JamesSmith
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When i was 17, i hadn't been on a date yet. I didn't even go on a date until i was 20 and that's still the only one i've been on and I'm 26.
rejected before a relationship even starts
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When i was 17, i hadn't been on a date yet. I didn't even go on a date until i was 20 and that's still the only one i've been on and I'm 26.
Liam17
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:/ well i doubt i'll do any better. I might as well give up, and avoid disappointment. Theres no point in hoping, cause i can't change who i am.
Well I guess that's that then, huh? What shall we talk about next? I'm rather fond of pie, myself.
JamesSmith
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Funkyberries, do you mind me asking how many relationships you have been in and how old you are? I'm just curious. Why did you delete your long post that was just on here?
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Liam17
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I think it's true that you can't eat just one, but the texture kinda gets to me after a while.
Felgen
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At your age, I had never even been on a date. My dad had never had a girlfriend before the age of 23. Today, at the age of 48, he has four children and has been married to the same woman for nearly half his life.
kihira
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Liam, having a girlfriend does bring happiness and confidence, but you need to foster these regardless (foster as in nurture, not the tinnie
). Girls generally like guys who display themselves positively, even if its partly/mostly acting. When people mope around all the time it can actually be a turn off, unless you're into to one of the subcultures that enjoy this. Too often it seems that guys think that because they feel miserable then girls should feel sorry for them. This just doesn't cut it.
Pookah
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I'm 27, female and have never been in a real relationship. I don't count the 2 weeks in which I barely talked to the boy who asked me to the Hop when I was 16.
I have been on maybe 2 dates in my adult life. Those were all friend of a friend situations in which I interacted in a small group. Both guys were pretty self absorbed/jerks and I retreated back to friend land. Oh and one incredibly botched internet meeting that is best to be forgotten.
Never has someone approached me out of the blue. Though it might have something to do with not being thought of as pretty on top of the mental issues.
So, I'm thinking this is on on par with the men here.
I have been on maybe 2 dates in my adult life. Those were all friend of a friend situations in which I interacted in a small group. Both guys were pretty self absorbed/jerks and I retreated back to friend land. Oh and one incredibly botched internet meeting that is best to be forgotten.
Never has someone approached me out of the blue. Though it might have something to do with not being thought of as pretty on top of the mental issues.
So, I'm thinking this is on on par with the men here.
Felgen
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Very few (if any) relationships start when a guy approaches a girl out of the blue. So-called pick-up artists may claim that this is the way to do it, but these guys aren't relationships experts--they're salesmen.
kihira
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This really stands out, this is a true truth. Genuine attention and care, were its less about you and more about them. This is compassionate love that goes beyond this whole dating game thing. 'What I want for you', not 'What can I get out of this'
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Liam17
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Well i'm saying i'll never find anyone. But society is different now, we're expected to have done everything. I'v not even kissed a girl, so even when i'm older and done nothing, this in experience will most likely turn more girls off.
It just makes my life harder.
So i give up, all the girls i know as friends don't like me. So nothing more i can do.
You are a wise man
. Women are made to just be "awed" @ and admired... sort of like a precious work of abstract art... too beautiful to touch and too complex to understand.Yeah kinda cheesy, but that's how I feel about them atm, maybe that'll change soon
Felgen
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Stop putting it on top of a pedestal and treating it like it's made of gold. That made it a whole lot easier for me. If you act confident, then the first girl you kiss won't know that she's your first.
You are a wise man
Yeah kinda cheesy, but that's how I feel about them atm, maybe that'll change soon
Women = People
Men = People
People = Me & You & Them. No... no that's a monkey.
Fear of rejection. Fear of commitment(?). Fear of opposites. Fearing misunderstood. Fearing what is unknown. Fear. <-- I am in there as well. I have work to do.
Liam17
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I am confident, i'm in a band.
I preform infront of loads of people.
I'v asked girls out.
I just get rejected. I'm not good looking enough.
A friend
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You've made the right choice. The dating world is pretty much like the middle east, only it's much more depressing, and slightly more savage and primitive...
:|
Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is the exact definition of insanity. And I'm pretty sure Laim17 is not a psychopath. Giving up saved me from commiting suicide, and I'm sure that's the case for many male human beings as well.
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Yeah fear sucks :
:I find it hard to see women as "people" though, I'm working on that though - I do realize that they're just people but my subconscious still sees them as more - something extremely precious, too good for me
Yeah fear sucks :
It does, indeed.