When someone asks you about yourself

[MollyBeGood]

Thanks WolfMomma,

Yeah I know I am completely out of practice and that is the jist of it. I still don't like promoting myself, and that's what talking about myself always feels like to me.

Thanks for the words of encouragement-you're sweet!

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

^anytime I ever run into anyone. I rate talking about myself up there with going to the gyno.

I was being a bit of a smart arse. Since the thread is essentially asking people about themselves, I was demonstrating what I do by not really answering the question but instead turning the focus back towards the other person. Subtlety effective, no?

 

[MollyBeGood]

I was being a bit of a smart arse. Since the thread is essentially asking people about themselves, I was demonstrating what I do by not really answering the question but instead turning the focus back towards the other person. Subtlety effective, no?

Oh it's fine I do that too actually ALL the time it's been my strategy with such questions...works great too!

...I however have to talk about myself now to get work so it's a different thing..no deflection will work there.

 

[MotherWolff]

Thanks WolfMomma,

Yeah I know I am completely out of practice and that is the jist of it. I still don't like promoting myself, and that's what talking about myself always feels like to me.

Thanks for the words of encouragement-you're sweet!

Well, I look at it like this; you're not promoting yourself, but empowering yourself if you tell someone all the positive things about yourself. You'll empower the person you're speaking to as well! Just stay positive and remember, practice makes perfect.erfect:

 

[Kiwong]

I am happy to talk about the things I have a passion for. Like running and photography. Not that I want talk about myself, but I am looking to share how great these things can be, with people who have the same passions.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

It might be an idea to come up with generic answers to such questions so that you have a response if it bothers you to blank on things?

Like when someone asks how you are; I tend to say, 'I'm alright-' then comment on the weather.
It kind of distracts *me* from just bluntly saying: 'I'm not really alright. my life sucks and I hate everything. thanks for asking.'

haha

 

[PugofCrydee]

I used to have those 'lost' moments when someone asked me something like that.
I found that its best to have a 'go to' general answer that you have for those moments.
If some one asks you say, 'what are you doing this weekend?' your safe answer would be something like; 'I have a few things I have to catch up on at home but that's about it'
-Then importantly ask them in return (so it puts the focus back on them)- 'What about you?'.
If you're uncomfortable answering similar questions about yourself, its a good idea to have and even practice those 'safe', go to' answers. And always remember to return the question. Its gets the other person thinking about themselves instead of you.

 

[MollyBeGood]

This tread reminds me of how ridiculously hopeless I am to ever fit in anywhere.

Thanks for the advice folks.