What were some of your horrible experences with "friends?"

[vj288]

I had a friend throughout high school who would regularly tell me I suck at life. Not meanly per se, he just didn't exactly go out of his way to boost my self-esteem. He was one of the few people I could talk to though, probably because I thought so little of myself and it felt comfortable. He was also one of those people who punched your arm instead of saying hello, I developed a flinch from it ::. He wasn't a bad person though.

 

[AGR]

no I never had experiences like that with friends,because its hard to me consider someone a friend,bad people are out of the list,I get that people are human,mistakes happen,are overrun by emotions,but being truly bad is different,and that makes me feel really diferent than other people,even here in this forum.
I may tag along with those people because of the circunstances but dont consider them as friends.

 

[bardock]

my friends once told someone that I was selling drugs, and gave him my address. so the guy knocked on our house, I didnt even know who he was, well barely, and he told my dad all the things my "friends" had told him. Even though my dad was skeptical about it cause im a really shy quiet boy, and its rare that a random person would knock on our house and say those things, I got a beating for it. When I confronted my "friends" they said they didnt think he would actually come to my house and say all those things, as they were only joking with him, and i'm not really an agressive guy so I just moved on, and thats when I realised I have no true friends.

 

[Canis lupus]

Guess this is pretty much universal for us. My so-called friends from my teenyears together with my grandfather are also a big reason why I have the problems I have today. I was constantly taken advantage of, ridiculized, talked down to, laughed at and so on. They used me for sigarettes, money, playing games on my PC, for my car or just to feel better about themselves by comparing themselves to me. When I was 14 or so someone I considered my best friend back then just beat me up to prove himself to the rest of our "friends". I was to nice to stand up for myself, didn't want to hurt anyone. How I regret that now. Not a day goes by that I wish I could ruin their lifes just like they ruined mine. I also considered it to be normal. I never knew better. My own grandfather kept telling me that I was a loser that would never make it in life and the rest of my family, except for my parents think I'm a weirdo. Why would anyone else be any different? Lost the girl of my dreams because of them. When I still had a chance with her I've let her go because I couldn't imagine someone would want to spend their life with me. Every day I'm being consumed by hate for them and practically everything that is human. People in general are selfish, arrogant *******s that won't think twice to destroy your life if it means bettering theirs.

 

[Boby]

Well I didn't had many horrible experiences with friends,mostly because I'm very careful which person I tag as friend but I did had some nasty experiences with a guy.
This guy was a childhood friend,when it was just the two of us he was a really nice guy,very helpful and was one of the few people who knew about me being shy and everything and I could also talk with him about it.But when we were in a group of people he was turning in to an a$$hole,he was making me the object of his jokes.That led to some of the most embarrassing moments of my life.
For example one time I was in the park with him and we met with a group of girls that he knew.Some of the girls were very interested in who I am and why they haven't seen me around until now and right when I tried to tell something my "friend" told them that I was actually from around but they didn't seen me because I was geek spending all of my time home,which was kinda true but that was a very embarrassing for me.
And that was only a easy one ,quite a few times it ended in me beating him(literally).One time we went in the same park to met with some other guys and my "friend" started to make jokes about me.
At first I played along and tried to make joke about him too and have like a joke contest but one of the other guys(another a$$hole I knew from school) joined his side ,so there was a 2 vs 1 battle.So of course I ended up being the laughing target of the group and that got me really angry and I started a fight with my "friend".I got so berzerk that he got scared and ran away from me.I had to ran after him for like 5 km occasionally raining punches on him when he was trying to take a breath,he managed to escape by jumping into a buss lol.
That was the only "friend" that gave a really hard time.

 

[Gaucho]

i had many of these friends, that were so nice when i was alone with them, but in the group they tried to make me feel as lough object, like the stupid one .

 

[Richey]

i had many of these friends, that were so nice when i was alone with them, but in the group they tried to make me feel as lough object, like the stupid one .

Yeh its funny how some people change completely in a group environment (like crows circling), i never understood that because i don't change around a group, i'm just myself. i find it bizzare, its usually the ego-centric ones that are like that or the gossipy ones.

 

[MikeyC]

i had many of these friends, that were so nice when i was alone with them, but in the group they tried to make me feel as lough object, like the stupid one .

Yeah, people on their own were fine. In groups and they were totally different.

 

[9407]

I also had the group thing happen. It's usually one person in the group that doesn't like you and gets all the others to start making fun of you.

 

[MikeyC]

The most recent bad friend was somebody I cut ties with a couple of years ago now. She was always throwing temper tantrums if she didn't get her own way and would stop talking to me over the most stupid of things. Like once I accidentally hit her car door with my bag whilst stepping out of it, and she wouldn't speak to me for a week because I 'could have damaged the car for good'. Final straw was when I overcame a difficult period in my life by quitting a job which was causing me distress and booking a travelling trip. She blocked me on MSN and sent me a text saying it wasn't fair that I was going on holiday and she wasn't, and that she couldn't cope with me talking about it. Which I hadn't planned on doing too much anyway besides telling her I was going. Everybody told me she wasn't a good friend to have but it took me a while to realise. Naivety?

What is her problem? That is so strange. My friend is going on a big holiday to Europe in a few months and I'm not ignoring him because of it - in fact I'm encouraging him to have a wicked time. I wonder why this friend of yours didn't feel the same way about you? You should've really told her how you felt about her once you ended the friendship.

It always staggers me how, not just my experience, so many people out there can't be genuinely happy for their friends when they do something good, or are competitive etc. It's getting easier to see.

Yep. It's dog-eat-dog, no matter what the situation. It's unfortunate.

