions like "what do you do?" aren't so bad.

However, I generally dislike talking about myself - much to the ire of my girlfriend - so I like to focus on my conversational partner instead. It creates a friendship and it also shows that I'm selfless and attentive.

I've noticed that people generally like to talk about themselves, and don't usually ask me questions about myself, anyway, so it works for me.

 

[MotherWolff]

Do you draw blanks when someone asks questions about you? Where you live, your past, even what you did last week?

I am always doing this and I feel soo stupid and it makes me so anxious talking to people. I literally have to think about where I live, like there is a pause and I have to think about it if they ask, instead of just free flow out my mouth. It's so bloody frustrating and immediately makes me blush and feel anxious.

Does anyone else have this problem?

Hi MollyBeGood.

Hey, please don't feel bad for feeling a bit lost when someone suddenly approaches you and asks these things of you. Why? Because you aren't alone. Lots of people do it and its not even just people with SA/social phobia. Heck, I don't remember half the things I did the week before myself.

I think you're beating yourself up for something very insignificant. I believe the solution to your problem here, would be to engage in more conversations. You know what they say; "Practice makes perfect!"erfect: