Virgin roll call :)

[Silentknight]

Just curious how many people are virgins here? How old are you? Are you proud of you're virgin status?
I myself am a virgin of 19 years and have slowly become proud of it finally.

 

[Interzone]

I will be honest, no matter how shallow or immature this sounds. I'm 19 and a virgin. And I want to get laid. In fact, the idea of meaningless or casual sex is quite appealing to me.

 

[Felgen]

Not a virgin, but if I knew (back when I lost it in a one-night stand to someone I can't remember the name of) that most girls wouldn't mind, I would have waited until I was in a relationship. Not losing it to someone that mattered anything to me actually distorted my views on sex for a while.

 

[Silentknight]

I will be honest, no matter how shallow or immature this sounds. I'm 19 and a virgin. And I want to get laid. In fact, the idea of meaningless or casual sex is quite appealing to me.

Thank you for being honest.
I'd prefer people be honest to how they feel then write what they think is the right answer since their is no right answer.
And it's not shallow no judging here.

 

[SilverRain]

*Raises hand* 23 year old who's never even been on a date, so definitely still a virgin. :: I don't know whether I'd say I'm proud of it exactly, but I do know I have no desire for any sexual relations, since I have a hard time handling any physical contact at all. Intimacy issues doing their thing as usual.

 

[Forgotten-Children]

Murf... I'm a virgin and hate it... I'm practically sexually starved so it seems that every day I have urges unless I go to bed depressed. >3> It doesn't really help knowing that my boyfriend lives in a completely different state than me and it'll be a while before I can actually move in with him as far as I know.

*cough* It also sucks to know that sometimes I'm just too tired to actually get that point during some nights. Bleh..

EDIT: I'm 20 but I oddly didn't start to have sexual urges until I was 18 and I'm a girl. It didn't mean I wasn't maturing physically but... I dunno. *shrugs* Maybe that's why I am the way I am now because all though hormones during those years built up.

 

[Interzone]

Sexually starved would be a good way to put it. Again, I'm a 19 year old male and there's no denying that I want to have sex, a lot of sex. My sex drive is extremely hyper and it's hard for me to put off fantasies and thoughts of sex every day. I'm not going to say otherwise for the sake of acceptance or for what is morally "correct". This is the truth and most guys are probably like me, they're just afraid to admit it because they're scared of being labeled things.

And women, don't kid yourselves. Most men want to have sex and you can bet most men have sex on their minds A LOT. Again, this does not mean that that is the only thing they are interested in doing with you. Because that is simply not true. But sexual urges are present.

Now, this does not mean that all I want to do is have sex with a girl. And yes, I've thought about the consequences of sex but also about the positives. Therefore, I've come to the conclusion that it's ok to have sex as long as you are careful. We're all human after all and it's hard to suppress biological urges, including the want for sex.

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

I honestly don't care whether or not I'm a virgin for the time being. I certainly don't want to lose it while I'm still so young (only 17) and pregnancy is something I definitely and NEVER want to deal with. I'll be honest: I tend to get a lot of "urges" and I think about sex quite a lot, but having about 3 friends who got pregnant at around 14-15 years and hearing their stories about pregnancy gives me all the more reason to save myself up. As long as I don't die a virgin or become the next "40 year old virgin" then it's all good ::

 

[kuze]

*raises hand* 25 yr old virgin here, and it looks like it'll be a while before it happens.

 

[Social_Monstrosity]

*raises hand*

I'm 19 now, 20 in four months. Almost HALFWAY to big 40.

But yeah, I'd like to have sex. It's quite appealing to me but it's going to prove to be quite the daunting task to even get close to having it.

 

[MsBuzzkillington]

^^ Oh gosh, half way to 40? I am more than half way to 50! 24 years to go.

I am 26 and I am a virgin. I don't really care. I have no real desire to have sex. It's not something I feel I am missing out on. I actually wouldn't mind a life if I never had sex.

 

[JamesSmith]

After reading through this site's post, the virgin topic seems to be the "talk of the site." I knew that socially anxious people could be virgins, but I admit I am shocked at how many people on here are as old as they are and still virgins. Once upon a time, I thought practically nobody was a virgin like me, but after seeing these virgin threads again and again, I know it's more common than I anticipated.

I'm 26 and still a virgin. Do I feel bad about? No. What's there to feel bad about? Most people don't have sex the first time with someone who will be or is their spouse, so if anything I'm unintentionally saving myself for a marriage that has more meaning. I just don't get why so many people think you're less of a person cuz you haven't had sex. Isn't love more important than sex? If people on here are going to beat themselves up about not having had something, I think they should be more frustrated with not having ever been in love with someone, not having not been laid.

 

[userremoved]

^I deleted my post out of shame but like JamesSmith said I guess I shouldn't be. I'm with you guys too. I guess that comes with the territory of someone with SA.

 

[kuze]

After reading through this site's post, the virgin topic seems to be the "talk of the site." I knew that socially anxious people could be virgins, but I admit I am shocked at how many people on here are as old as they are and still virgins. Once upon a time, I thought practically nobody was a virgin like me, but after seeing these virgin threads again and again, I know it's more common than I anticipated.

I'm 26 and still a virgin. Do I feel bad about? No. What's there to feel bad about? Most people don't have sex the first time with someone who will be or is their spouse, so if anything I'm unintentionally saving myself for a marriage that has more meaning. I just don't get why so many people think you're less of a person cuz you haven't had sex. Isn't love more important than sex? If people on here are going to beat themselves up about not having had something, I think they should be more frustrated with not having ever been in love with someone, not having not been laid.

Actually not experiencing love bugs me more than sex, sex is attainable, if push comes to shove I can get an escort or something. Finding love is a lot harder.

 

[Interzone]

After reading through this site's post, the virgin topic seems to be the "talk of the site." I knew that socially anxious people could be virgins, but I admit I am shocked at how many people on here are as old as they are and still virgins. Once upon a time, I thought practically nobody was a virgin like me, but after seeing these virgin threads again and again, I know it's more common than I anticipated.

I'm 26 and still a virgin. Do I feel bad about? No. What's there to feel bad about? Most people don't have sex the first time with someone who will be or is their spouse, so if anything I'm unintentionally saving myself for a marriage that has more meaning. I just don't get why so many people think you're less of a person cuz you haven't had sex. Isn't love more important than sex? If people on here are going to beat themselves up about not having had something, I think they should be more frustrated with not having ever been in love with someone, not having not been laid.

I'm a long ways away from marriage and have no plans to wait till then to get laid. In fact, I don't think I ever want to get married, but I do want to find someone to be with for the rest of my life at some later point.

I want to have sex now while I'm young and able.

 

[vj288]

I wouldn't say I'm proud but I'm in no way ashamed of my virgin status. All it means to me is I haven't found someone to love yet, and right now I don't think I'm even ready for that now anyway. If I die a virgin it would depress me more that I died without finding someone to love then the fact that I never had sex.

 

[Blaze]

I almost consider myself a virgin considering every time I had sex it was a disappointing experience. Sex can be a wonderful thing if you share it with the right person, in my case they weren't. Still waiting for that special someone that I'll never find to make the experience worthwhile and memorable.

 

[bsebring]

21, virgin.
weird, i was just thinking about this earlier...
I was thinking about how much I want to fall in love but how impossible it would be at this time in my life considering I really don't having anything to offer the other person right now. With that being said, I still long for a connection with someone.
But to answer your question, it's kind of bitter sweet to still be a virgin. As much as I want to get laid or whatever, I just don't want it to be with some random guy. it seems like it can be so much better with someone who understands who I am as a person. It will make things a lot less awkward. I mean when I was hooking up with guys in the past, I liked the conversation we had throughout the night rather than just making out. I seems boring without intimacy involved. Plus, one night stands leave you feeling empty afterwards. If there weren't feelings involved I'd be the first one to go screw some random guy but I'd rather not have some guy be reckless with my heart after the fact. I'm waiting for love, it will be while before I can get my life in order, but it seems like it will be worth the wait.

 

[Anti Matter]

I'm 22, a virgin and I don't really care anymore. Had one relationship that knocked my confidence off balance and I will never venture in that area ever again. I seem to attract unstable people that think they can use people for their own agenda (what ever that might be).

I'm slightly ashamed and it does annoy me sometimes considering everyone I know and talk to thinks they are above me in some way or another because they have had sex, but in the end I don't need to attain acceptance off another human. I don't need a relationship that will just end up dying anyway. I go to work, sit on my arse, go home, eat, watch TV, play video games and this is how it will always be. This is not being a defeatist, this is just reality.

I accept it.

 

[coyote]

I want to have sex now while I'm young and able.

You don't have to be that young to be able :]