 

[Srijita52]

I've had a few bad 'friends' in the past though not so much anymore... you eventually realise who are the ones who really care and who are the ones who are just using you for whatever reason.

The most recent bad friend was somebody I cut ties with a couple of years ago now. She was always throwing temper tantrums if she didn't get her own way and would stop talking to me over the most stupid of things. Like once I accidentally hit her car door with my bag whilst stepping out of it, and she wouldn't speak to me for a week because I 'could have damaged the car for good'. Final straw was when I overcame a difficult period in my life by quitting a job which was causing me distress and booking a travelling trip. She blocked me on MSN and sent me a text saying it wasn't fair that I was going on holiday and she wasn't, and that she couldn't cope with me talking about it. Which I hadn't planned on doing too much anyway besides telling her I was going. Everybody told me she wasn't a good friend to have but it took me a while to realise. Naivety?

It always staggers me how, not just my experience, so many people out there can't be genuinely happy for their friends when they do something good, or are competitive etc. It's getting easier to see.

She sounds like an awful friend, its good that you cut ties with her.

 

[jc972]

When some ''friends'' only called or came to my house when they wanted something. I finally confronted them about it and they wont speak to me now, so be it.

 

[Falkor]

A friend, whom I actually got in love with, when I got to know her better and hang around with everyday at school.

Back then, was in a relationship with a guy, and never knew I was lesbian. Until I fell in love with this girl when I was in a relationship already with a guy.

So, when she noticed (I didn't even tell) she got angry and hated me for the fact that I cheated on this guy by not letting him know and lying to everyone I was straight and that she hated me because I was too gay.

 

[9407]

What is her problem? That is so strange. My friend is going on a big holiday to Europe in a few months and I'm not ignoring him because of it - in fact I'm encouraging him to have a wicked time. I wonder why this friend of yours didn't feel the same way about you? You should've really told her how you felt about her once you ended the friendship.


Yep. It's dog-eat-dog, no matter what the situation. It's unfortunate.

Yeah, I had a friend in grade 8 who was overly clingy. It's a really long story and I don't want to get into deals but.......he said he had an evil side (which was supposedly someone other than him) that told me that he had a crush on me. (He thought he had magical powers.....)

 

[persianfan247]

I haven't had nearly as bad experiences as other people in this. My former friends were mostly fine but could be dicks as well. There is a line between bullying and friendly teasing which they did cross. It was especially bad with one of my friends whom I was the closest to. When it was just him, a certain other friend me, he would mock me for th stupid things I did. I suspect he really just wanted to impress the other friend by being really funny. This other was a really cool guy but I believe he was liked more by yet another friend who was this close friend's best friend. Rather convoluted friendship circle politics. But yeah guys with big egos, not that they would realise it themselves and if they read this they would probably just laugh at me.

 

[1BlackSheep]

I've had a few bad 'friends' in the past though not so much anymore... you eventually realise who are the ones who really care and who are the ones who are just using you for whatever reason.

Me too, but it's taken a very long time for me to finally get to this point!

The most recent bad friend was somebody I cut ties with a couple of years ago now. She was always throwing temper tantrums if she didn't get her own way and would stop talking to me over the most stupid of things.

I had a friend that would do the ignoring me thing too if I said something negative about something or someone she liked. Wasn't allow to have an opinion! So stupid!

 

[Silatuyok]

One that really sticks out in my mind is a time when I was boarding at my school in highschool. I invited one of my classmates (who was also boarding there at the school) to come home with me for the weekend. She was excited and said yes, but later just as I was getting ready to leave for home she ran over to me and said that someone else had invited her over to their house for the weekend, so she was going to go there instead. I was pretty well crushed.

Ever since highschool I've just had bad experiences with trying to do anything with friends or trying to make new ones. I always get blown off in one way or another. One time I threw a housewarming party for myself and only one person (my sister) showed up. I've stopped trying to make friends because it just doesn't seem to be worth the heartache anymore.

 

[MikeyC]

Yeah, I had a friend in grade 8 who was overly clingy. It's a really long story and I don't want to get into deals but.......he said he had an evil side (which was supposedly someone other than him) that told me that he had a crush on me. (He thought he had magical powers.....)

I think that's less clingy and more psychotic.

One that really sticks out in my mind is a time when I was boarding at my school in highschool. I invited one of my classmates (who was also boarding there at the school) to come home with me for the weekend. She was excited and said yes, but later just as I was getting ready to leave for home she ran over to me and said that someone else had invited her over to their house for the weekend, so she was going to go there instead. I was pretty well crushed.

Ever since highschool I've just had bad experiences with trying to do anything with friends or trying to make new ones. I always get blown off in one way or another. One time I threw a housewarming party for myself and only one person (my sister) showed up. I've stopped trying to make friends because it just doesn't seem to be worth the heartache anymore.

Wow, I'm really sorry. :: To be blown off because apparently something better has come along is pretty low. I can understand you've stopped trying. Do you get lonely, though?

 

[Silatuyok]

Wow, I'm really sorry. :: To be blown off because apparently something better has come along is pretty low. I can understand you've stopped trying. Do you get lonely, though?

I don't get lonely so much, I just wish sometimes that people would want to spend time with me, just for the fact that it feels good to be included and liked. I would enjoy hosting events at my house, but I don't have anyone but family to invite. That gets kind of depressing.

 

[MikeyC]

I don't get lonely so much, I just wish sometimes that people would want to spend time with me, just for the fact that it feels good to be included and liked. I would enjoy hosting events at my house, but I don't have anyone but family to invite. That gets kind of depressing.

I understand. With a house like that and a girl as nice as you, I would totally come over and spend time with you. Not that it's any consolation, but still.