"She's out of my league"
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MrJones
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I know it's not my business, but maybe you should not flirt with married women, even if nothing will come of it.I guess i feel most people are out of my league.I find it a lot easier to flirt with married women cause i know nothing will come of it.Its a lot easier when there is no pressure.I would never start it though
Paahi
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The Observer
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If you don't try you don't get.
I've seen some people who were to be blunt, ugly, with attractive members of the opposite sex who by all means were "out of there league" but it just goes to show that this means nothing if your a good person. Maybe the OP shouldn't be so shallow and into girls who are just all good lookers...
I've seen some people who were to be blunt, ugly, with attractive members of the opposite sex who by all means were "out of there league" but it just goes to show that this means nothing if your a good person. Maybe the OP shouldn't be so shallow and into girls who are just all good lookers...
Felgen
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I don't think she's out of my league, but if she shows interest, I occasissionally wonder why the hell she'd date someone who still lives with his parents when she can get any other guy.
Felgen
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maybe she thinks you saved hell lot of money by sparing on living expenses
I usually tell that I have rich parents (which is true) and that I'm still in college (which is also true). The deal breaker after a few weeks is almost always my lack of social intuition and not how I live. :
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I never saw anything in the OP's post that refferred to looks. He later said a girl was cute, which could mean anything. It's a little harsh to call someone shallow for no obvious reason.
I guess we could feel like anyone is out of our league for any given reason, SAers are hardly known for thier confidence
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Nanita
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When meeting someone, I never feel that I´m out of their league.
But if it comes to having a serious relationship, I feel that I´m in a loner-league and the guy is always in a league of ... well many friends and good family.
I just never fit into their family & friends. I wish I could meet someone who is as lonely as myself, I always meet guys who expect me to get "better" and more "normal".
But if it comes to having a serious relationship, I feel that I´m in a loner-league and the guy is always in a league of ... well many friends and good family.
I just never fit into their family & friends. I wish I could meet someone who is as lonely as myself, I always meet guys who expect me to get "better" and more "normal".
Bittersweet
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Good point. Very logical and rational.
How do I get my emotions to follow such reasoning?
I'm not sure. I think I just do it naturally. It might help if you start to regularly ask yourself whether you're reacting to a situation based on logic or pure emotion.
alwaysrunning
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Perhaps its some sort of defense mechanism like others seem to think as well. I always seem to do this around guys who i form close-more-than friendship/friendships (lol coudlnt finf the right word)with. I remember two years ago i met someone who i fell very hard for and we saw each other practically every day. As time went on i started to get suspicious of why he seemed so interested in my friendship given that he was so "out of my league", thus slowly but surely i stopped texting back, calling back, i mustve been such a purposeful bore when we were hanging out that yeah eventually now were not friends anymore. In my head he just saw me as his nerdy sidekick companion, to me he was more than that, but the "league" issue was so ingrained into my head that it was all i could think about when we were together. Maybe next time i wont think that way and wont ruin a friendship(after all that is all there was-to him) over something stupid.
LOL GO Luke!!!
Always, nerdy is the new COOL didn't you hear that?? Bill Gates and all that??
Pyro, I like what you wrote about leagues!!
Nanita, you soo deserve guys who are delighted with you being 'non-normal'!!
Though some guys with family & friends can be nice too...? Depending on what kind of family and friends they are, no?
Nanita
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That too.
But my family is very few people and I rarely see them, so it´s not a huge deal.
N0D
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hmm, my ex was in whatever the highest league is physically, but she was mentally fracked up, which I guess brought her down to my league, this is less then ideal for a partner, I would much prefer a mentally aright woman who is physically in my league, I suspect teh sex with this girl would be E P I C for both of us.
IGotSeoul
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the only women out of my league are the ones playing a different sport.
(not implying that I can get any woman I want, contrarily far from that. instead, I am aiming to metaphorically express that leagues are not of much importance and the main idea is to find somebody playing the same metaphorical sport as you, regardless of what you manifest as value (i.e. league) to yourself of others as it's simply a single individualized subjective feeling. these things do not matter if the person of interest is playing the same metaphorical sport as mentioned above.)
(not implying that I can get any woman I want, contrarily far from that. instead, I am aiming to metaphorically express that leagues are not of much importance and the main idea is to find somebody playing the same metaphorical sport as you, regardless of what you manifest as value (i.e. league) to yourself of others as it's simply a single individualized subjective feeling. these things do not matter if the person of interest is playing the same metaphorical sport as mentioned above.)
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I now wanna see your family. lol!
Tino, women are generally forgiving creatures and don't expect you to be perfect. Sometimes being awkward together can be sweet too... (Just watch the Korean/Japanese dramas lol) It depends on the woman, of course too..
I liked my ex's mum better than him actually lol...!! (horrible to admit isn't it?? haha)
anyway, compatibility is key, perfection doesn't exist... (or different things are 'perfect' for different people...)